Kuhu and Mishti

The main problem with Kuhu is that she doesn’t realize how lucky she is. She is so insecure, so jealous and so petty, that she fails to realize all the good things in her life. She acts like a victim even though she has been born with a golden spoon and raised lovingly with all the comforts and luxuries a girl could have. People are saying that we should feel bad because Kuhu is illegitimate. So her insecurity stems from the fact that she is illegitimate daughter of the Maheshwari family even though the same family has accepted her and raised her instead of shunning her. Varsha loved her as much as her own biological daughter Ananya even though she would have every right to reject Kuhu or be resentful. But she doesn’t realize how lucky she is to beloved so much by Varsha. She has a huge family where she is treated like aprincess, she is showered by attention and affection by everyone and she literally has no problems in her life. And because of that, she creates her own problems because Kuhu is simply a spoiled brat who wants everyone to give her attention. No matter what.

This can be seen in her relationship with Kunal too. Kuhu fell or more likely was smitten with Kunal because of his sports car. She and Kunal hadn’t and even now don’t reallyknow each or understand each other to actually be in love because both have self imposed barriers in their relationship to go past. And the first step isto grow up and focus on yourself than others. Kuhu’s obsession with Mishti is unhealthy which is destroying herself because all she does is compare herself and her life with Mishti’s. When Kuhu reconciled with Kunal, more than her relationship she was concerned with Mishti being in limelight and how to steal from her. She is constantly competing with Mishti to be the perfect daughter, sister, daughter-in –law and wife and this will surely be her downfall. Actually I quite like this because it is somewhat realistic but I hope that the makers are able to execute it properly. Meaning I want to see how Kuhu falls because of her fixation with Mishti and realizes what she is doing is very wrong for herself and her life.

The Maheshwari family doesn’t make it easy too, the way they forced both Kuhu and Mishti together and expected them to be idealized sisters.I feel as the makers of this show are subverting the normal expectations of a family oriented show. In a typical Indian show, with two sisters there is always one negative and one positive one. Like Swaragini, Uttaran etc and they show how the sisters battle and then become friends later. However in this show,both sisters are grey shaded, yes even Mishti though she is more positive andare more equal. Meaning they can give equal ki takkar to each other.

I don’t mean to make Kuhu all negative, she has her positive sides too where she absolutely shines being the most lovable, energetic person compared to Mishti’s melancholy, understated persona. But her intense hatred f r Mishti ruins her positivity. I actually love Mishti’s character because she makes mistakes and owns them. Mishti is not a damsel in distress and I love her honesty, she mostly knows what is right and what she wants. Her major flaws do tend to overshadow her mistakes though. Mishti is essentially an orphan even with both parents alive because they left her and the Singhania family also abandoned her even for supposedly good reason. She is also a perfectionist so she tries to be the perfect daughter, hence competing with Kuhu. What she fails to realize is that she will always be an outsider to the Maheshwari family nomatter what she does or sacrifices because her every mistake will be highlighted and paraded around by Jasmeet. She will always have the tag of being from a broken family no matter what because that is the truth of her life.She is an Agarwal, not a Maheshwari, not a Singhania and now only a Rajvansh.No matter how much she wishes, she can’t change that fact. Kuhu’s and Nishant’s mistakes can always be forgiven but not Mishti’s and she needs to realize that she can’t keep comparing herself to them. Being perfect does not help her.

That’s why I was okay with shared her mandap with Kuhu because refusing would only make her look worse, something I think she realized. But Mishti does not have to follow the same rules in the Rajvansh house because that is her own house connected with her husband. I have seen that Indian women are sometimes more free after getting married because they have more authority and power due to husband’s position. Abir is the eldest son in the Rajvansh household and Meenakshi’s biological son (things that matter a lot!). My major concern is that Abir doesn’t realize his position or doesn’t care about it. I agree that Abir feels out of place in his family and wants to escape it sometimes, but his situation is NOT comparable to Mishti’s for he will always be loved by his family and has been forgiven and indulged. He is confident because he can be free, of course leaving Meenakshi’s mechanisms aside. Kunal I expect or hope will deal with the fact that Meenakshi is not his biological mom and the Rajvanshs are not connected to him through blood and this will impact Kuhu too of course. I think it will cause a crack between the brothers and of course Kuhu and Misthi will play around their own drama.

My final cents: Both Kuhu and Mishti are flawed but it is Kuhu the one who is jealous and insecure and negative. Mishti has done things to hurt Kuhu but they mostly done advertently. Also Mishti always wants Kuhu to be happy with Kunal while the same can’t be said for Kuhu. Kuhu and Mishti’s war will impact the brothers and the family but I do give more blame to Kuhu because she is the one who instigated the war.

