i am very sensitive of child abuse topic - Page 2

Originally posted by: rockingcouple12

True ,this is very sensitive issue and here we cannot say babita was wrong.Society is still like that only.parents hardly confront the person and if he is relative then confronting never happens.

In my case I was so terrified, actually not terrified also I was not able to understand why my neighbour uncle touching awkwardly.It happened almost more than 40 years before ,I.use to stay at my neighbours place and play with their son while my parents use to go out for shopping or buying some things.My neighbours were very close to us and they called my parents bhaiyya and bhabhi.that uncle three times made me sit on his lap and touched very awarkardly in front of his ssmall son and teasing him that see I like her more and his son was like No and get all angry. But later I came to know that teasing and all just a bahana to make me sit on his lap and use to ask me if you feel something, I was too young and naive so use to say No nothing happend to him.

At that time even I dint heard the word Molesting also.and I was 7 yrs old

But not once when he did same thing thice at different days ,I started feeling that why he is doing like this and stopped going to there house but I dint informed my parents because I was too scared to tell them.Then one day he kissed me on my cheeks that was really uncomfortable and the same day I informed my parents but my parents dint confront them but instead stopped sending me to their house completely and even they stopped talking to him.

My parents are very good parents and they loved me very much always given me the best things but only thing is in those days there was not much friendly relationship between parents and children.but now time changed but in such type of issues society also needs to change.

I am sharing my story only to say that parents confronting the culprit is hardly done in olden times but even now in our society people think twice before exposing the culprit because somewhere there is a fear in heart of parents that Girl name will be spoiled in this and even people start seeing her as culprit.

But luckily I have two daughters and from the age of 4 ,j taught them good and bad touch and I made myself so comfortable with them that they dont get scared before sharing anything.😊

Your story is heartbreaking. Idk which is worse, you’re innocence being taken at such a young age or your parents not fighting for you. I understand it was a different world back then but it’s still sad. What’s more sad is that there are parents that’s still that way, who haven’t learned from THEIR parents being silent

When parents teach children to speak up and speak their mind, those children turn into parents that speak up and don’t keep quiet about things. You are an example of this and if more women teach their children what you taught your children, in a few generation time, these perverts will be so afraid to touch children because they know the child will tell the parent and they’ll be named and shamed and sent to prison.

I still remember this incident, though not bad but disgusting. I was in 2nd and, it was my birthday. Our school had taken us to the senior school for Republic day practice. When I returned, all classes were walking in a line. A bus chacha asked me if he could take my photo. But, I ran away. All my friends started laughing.

Another incident, where my tuition sir used to stare at me and make inappropriate comments like, why are you not wearing shorts, why you cover yourself all the time etc. He felt I had a very ‘good figure’, when I was in 8th. And once he tried to touch me inappropriately. Ever since,I maintained a distance and even told him please don’t touch me. But, I had to continue till 9th. I was scared of telling my parents, thinking what will they tell. I was always afraid. And after I left the tuition, I told my mom. She was shocked. He even tried to make an inappropriate comment against my mom. Unfortunately we could never do anything about it. And back then, we were all very innocent about such stuff. So, we didn’t know how to tell and whom to tell.

And once in the metro, a man touched my hip. And that was last year. I was about to slap that person. But, he said sorry. And I brushed it off, thinking it was an accident, though I still can’t figure out.

This happened not in India, but Dubai. Nowhere is it safe for children. Parents have to educate their children no matter what. I actually am shocked that I came out in open about this. But, girls please fight back and tell the concerned about it...🙏🏻🙏🏻

Originally posted by: deefy89

I’m so sorry about your experience 😭

You must be so proud of your parents that they did the right thing by you and didn’t worry what other people would think. You were the victim here so why should they worry. In him being put behind bars they also stopped it happening to other girls and both you and them saved other young girls from feeling the same emotional trauma. You should be extremely proud of yourself for speaking up and helping putting a monster behind bars.

Bold- they “accepted” you because there’s nothing to really accept. You were a child and couldn’t help that AN ADULT chose to do that to you. You were a child.

Your sisters story is actually so awful. This is what happens to victims because of the stupid women out there that gossip and blame victims. It makes them scared to come forward 😭😭

Just seeing how this storyline is making people share their experiences, it’s probably doing the same to people at home. Here in the uk since the 90s, they started to show real life situations/crimes as part of serial storylines. It helped so many ppl and still continues to help so many people speak up about their own situations that they’ve been too ashamed to speak up about. I applaud PB for showing this storyline

@bold- by accept I never meant I find myself wrong, the day I told my mom about it the first thing she told me was “Tu galat nahi hai” All I meant was luckily woh log aise khayal nahi rakhte ki ladki galat hai

Originally posted by: Hannie_Fan

I was 9, my mamu touched me in washroom. Unfortunately I couldn’t even save myself. Ghar pe koi tha hi nahi. I cried , cried a lot I did not know ye kya hota hai kya nahi. 2 days later I told my mom about it and thankfully my parents did not fear the society and that man was put behind the bars.... No matter what, The scars are still in me both emotionally and physically (at my back) . I was again lucky that my fiancé and in-laws even after knowing this accepted me.... My sister too was touched in wrong way when she was in 10th, but she did not tell anyone except me. When I asked her to she refused. I went and told her parents that but she committed suicide .

That’s really really awful. I really feel bad for both of you. Your sister deserved better. You know, in 10th we had a lesson in biology about reproduction. Sadly, it was a very big issue when the teacher started teaching us, since it was a boys and girls class mix.

