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Originally posted by: LTLFan

Why is ensuring her safety on Babes? 😆 Is chachi a kid or unable to take care of herself? Its just a accident that can happen to anyone. How is it even babes fault that chachi ne apne aap pe paani giraliya?

Women are praised as multitasking masters and expect them to do multiple things perfectly. This is other kind of modern exploitation. 😆

She took on this responsibility and didn’t have to, but did it to please her husband. She could have easily told hs her shop needs seeing to so maybe he should also take some time off and share the work load, but she didn’t.

I personally don’t think she should be shown to be making the same old mistakes and being happy with just serving some old hag.

Bold 2 I agree, I see no sense in waiting on someone hand and foot, and it’s very often shown by older ppl who think they’re owed a slave by a woman in their family

Originally posted by: zehreeli.kheer

And what if something had happened to her in shop?😆 it was an accident that could even have happened even in Babita's presence.. I don't think it had anything to do with Babita's inability to handle more than one things..

If something happened In her presence it’s unavoidable however because she weren’t present and had promised to be, she now allows the finger to be pointed to her. Sorry I have to disagree, I do believe she has problems handling more than one thing, as of recently anyways- at the start she was shown as being superwoman. The point is I think the situation could have been shown to be handled better, in a more positive way. Many women take care of the home and all its members as well as work, it doesn’t have to be one or the other, which it’s currently being shown as

Originally posted by: deefy89

She took on this responsibility and didn’t have to, but did it to please her husband. She could have easily told hs her shop needs seeing to so maybe he should also take some time off and share the work load, but she didn’t.

I personally don’t think she should be shown to be making the same old mistakes and being happy with just serving some old hag.

Bold 2 I agree, I see no sense in waiting on someone hand and foot, and it’s very often shown by older ppl who think they’re owed a slave by a woman in their family

She did not go to work on her own. Chachi ne hi bheja hoga. Babes will not go on her own to shop obviously. So babes ki galti nahi hai in chachi getting hurt. She was taking only one responsibility acc to her limited capability. 😆

Originally posted by: zehreeli.kheer

If chachi is indeed like all of you think, she is gonna be no different than Khuranas.. she too will like the Seva like them but not the person.. and Babita is far from docile.. she has resilience and strength.. she surely has the fire too.. however her traits are more subtle than Mini's because they are shadowed by her people pleasing nature

As far as working woman/ housewife, I am a working woman.. actually all the woman in my sasural work.. my mother taught me and my sister to be independent.. so staying home for a long time without any career is not something I can find relatable

However, what I do understand is that for some people, work is merely a means of fulfilling basic neccesities.. they don't really like to expand beyond their horizons.. they would rather handle their house/travel/invest in hobbies and that in my poing of view is fine

For me, what's important is that the person should be allowed to do what he or she wants.. no one should have to be ambitious in terms of career because others would make them feel regressive if they don't pursue their careers.. similarly no one should be forced to give up on work if that's what they wanna do

Babita found success with PB because she loved cooking and Excelled in it.. if your heart is not something, you wouldn't be good at it.. that's why I want that returning to PB should be Babita's own choice.. not a decision she takes on someone's saying

Bold: And that is one big turn off for me personally. Babita's character was supposed to give a message that life doesn't end after divorce and one doesn't need a man to live a good life. Woman's identity isn't linked to man etc etc... The fact that she wants to give up everything for a man gives a contradictory message.

Bold 2: you know, do man have that luxury of not doing job if they don't want to? Imagine instead of babita, Hanuman saying that he wants to give up his job and now he would stay at home cause he wants to devote all his time to babita forever?

Maybe 100 years ago, women (and men) used to think same about education of women? And now we can't imagine saying that education should be optional. After 30-40 years we might say that for women doing job.

Originally posted by: Sakurablossom

Bold: And that is one big turn off for me personally. Babita's character was supposed to give a message that life doesn't end after divorce and one doesn't need a man to live a good life. Woman's identity isn't linked to man etc etc... The fact that she wants to give up everything for a man gives a contradictory message.

Bold 2: you know, do man have that luxury of not doing job if they don't want to? Imagine instead of babita, Hanuman saying that he wants to give up his job and now he would stay at home cause he wants to devote all his time to babita forever?

Maybe 100 years ago, women (and men) used to think same about education of women? And now we can't imagine saying that education should be optional. After 30-40 years we might say that for women doing job.

I have already answered the point about men.. I said everyone needs to be given the choice to decide how ambitious they want to be in terms of career, man or woman.. the only thing is, if man stays at home, he should be taking care of the house the same way a stay at home woman does.. I don't believe in the idea that you have got to be ambitious.. it's a matter of choice for me.. it's not about gender for me but more about how to lead life

For instance, there are some people who prefer to work freelance and earn when they wanna, taking rest of the time to do what they love like travel and stuff.. freelance is a way to fulfill expenses and they devote rest of time to something else and that in my opinion is fine

I never said she should give up her identity or work.. I have been saying that she needs to be given some time to decide.. everyone wanted her to go on Honeymoon.. how would the business have been managed then? Why can't they manage business the same way for a couple of weeks till Babita decides how she wants to proceed?

Babita has already prove she can live without a man.. I think she should finally for once be allowed to decide how she wants to lead her life.. fredome she has never been given before

Originally posted by: inlieu

It's because social conditioning from childhood often prevents women from opening up even after marrying into an open family. I've seen tons of examples.

Sometimes such women fall back to known traditions because they feel it is their comfort zone. Not all women can make the best of newfound freedom.

Originally posted by: Sakurablossom

Bold: And that is one big turn off for me personally. Babita's character was supposed to give a message that life doesn't end after divorce and one doesn't need a man to live a good life. Woman's identity isn't linked to man etc etc... The fact that she wants to give up everything for a man gives a contradictory message.

Bold 2: you know, do man have that luxury of not doing job if they don't want to? Imagine instead of babita, Hanuman saying that he wants to give up his job and now he would stay at home cause he wants to devote all his time to babita forever?

Maybe 100 years ago, women (and men) used to think same about education of women? And now we can't imagine saying that education should be optional. After 30-40 years we might say that for women doing job.

@bold this is a very good point. Social conditioning makes men staying at home while their wife works seem a big no-no, even if the couple themselves are fine with this.