Meenu ki sachchai 🙊 - Page 10

Originally posted by: peacenfun

and thats what abir did, he missed a dad's love so he made sure that kunal doesnt suffer the same pain and he became a father figure to him

Did he though? They have always shown kunal running after bhai.. bhai even disowned Nanko hours within he found out his birth truth

Yes, Abir did fill the void of a father in Kunal’s life.

Abir was disappointed in his own parvarish after learning that Nanko was capable of going to an extent of spiking someone’s drink - which is ethnically and morally wrong!
What he said to him then was that “Tu Mera nanko ho hi nahin sakta” - what he meant was that the Kunal he knew and whatever he had taught him so far could never do something like this - How does that relate to Abir disowning him or stopped being his father-figure?

Even real parents say things like this in the heat of the moment when children disappoint them to an extent which compels them to doubt their own upbringing. Maybe not the most ideal, but it certainly doesn’t mean they have stopped being a parent or are disowning their child!

Parents can’t always keep handling their children with kid gloves, at times they have to be strict to get their point across and they also have the right to express their disappointment, at least sometimes!

If we want to find faults, we can find it with almost anything.

Originally posted by: aquaHP

Hi @shethought!

This thread has made me realise how bad I am at explaining my POV. I am gonna go work on my writing skills🙈🙊. For any further clarification, read the post by Diya on pg10. She has elaborated my feelings on Abir to near perfection.

Aqua,
If it helps, I was strictly only addressing the points you had made in your reply to @DiscoDhokla (how I love the name! 😂) and was not referring to any other posts.

I am yet to go through all the wonderful discussions in this thread.
Great topic Btw 👍🏼 and you can call me Pali 🤗

Originally posted by: aquaHP

*Alert* If you haven't seen the latest episode, you should probably turn back because I am going to be talking about the precap here. *Alert*

For the first time in a long time, I feel like I could relate with Meenakshi and her pain. I know we weren't really shown much in the precap but however much we were shown, it was enough to make me sympathize with BB or should I call her Benba now?

There was probably no worse way that the truth could have come out, with the whole world present: The RVS, the Maheshwaris and the media.

I understand Abir's POV of trying to take the 'Parul-Kunal truth' blackmail card away from BB in one move but it was so cruel. That women who did everything in her power to put her past behind her, to hide the truth of being deceived by the man she loved but who is still so stuck in the past that her every move is geared towards stopping her son from falling down the same rabbit hole. The reality that made her doubt and hate romantic love is not going to realise that what she has done till now is wrong on one swoop. Abir just made her much more dangerous and motivated than she had ever been.

I never thought I could feel bad for Meenakshi but I guess I underestimated the writers here. The women had made the compromise to see her "sautan" day in and day out and to raise her son as her own so that she would never have to be surprised when the truth came out. She had tried to control the source so that she would never have to go through the hurt and pain that she had when she found out Mehul's truth; the truth that changed her whole life; the truth that changed her. Poor Meenakshi!

I really wish Abir could see Meenakshi's pain too the way he sees Parul's. He could have made this easier for her, after all she's his mom.

Side note: I am excited for the upcoming episode only and only because I know this scene is going to be phenomenal. We are probably going to get to see the old and present Meenakshi and I know that Rupal ji will portray Meenakshi amazingly well! Oh! I hope I am not wrong about the old and present analogy!

Thank God I did...

Frankly even I felt .....it should have been namesake's choice who gets to do ribbon cutting....the way abir and Mish went about it was wrong...intention galat ni tha.. execution tha..

Namesake se puchte to vo idk Haan Karti ke ni ...logo ko bataane ke or b tareeke the...

Frankly I was hoping ki Kunal kahega ye ribbon cutting MERI dono maayei karengi.....idk...

Aise me mama - mami BHI bol sakte koi Hume puchta nai😆 which is another topic for another time

Originally posted by: SheThought

Aqua,
If it helps, I was strictly only addressing the points you had made in your reply to @DiscoDhokla (how I love the name! 😂) and was not referring to any other posts.

I am yet to go through all the wonderful discussions in this thread.
Great topic Btw 👍🏼 and you can call me Pali 🤗

Hi Pali!!

I love the name too!! It's so funky!

I am so sorry I didn't reply to your post at the time. I was just too tired of trying to explain the same stance over and over again ki I snapped at that point. And it's so not your fault. I think when you finally go through the thread, you'll see my exhaustion come out in some of my replies (Sorry Vaishu!🙆🏻‍♀️).

I'm gonna go reply to the post right away!

Originally posted by: aquaHP

Hi Pali!!

I love the name too!! It's so funky!

I am so sorry I didn't reply to your post at the time. I was just too tired of trying to explain the same stance over and over again ki I snapped at that point. And it's so not your fault. I think when you finally go through the thread, you'll see my exhaustion come out in some of my replies (Sorry Vaishu!🙆🏻‍♀️).

I'm gonna go reply to the post right away!