Amazing post thank you for making this post🤗

Firstly, Kuhu is the illegitimate child of Shaurya Maheshwari and born to Sneha, her mother and not with a golden spoon at all in her mouth. She was brought to the Singhania sadan by Naitik after her mother pleaded to take her to her father who was not even ready to accept her .

Secondly, things never came at first hand to her .. after a lot of struggle had varsha accepted her also during the time she was in Singhania sadan it was Mishti only who had gotten jealous of her and had destroyed some of her memories .. just because Mishti thought that Kuhu was taking her place/ snatching her things which right now Kuhu is doing

Thirdly, we do not even know what would have happened to her in the course of time when she was growing up .. specially after Mishti's arrival because somewhere Maheshwaris had two daughters now and we all know how they forgot her birthday and had to share her doll and all

Now not that I am saying that Kuhu is all goody but at the same time I don't think her personality is totally bad . Kuhu at the same time has also accepted that she is not as strong as Mishti and she can never be and she said clearly that Mishti is stonger. True, it was her stupidity that Kunal was able to trick her but she had paid for it too .. so let just the time decide what she will pay for this but she is not a black character altogether .. she just fears of loosing everything that she has once again in her life which was somewhere the responsibility of the elders that she does not but they failed

Originally posted by: Tani16

The main problem with Kuhu is that she doesn’t realize how lucky she is.

This can be seen in her relationship with Kunal too. Kuhu fell or more likely was smitten with Kunal because of his sports car. She and Kunal hadn’t and even now don’t reallyknow each or understand each other to actually be in love because both have self imposed barriers in their relationship to go past. And the first step isto grow up and focus on yourself than others. Kuhu’s obsession with Mishti is unhealthy which is destroying herself because all she does is compare herself and her life with Mishti’s. When Kuhu reconciled with Kunal, more than her relationship she was concerned with Mishti being in limelight and how to steal from her. She is constantly competing with Mishti to be the perfect daughter, sister, daughter-in –law and wife and this will surely be her downfall. Actually I quite like this because it is somewhat realistic but I hope that the makers are able to execute it properly. Meaning I want to see how Kuhu falls because of her fixation with Mishti and realizes what she is doing is very wrong for herself and her life.

I don’t mean to make Kuhu all negative, she has her positive sides too where she absolutely shines being the most lovable, energetic person compared to Mishti’s melancholy, understated persona. But her intense hatred f r Mishti ruins her positivity.
I actually love Mishti’s character because she makes mistakes and owns them. Mishti is not a damsel in distress and I love her honesty, she mostly knows what is right and what she wants.

She is also a perfectionist so she tries to be the perfect daughter, hence competing with Kuhu. What she fails to realize is that she will always be an outsider to the Maheshwari family nomatter what she does or sacrifices because her every mistake will be highlighted and paraded around by Jasmeet. She will always have the tag of being from a broken family no matter what because that is the truth of her life.She is an Agarwal, not a Maheshwari, not a Singhania and now only a Rajvansh.No matter how much she wishes, she can’t change that fact. Kuhu’s and Nishant’s mistakes can always be forgiven but not Mishti’s and she needs to realize that she can’t keep comparing herself to them. Being perfect does not help her.

But Mishti does not have to follow the same rules in the Rajvansh house because that is her own house connected with her husband. Abir is the eldest son in the Rajvansh household and Meenakshi’s biological son (things that matter a lot!).
Kunal I expect or hope will deal with the fact that Meenakshi is not his biological mom and the Rajvanshs are not connected to him through blood and this will impact Kuhu too of course. I think it will cause a crack between the brothers and of course Kuhu and Misthi will play around their own drama.

My final cents: Both Kuhu and Mishti are flawed but it is Kuhu the one who is jealous and insecure and negative. Mishti has done things to hurt Kuhu but they mostly done advertently. Also Mishti always wants Kuhu to be happy with Kunal while the same can’t be said for Kuhu. Kuhu and Mishti’s war will impact the brothers and the family but I do give more blame to Kuhu because she is the one who instigated the war.

Enjoyed reading your post 👍🏼

Even if Kuhu was not born with a golden spoon like the other member has stated (I haven’t seen the parent show to know for sure), she still got plenty of love from childhood and a dedicated set of parents that dot on her. But she doesn’t value what she has, and instead focuses on what she doesn’t have. She gets plenty of attention, but her issues come from wanting all of it, all the time. Until she fixes that, she is going to keep feeling unsatisfied and keep craving for the limelight.