More than anything, if we were taught about this, in our younger classes itself, it would never have been a big deal. And many girls would have had a better life. Unfortunately, our education system is totally poor....

And that’s the reason most of our country people are so cheap. That we feel ashamed of the so called ‘traditions’ of our country...

First thing kudos to Topic creator n people who shared their past with courage.

I don't know about s1 so really can't comment who was butchered.

But this story is clearly when mini was kid, just because it was not shown in s1 when mini was teen.

Various tv shows add things as n when track required.

Plus it explains nature of mini, n y non one spoke about in s1 .

I HV experience this from cousin bro when I was 6, when I hardly could understand any anatomy or understand it wat he is trying to do. I just knew it uncomfortable n I pushed n ran before he could do proceed. I was lucky that I never had to face it again. N only after I grew up I realized this is crime. Because no speaks to kid about such things.

Than once in bus as school students, 2-3 incident where people tried to manhandle.

This thing s remain in our memory as ugly scar which haunt you whenever you remember them accidentally

I know many girls have faced worse.

I think if we take survey all women must have faced this at least once in lifetime. N even male/ other gender ppl are not spared.

Originally posted by: SRJKiShraddha

First thing kudos to Topic creator n people who shared their past with courage.

I don't know about s1 so really can't comment who was butchered.

But this story is clearly when mini was kid, just because it was not shown in s1 when mini was teen.

Various tv shows add things as n when track required.

Plus it explains nature of mini, n y non one spoke about in s1 .

I HV experience this from cousin bro when I was 6, when I hardly could understand any anatomy or understand it wat he is trying to do. I just knew it uncomfortable n I pushed n ran before he could do proceed. I was lucky that I never had to face it again. N only after I grew up I realized this is crime. Because no speaks to kid about such things.

Than once in bus as school students, 2-3 incident where people tried to manhandle.

This thing s remain in our memory as ugly scar which haunt you whenever you remember them accidentally

I know many girls have faced worse.

I think if we take survey all women must have faced this at least once in lifetime. N even male/ other gender ppl are not spared.

That’s sad.

True, everyone must have faced this and some have faced even worse. Unfortunately, I didn’t even remember the incident that happened with me. And when I shared, I actually read my post so many times and started crying. Even today, my mom is unaware of how the sir tried to touch me inappropriately. I feel really ashamed of myself that, I couldn’t share. Though I revealed about the nasty comments that he made. But never this.

And I remember once seeing, he was seeing nasty pictures of ladies.... cannot elaborate more.

I am not strong enough to reveal, I am weak, but I felt the need to share.

That’s it...

Originally posted by: Hannie_Fan

@bold- by accept I never meant I find myself wrong, the day I told my mom about it the first thing she told me was “Tu galat nahi hai” All I meant was luckily woh log aise khayal nahi rakhte ki ladki galat hai

Sorry it just sounded a bit strange to me. It might be a cultural difference? Your mum sounds like an amazing lady you were lucky to have someone so supportive

Originally posted by: Nature-Happiness

I still remember this incident, though not bad but disgusting. I was in 2nd and, it was my birthday. Our school had taken us to the senior school for Republic day practice. When I returned, all classes were walking in a line. A bus chacha asked me if he could take my photo. But, I ran away. All my friends started laughing.

Another incident, where my tuition sir used to stare at me and make inappropriate comments like, why are you not wearing shorts, why you cover yourself all the time etc. He felt I had a very ‘good figure’, when I was in 8th. And once he tried to touch me inappropriately. Ever since,I maintained a distance and even told him please don’t touch me. But, I had to continue till 9th. I was scared of telling my parents, thinking what will they tell. I was always afraid. And after I left the tuition, I told my mom. She was shocked. He even tried to make an inappropriate comment against my mom. Unfortunately we could never do anything about it. And back then, we were all very innocent about such stuff. So, we didn’t know how to tell and whom to tell.

And once in the metro, a man touched my hip. And that was last year. I was about to slap that person. But, he said sorry. And I brushed it off, thinking it was an accident, though I still can’t figure out.

This happened not in India, but Dubai. Nowhere is it safe for children. Parents have to educate their children no matter what. I actually am shocked that I came out in open about this. But, girls please fight back and tell the concerned about it...🙏🏻🙏🏻

Firstly, you are really brave to share your story. Speaking about it might not literally help but it does make ppl feel lighter when they are able to speak about their experiences/thoughts.

Bold: You are right about this! It is a worldwide problem and women and children have always had to protect themselves from predators even in 2020.

I live in the uk and constantly hear things like this on the news, kids being touched in mall toilets, in shops, or at the market (while with their parents), on their way home from school. Nowhere is safe and the predators become so brave that they’re even touching and approaching kids in public places.

What is even more disturbing is men like this always seem to go and find jobs where they deal with children. Like becoming teachers or being religious leaders. The worse thing we can do is ignore it when it happens or keep quiet about it. Idk whether it’s just being more publicly reported about but it does seem like we are hearing more and more reporting about abuse, rape etc. There needs to be some worldwide solution to the problem. It might not be a crime that’s always ending in people being killed, but it’s leaving a lot of people scarred for life. Idk which is worse, being killed or having to live with the memories of being violated

Originally posted by: deefy89

Sorry it just sounded a bit strange to me. It might be a cultural difference? Your mum sounds like an amazing lady you were lucky to have someone so supportive

Originally posted by: Hannie_Fan

there is nothing strange being a lady that too a psychologist my mom knows ki kya chalta hai ladies ke mann mein that’s why she said that

Sorry I meant it sounded strange having to tell her future in laws about something that happened so long ago, not about her mum

I don’t understand the last bit ☺️