🤣it was my mistake Yaar, stop saying sorry, actually I am tired of reading post on mishbir being blamed for everything that's why my post comes out very biased, Mujhe kuch Karna nahi padta ,instinct hai 😉🤣

Sorry again

And I just realized I forgot to reply your pm, I will for sure do it tomorrow 👍🏼

Originally posted by: SheThought

Abir and lately Mishti have been wishing for a while for Kunal to accept Parul wholeheartedly - that is what they mean by doing the right thing. The episode title was such because Kunal acknowledged Parul as his mother, thus their wish got fulfilled. But they may not necessarily had wished for Kunal to do it particularly on the anniversary day and up to such an extent. How far to go with the acceptance was entirely up to Kunal - Abir just advised him to do what is righ, but Kunal instinctively went all out, which leaves the onus squarely on Kunal.

I don’t think Mishti and Abir planned for Kunal to do the “right thing” on anniversary and hence they bought a sari for Parul in advance to save him from embarrassment — this is actually how Kuhu’s thought process works and In all possibilities this is how she going to perceive this whole situation.

Abir loves his Nanko and to A&M Parul is his mother, so they wanted the mom to feel proud and take part in her son’s success celebration in the best possible manner. Hence they gifted her a sari.
Think of it from Parul’s point of view, wouldn’t she be the happiest with her son’s achievement? A new sari must not have only made her feel special, but also must have boosted her confidence to stand amongst the guests as their equal. Isn’t that what nice clothes do to us too?

Definitely not a calculated move.

From Parul's POV, she is definitely very happy but I feel the saree scene was connected with the scene where the camera team encounters Parul for the first time. They assume her to be the servant because of her appearance. That is the reason why Mishti and Abir decide to gift a saree to Parul. I do believe what you're saying also works it's way in with the way they would have presented Parul that saree but the idea for the gift originated due to that scene.

What I have realised over the few months of analysing this show is that each and every scene has a reason. Only the funny moments and the super romantic couple scenes are the ones that are inserted for the audience's pleasure but all other scenes are there to help the story move forward.

I don't know if I would call it calculative or not but Abir and Mishti are working to remove all the obstacles in the path. They were not sure if the whole thing was going to work or not but I can't believe for one second that everything that they're doing is just falling in to place.

Wow! I got confused while writing this last line. What I am trying to say is that the only thing that was not in their hand was Kunal's move. They were hoping and anticipating to see if Kunal would let his mother cut the ribbon or not. Abir even went to reinforce that thought during his conversation with Kunal right before the event started.

So, basically I am saying that in simple words, it can be called a plan but not like Meenu's plan. This one had heart and sweetness behind it. Abir definitely knew what he was doing (not so sure about Mishti), and as I've mentioned one or two times in this thread, I hated every bit of it. They had no right to meddle in this matter because Kunal was promised all the time in the world to process his feelings regarding the birth truth. I mean, it's not even been one month in the story's timeline since he found out. Abir had a 3 month headstart over Kunal and I feel it was unfair of him to try and speed things up when Kunal wasn't ready.

Originally posted by: meen123

hey thread Ka title I was avoiding....but then gave in

Thank God I did...

Frankly even I felt .....it should have been namesake's choice who gets to do ribbon cutting....the way abir and Mish went about it was wrong...intention galat ni tha.. execution tha..

Namesake se puchte to vo idk Haan Karti ke ni ...logo ko bataane ke or b tareeke the...

Frankly I was hoping ki Kunal kahega ye ribbon cutting MERI dono maayei karengi.....idk...

Aise me mama - mami BHI bol sakte koi Hume puchta nai😆 which is another topic for another time

Hey Meen!! I am glad you gave in and liked what you read!

@underline - Exactly!!

@Bold - I was kind of hoping for that too but as isolophilliac said and I have to agree, that wouldn't have made much of a difference because things would still remain the same. Meenu would react in the same way because she never wanted Parul and her to be on the same level. She made sure of that when she took her in but all of that effort went down the drain with this one event.

I think the namesake (I am assuming that you are talking about Parul here) would have discussed this with BB because this deal was between them. When Kunal wanted Parul to cut the ribbon, she only looked at BB as if asking her permission because she gave up all her rights when she decided to let BB raise Kunal.

Originally posted by: SheThought

Yes, Abir did fill the void of a father in Kunal’s life.

Abir was disappointed in his own parvarish after learning that Nanko was capable of going to an extent of spiking someone’s drink - which is ethnically and morally wrong!
What he said to him then was that “Tu Mera nanko ho hi nahin sakta” - what he meant was that the Kunal he knew and whatever he had taught him so far could never do something like this - How does that relate to Abir disowning him or stopped being his father-figure?

Even real parents say things like this in the heat of the moment when children disappoint them to an extent which compels them to doubt their own upbringing. Maybe not the most ideal, but it certainly doesn’t mean they have stopped being a parent or are disowning their child!

Parents can’t always keep handling their children with kid gloves, at times they have to be strict to get their point across and they also have the right to express their disappointment, at least sometimes!

If we want to find faults, we can find it with almost anything.

This topic has already been discussed in too much detail. If you wish to read and share your perspective, here is the link: https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/yeh-rishtey-hai-pyaar-ke/5143094/too-mera-nanko-nahi-ho-sakta

This thread is the reason why I see Meenu so differently now. This will probably challenge your POV because that's what it did to me.

@aqua: thanks for sharing the link❤️

it gives new perspective to many things👍🏼