Kuhu is not a bad person, not at all. She is in fact very loving, Bubbly and cheerful person and inherently good at heart. She is helpful and nice to everyone... except when it comes to Mishti and Abir. She is nasty to both - with Mishti openly and with Abir behind his back. Mishti at least knows how Kuhu feels about her, Abir has no idea what all Kuhu has done to compromise his happiness.

Yeah as for Kunal, I agree. Kuhu basically fell in love with the sports car more than anything and she and Kunal haven’t spent any time getting to know each other. I wonder if the writers are going to ever give them a track where they get to know each other and not directly jump to celebrate their wedding night.

Mishti is flawed too and has her fair share of insecurities and abandonment issues too. It’s just that Mishti doesn’t knowingly harm Kuhu or her happiness but same can’t be said for Kuhu. Mishti also had more abusive childhood than Kuhu since Jasmeet was there to constantly taunt her and Kuhu to bully her and together they both never failed to remind Mishti that she is an outsider. I guess her circumstances made her stronger, she is definitely not a damsel in distress. But I agree she needs to stop trying to be accepted - she is never going to get the same status as Kuhu or Nannu in that house.
Finally Mishti has her own family and her own house through her husband that she can claim as her own.

In fact, when the two sisters finally married into the same household, I really wanted writers to explore the reverse dynamics of the sisters now - Mishti in Kuhu’s shoes and Kuhu in Mishti’s. Kuhu is married into a house where her husband is not really the family’s son - so Kuhu gets to be the outsider now. And Mishti now lawfully belongs to the RV house but doesn’t get accepted by Meenu so she has to work extra hard to earn the respect/limelight in the family. So slowly they both get an idea about each other’s situation and issues and they work on fixing/healing each other...

But alas aisa huva nahin...
Writers took this saas-bahu-saazish route where they want to cause drama through Kuhu but also desperately trying to keep her image clean and failing miserably. Kuhu takes the pill out, carries it around with the intension of using it against Mishti, but because it falls accidentally we have to give her a clean chit! Such lazy writing... sigh!

Originally posted by: SheThought

Enjoyed reading your post 👍🏼

Even if Kuhu was not born with a golden spoon like the other member has stated (I haven’t seen the parent show to know for sure), she still got plenty of love from childhood and a dedicated set of parents that dot on her. But she doesn’t value what she has, and instead focuses on what she doesn’t have. She gets plenty of attention, but her issues come from wanting all of it, all the time. Until she fixes that, she is going to keep feeling unsatisfied and keep craving for the limelight.

Kuhu is not a bad person, not at all. She is in fact very loving, Bubbly and cheerful person and inherently good at heart. She is helpful and nice to everyone... except when it comes to Mishti and Abir. She is nasty to both - with Mishti openly and with Abir behind his back. Mishti at least knows how Kuhu feels about her, Abir has no idea what all Kuhu has done to compromise his happiness.

Yeah as for Kunal, I agree. Kuhu basically fell in love with the sports car more than anything and she and Kunal haven’t spent any time getting to know each other. I wonder if the writers are going to ever give them a track where they get to know each other and not directly jump to celebrate their wedding night.

Mishti is flawed too and has her fair share of insecurities and abandonment issues too. It’s just that Mishti doesn’t knowingly harm Kuhu or her happiness but same can’t be said for Kuhu. Mishti also had more abusive childhood than Kuhu since Jasmeet was there to constantly taunt her and Kuhu to bully her and together they both never failed to remind Mishti that she is an outsider. I guess her circumstances made her stronger, she is definitely not a damsel in distress. But I agree she needs to stop trying to be accepted - she is never going to get the same status as Kuhu or Nannu in that house.
Finally Mishti has her own family and her own house through her husband that she can claim as her own.

In fact, when the two sisters finally married into the same household, I really wanted writers to explore the reverse dynamics of the sisters now - Mishti in Kuhu’s shoes and Kuhu in Mishti’s. Kuhu is married into a house where her husband is not really the family’s son - so Kuhu gets to be the outsider now. And Mishti now lawfully belongs to the RV house but doesn’t get accepted by Meenu so she has to work extra hard to earn the respect/limelight in the family. So slowly they both get an idea about each other’s situation and issues and they work on fixing/healing each other...

But alas aisa huva nahin...
Writers took this saas-bahu-saazish route where they want to cause drama through Kuhu but also desperately trying to keep her image clean and failing miserably. Kuhu takes the pill out, carries it around with the intension of using it against Mishti, but because it falls accidentally we have to give her a clean chit! Such lazy writing... sigh!

