Rhea-Shaheer|MishBir|AT: 75| DT Note Pg 120 - Page 119

Originally posted by: Mimzy

Interesting post about Abir Uru.....

@Bold - Abir found stability because for the first time he found someone who could relate to his pain, his quest to search for answers, because the other person was also searching for answers.

If you remember the first scene they met, it was Mishti's dialogue that connected him to her instantly.

@bold2 - This I agree completely. It was not that Abir was not ready to get married. Its just he needed someone whom he could connect to. In that Abir and Kunal are poles apart. Kunal would have married anyone and would have fallen in love eventually. But for Abir marrying anyone wouldn't have worked out for him. Hence, he could relate to Mishti's courtship dilemma because he also wanted the same thing.

Bold - yes yes I completely agree ... mishti was the only with whom he shared his emotional feelings...because both of them were going through the same pain...somewhere a connect was there and it was the starting point where he started getting emotionally stable .... he also didn't realise when he became so comfortable with her But I was saying that when he actually found all this answers ....that was the day jab uski life mein real sense mein "thehraav" aaya...and mishti plays a very important role there for sure

Yes correct...abir was waiting for someone ...someone he can connect with in real sense ...

Kunal ka ...well agar shwet picture mein nahi hoti toh I would believe that he would have married anyone ...I guess after a bitter experience with shwet he realised that okay I will go with my family's judgement now...I see it that way ...

Originally posted by: Npdeepa

Aisa nahi hai yaar...

see there is a tiny line between trust and believe. Believe is just a thought which could change due to circumtances like Mishti didn't tell about the baba truth when she met him on the night of their GD thinking that atleast now Abir is reconcile with his mother being lost his father already. Likewise, being a foster child, when abir understood her when she said i can't lose my family and my BFF nannu...he decided not to tell her about Nish and that is why he didn't make a deal of nish not saving him from the accident because Mishti was present there. And he know she will be broken into pieces.

where trust is complete faith which doesn't change what may come...MishBir trust each other.... However, they need to alter their belief about hiding things from eachother will actually save them from pain but they should understand it will eventually hurt them badly...no separation will happen atleast for another 6 months...but all this will lead to a MisBir living seperately but mostly in Mah's house...

Haa I agree Moni they dont want to hurt each other n believe that stops them from saying truth.. they come into this protective mode and do this... but hasnt that lead them to enough trouble... why they can trust other people enough to share it but their own love for each other is stopping them from sharing this with each other... thats why i dont like this protective instinct they have....

they should atleast inform each other of basic details... coming to think of necklace its atleast good mish said she is worried about necklace.. remember mish said during baba track to abir that i cant share things with you now dont ask... that is ok bcoz abir atleast knew she was troubled now they need to move a step ahead.. before they were lovers now they are married n life starts mainly after shaadi only...

Originally posted by: LetThereBeLight

Wow wow Uru amazing post yaar 👏👏

you just explained abirs issue n also his reason for not thinking of shaadi very welll.... he even said in starting that shaadi is not a solution for all problem but he wants to bring kunal out of this robotic mode n make him enjoy life... then naanu suggested that what if a girl can make this happen n wanted kunal to give it a chance... thats how abir too agreed to this idea n after seeing kuhu n her personality he immediately guessed she is the one who can bring color to his life...

coming to abirs abundance issue actually i wanted to make a post n discuss on this but then you gave a perfect start... Did you feel the convo between mishbir after shaadi when he asked promise to mish a little more deep than it actually was shown... read some tweets too on this n after watching it sometimes i totally get it... Abir was surrounded by people who lied to him, betrayed him and his dialogue to naanu should i get happy it was not maa but brother who betrayed me this time, whenever one is ready to hold my hand the other is ready to pull me back down... he is hurt with mishti hiding things n managing things on own not only for himself but for her safety he wants mish to share things with him... he is finally fed up of all this, not mish hiding but others using it against them... he is scared of meenu or anyone using even a small truth against them... the breakup has made a big impact on him... he has overcome his abundance issue but is now scared to trust anyone, he is living with the fear of who wil use what truth to create problem.. mish have fear of people leaving her, now abir have fear of betray n trust issue.. he even said about nannu whomever me or mish trust why is it always they betray our trust first baba now nannu...

Bold - woah woah you gave me a new food for thought....I was only thinking from mishbir's perspective as a couple here that now abir dosent want any misunderstandings between them and that's why he wants mishti to share everything with him ...but this is actually very deep.....haan I do believe all these bitter incidents and experiences forced him to take that promise from mishti....totally agree

Originally posted by: ruhi19

B: 100% agreed...

life partners part to share and care...

but in mishbir prevention is also because of their parents... a child grows seeing their parents only and we know how are our mishbir parents so in their case they took prevention first seat and share and care at 2nd point...

