i mentioned all elders failed her. And i am not saying babita should have walked out of marriage or fought with her in laws or raised her voice . She could have tried talking to daadu beeji about going to live with ashok. Ok she couldnt for her sake(it was against a good bahu norms that she had created in her mind) but at least for minis sake she could have talked to them about it. If she had said for minis sake that she wanted her child to have a father around growing up, they could have agreed. you dont need to fight, such things can be talked out calmly also. At least daadu would have understood. the thing is babita never told all this in a respectful calm way also. It was not that she was not in a position to talk to them. they would not have thrown her and mini out of the house if she talked to them about going to live with ashok.
And babita was not quiet because she was scared of in laws she was quiet because she did not want to be called a bad wife and bahu. she had a misplaced notion of respecting her inlaws by not even asking or requesting them for her basic needs and rights.
Even with lovely she could have nicely explained to her in a calm way that she is hurting her with her words. maybe even told this in front of daadu beeji that she is getting hurt. But no she just meekly listened to lovely taunts showing she dint feel bad about it, and used to secretly get happy that mini gives it back to lovely. Not the solution to an issue. And even if she was a bit firm with lovely and told her off sometimes and even if beeji lovely were angry at her it was not that daadu would not support her and allow them to just walk over her if she actually protested for herself. She just did not even try.
I understand what you are saying and that she never once tried. I am with you on the point that Babita should have acted more stronger against Lovely and Khuranas. I am personally against silently keep listening to taunts.
But I also understand why she couldn’t. Here the power lies with Ashok and Senior Khuranas. Ashok should have been one to demand his rights as husband and Father which he failed to do. To me, Babita was not in a position to even speak calmly. Even if she would have, Lovely would have created ruckus and made Beeji flip. Dadu’s reasoning would fall on deaf ears. Beeji would have complained to Ashok that Babita is being unreasonable with them.
For all these years that Babita spent waiting for Ashok coz in her head she believed he loved her. Delusion yes. But that was her reality. (As accepted by her in front of HS after their honeymoon fight). In her head She and Ashok were fulfilling their duties. He by staying abroad, earning and sending them money, she by serving Khuranas and being good bahu. I for one strongly believe that her speaking and wanting to go with Ashok would have created more problems in her life. Babita was simply powerless in that household. And doesn’t help that she was very weak person coupled with delusions. She only gained confidence and strength with help of Mini.
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