Hey @SheThought!!

I had come to this post deciding to read all the replies and leave because there's been too much Mishti vs Kuhu going on. But you've written your POV so properly, nicely and peacefully that I felt I could express mine too regarding the recent track without being bashed for it. Thank you!😊

I hadn't seen the parent show either. I recently saw clips of it on Instagram recently where Mishti shouts at Kuhu for coming to her house and using her things. Young Mishti becomes very upset about little Kuhu using her bag and throws out all of her stuff and tears up a drawing not knowing that the drawing was made behind her mother's photograph. I saw that and it hit me that it's a complete role reversal in this show.

I had seen parts of the parent show where Kuhu used to call Mishti 'Didu' (I think I've mentioned this in some other post as well) and that's what had been bugging me at the beginning of the show. I couldn't understand what happened between the two that they went from being almost bffs to faking being friends. Weirdly, that's what hooked me to the show too. Since the start, we had been shown that the two had insecurities: Mishti feared losing her new found family because she was an "outsider" (that narrative was probably fed to her by Jasmeet over the years) and Kuhu feared being forgotten because Mishti was given more importance over Kuhu when she entered Maheshwari house, and rightly so as she had to adjust and cope with a lot at that point in time.

What we were not told was how it went so wrong because from the clips I have seen, I would assume Kuhu to be more sympathetic as she has experienced a similar situation when she was small. Losing the only family she had known till she was 6 and then trying to make a place for herself in a completely new family and a completely different country.

I had been hoping to see a backstory of their relationship since I started watching the show but it was never shown until recently. The fight in their room before the weddings, the voiceover flashback where we find out that BM had earlier given a second doll to Mishti because she was sad. That, I think, was one major point which they give us in the backstory. Meenu tells her that ideally, Kuhu should get that haar because Mishti had already gotten one like BM had told her that the doll should have been given to Kuhu because Mishti had already gotten one before. But then Kuhu doesn't get either because Mishti's sadness during childhood/sour relationship with Meenu took priority and Kuhu was stripped of her share of things where as Mishti got both her share as well as Kuhu's. I feel we are going to get more flashbacks or clues to the origin of the insecurities.

I think that's what this present track is about - exploring their relationship and getting to the other side. I get that everyone has been angry that Kuhu is getting more screen space but if you see it from the story perspective, the insecurities and the problems of MishKu's relationship can only be told from her side. I say this because of the scene we got before the MishBir and KuKu wedding where Mishti tells Kuhu that she fights with her because Kuhu has always been rude to her. Mishti herself doesn't know the reason for this hatred so how can the story of this equation be told from her perspective?

As you said above, Kuhu is not a bad person. She is not a goody two shoes either. She has been a grey character and will remain so until her insecurities are dealt with. That is her character arc. She tries hard to keep her insecurities from taking over but in the end, she mostly loses that battle. So, this is the reason I disagree with the clean chit thing.

We can't see Kuhu's character in black and white because that's not how it's been written. In my perspective, imagine her to be on scale. On one end, it's pitch black and on the other is white (which diverges into a 🌈. I am science need🙈). Right now, she is somewhere in the middle but tilting towards the darker side. The story arc for Kuhu's character will be complete when she finally fights her demons to emerge as the rainbow she has been mentioned to be. I'm assuming Kunal will have a major role to play with all the symbolism and foreshadowing we've been seeing recently.

Coming to Kuhu falling in love with Kunal, she didn't fall in love with him in Kutch. It was over a period of time but we weren't shown the usual tell-tale signs, so I get why most people assume it's materialistic. I used to think so too until I actually finished watching all the starting episodes (I had seen bits and pieces and had moved on to see the show from the Ganesh chaturthi track. After the slap sequence and the KuKu hug, I had went back and seen all the episodes to get the backstory).

She had found Kunal to be cool when she saw him in a sportscar but she let her hopes rise and let it become a crush when she found out ki Kunal ka rishta aaya tha uske liye. She was crushed when that didn't pan out but I think it wasn't because she got rejected but because she got rejected and Mishti was selected instead. Again, the insecurities come in here. Moving on, she fell in love with him because Kunal admired her and gave importance to her opinion and what she thought. He would ask her opinion whenever he wanted to understand Mishti's POV on the marital courtship. We were not shown either of them falling in love Bollywood style or ITV style. The makers left it on us to pick up the signs.

I don't know if I was able to explain the love story thing at all. This post does a better job of analysing their story from Kunal's side. I had read one from Kuhu's perspective too. I can't remember where though. I'll share it later if I find it. :)

Kunal's perspective: https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/post/152366523