Ruhi.....You maybe right, maybe its their parental issues which is making them do that. They never got the protective cocoon parents provide. Instead they were betrayed by their parents the most. So they try to compensate for that by filling the gaps in each other's lives.

Originally posted by: Mimzy

Ruhi.....You maybe right, maybe its their parental issues which is making them do that. They never got the protective cocoon parents provide. Instead they were betrayed by their parents the most. So they try to compensate for that by filling the gaps in each other's lives.

but i want them to hubby and wifey more...

Originally posted by: Cool_wonder

Hi all😳

Originally posted by: Onyourface

Bold - yes yes I completely agree ... mishti was the only with whom he shared his emotional feelings...because both of them were going through the same pain...somewhere a connect was there and it was the starting point where he started getting emotionally stable .... he also didn't realise when he became so comfortable with her But I was saying that when he actually found all this answers ....that was the day jab uski life mein real sense mein "thehraav" aaya...and mishti plays a very important role there for sure

Yes correct...abir was waiting for someone ...someone he can connect with in real sense ...

Kunal ka ...well agar shwet picture mein nahi hoti toh I would believe that he would have married anyone ...I guess after a bitter experience with shwet he realised that okay I will go with my family's judgement now...I see it that way ...

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Kunal and Shwet equation is mystery for me the way Kunal is behaving😆He doesn't know if he is in love with Kuhu when he had been in love with Shwet before

She was most likely the one to propose him and he fell in love or his version of love. Likewise he would have fallen in his version of love with anyone who came into his life. Because his version of love is being responsible for the other person.

Originally posted by: Mimzy

That's the thing diyaaa.....if parul massi and kunal hadn't told him its her haq .....he wouldn't have told her and she wouldn't have come back to him easily.......

Their breakup was the most contrived drama in the show.I hated that track. I read many comments in twitter claiming she should apologize for lying ,she is responsible for the breakup, if she had communicated it wouldn't have happened etc etc. But its all just our assumptions on what would have happened. Ultimately Abir took the decision himself. But he learnt from his mistake and he includes her in decisions pertaining to each other. But he still doesn't share what needs to be shared.

Mishti's secreacy is more contrived drama ..for example she tries to share everything with Abir the moment she gets to know the truth, but her luck is bad......baba picks up the phone, likewise after that Meenu intercepts her and after that Kunal. But when things settle, her desire to share the truth takes a back seat and she doesn't want to take any credit,which is her main problem.

Even Abir also during Kuku marriage and Nishant track, he was shown wanting to share the truth. Exactly like Mishti when things settle his desire to share the truth become null and his need to protect takes over.

The thing is I dnt mind them not sharing things with anyone else....but they should with each other, even the small things...because they are supposed to be best friends and life partners.

Here Abir is mildly comfortable to share with Parul massi , Kunal and Naanu whoever is available. Mishti is shown to share somethings with BM. But my question is why them?? Why not with each other??

Their families are weirdly depicted. The Maheshwari's brush everything inder the carpet. You know Kuhu's dialogue preleap completely defines them.....A daughter will have freedom as long as it doesn't go against their family's welfare. Mishti and Kuhu are best examples regarding that. They like to pretend everything is perfect but it is not so. They fail to support their children when they need them the most and try to do so only when everything falls apart or their kids fall apart.

RJV's problems are mostly because they are not perceptive of what each of their family members need and wherein lies their true happiness. But when they realize they actually support each other.

@bold - Exactly Diyaa......their love and trust on each other and Abir's understanding of Mishti or more likely Meenu😆is holding them together. If they didn't have it they would have fell apart without any communication......as u said u need a balance. You can't take yout love and trust for granted which they did before. You need to work to make your relationship work.

totally agreed mini... 👍🏼

actually i expected mish to apologize before but not after break up when meenu actively used it against her... if it would not have happen surely mish asking sorry for hiding would make sense but not now... she was used by meenu she just needs to learn to not trust meenu...

@bold - exactly this mini.... i still dont understand why they are not learning from past mistake... someone has to make them understand this, like how parul maasi did, compared to mah house they didnt made mish understand abir should know truth or guided her properly.. in rjv nothing is hidden at one point everything comes out in open and they get proper guidance n improve themselves kunal is the best example of it.... so with mish here, n abir finally changing in improving we can expect things to change, dynamics to change...

and main problem n difference is Abir has people who can reprimand him for his mistake from mishti to rjv to everyone but for mish no one ever said what she did is wrong infact everyone encourages her thats where problem lies... they need to correct her even if her intentions are right... she defintely needs proper guidance...

@italic - totally agreed mini... there is still long way to go for them...

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