Mooh ki gandgi yaa Haathapai

Now pls dont give me standard answer that both are bad . Wo sabko pata hai.

What is more bad ?.Its really a tough call.

But i will give anything which is more spontaneous a lesser degree of criticism than something where it is well thought, planned .

Not saying haathapai cannot be planned . But I feel its normally a more spontaneous reaction.

And Haathapai let me be be clear . Not meaning beating someone ki uska khoon nikal jaaye. Some mild haathapai like pushing, light punching .

See take case of devoleena. She does both

I don't hate her for her sometime violent maniac acts . I hate her more for her gandi zubaan .

There is a saying . Aadmi ko teen parameters se judge kiya jaata hai. Mann ,Vachan aur kaya.

Now we cannot read their mann. Which is the most powerful thing to judge what a person is . Unfortunately mann padne ki shakti Humme mahi hai

We have vachan and kaaya in front of us to judge. Pick ur things

P.s - I am very open about this discussion. No where I am saying that my line of thought is the only way. So let's not make it a battleground and mock fight each other.

For me it's physical violence > verbal.

In my head the natural progression of things go from thought to words to actions.

A person first starts off with violent thoughts, then uses his/her words and then uses his/her hands. That's the culmination of violence for me.

bb ke rules hai no physical violence...bad mouthing hi toh bacha phir..khud ko defend karne ke liye...agar samne wala apko kuch bhi bolde..toh aap kya chup bethoge...🥱 bb house mein situations logon se gand bulwati hain...aisa nhi bahar ki life mein yeh is had tak pahunch jate honge...

Originally posted by: ANGELshweta

bb ke rules hai no physical violence...bad mouthing hi toh bacha phir..khud ko defend karne ke liye...agar samne wala apko kuch bhi bolde..toh aap kya chup bethoge...🥱 bb house mein situations logon se gand bulwati hain...aisa nhi bahar ki life mein yeh is had tak pahunch jate honge...

Yaa I Get ur point. If u talk in context of Bb house and rules , yes violence is illegal.

In real life , though I am not sure. I normally wld prefer to thappad maaro someone badtammez rather than have verbal gaali galoch😆

Originally posted by: TheLastCarnival

For me it's physical violence > verbal.

In my head the natural progression of things go from thought to words to actions.

A person first starts off with violent thoughts, then uses his/her words and then uses his/her hands. That's the culmination of violence for me.

Yes exactly. First thoughts, then words, then actions . But pressure situations ppl dont react like that. If someone say pinches you or keep a burning thing on ur hand, u have a instant reflex action . There it works in reverse.

And everyone has a diff pressure point.

My point is whether reflex violence can be excused or treated in some lighter vien since it's very spontaneous

Physical assault intimidation is worse cos the smaller person is defenseless.

Verbal atleast u can give back. Or chose not to react.

I read something so insightful on karma theory .

Law of bigg boss or land is another matter. Yes their violence is prohibited

Worth a read

Aa per Law of Karma, the term ‘action’ is taken to incorporate much more than mere physical action. It includes:

• Action by mind (intention or thoughts)
• Action by speech (words)
• Action by body (physical)
• Doing an action yourself
• Getting it done by someone else
• Supporting an action of another person

So, bad thoughts, not just to do an act, but to get the act done by someone else or even supporting the action of another person also constitute ‘action’ and attract bad karmas.

Originally posted by: SiddJ

Physical assault intimidation is worse cos the smaller person is defenseless.

Verbal atleast u can give back. Or chose not to react.

Yup I agree on this. If two ppl are not of similar sizes then the one with more physical strength has undue advantage.

But if two ppl are of similar sizes ,phir kyaa karien😆

Originally posted by: intruderfast

Yup I agree on this. If two ppl are not of similar sizes then the one with more physical strength has undue advantage.

But if two ppl are of similar sizes ,phir kyaa karien😆

Then the smarter or the faster one will win.

I have experienced both, felt more helpless when I could not hit back.

Originally posted by: intruderfast

Yes exactly. First thoughts, then words, then actions . But pressure situations ppl dont react like that. If someone say pinches you or keep a burning thing on ur hand, u have a instant reflex action . There it works in reverse.

And everyone has a diff pressure point.

My point is whether reflex violence can be excused or treated in some lighter vien since it's very spontaneous

In pressure I feel people who still have some semblance of control use words (hurtful ones yes) but don't fast forward to physical yet.

Whereas when someone isn't in control and can't retaliate with words they bypass the verbal violence to direct physical violence.

Can it be excused? For me nope. Cause just like you can't unsay words, you can't undo your actions either. Words I can choose to brush away or give back. Physical violence, how do you retaliate?

Also, I've seen cases where once someone loses their control and hits/slaps/punches then regret and repent. But once you've done it means it gets easier to do it every time. So the second time, the repentance and the guilt is a little less.

Am not saying verbal abuse is okay. It's equally soul destroying. But since it's a person opinion thing, I'd go with Physical is more inexcusable than verbal.