To prerna, a woman--from another woman. - Page 4

Originally posted by: grace4317

Italic - Why to question Anu or Bajaj stans? Her own stans are not understanding her. For them her selfrespect is more important than her happiness. I can't understand why they can't see that Anu was first her friend & she is carrying his child. After reading some of their comments, I just feel like saying 'Badi badi baatein; vada pav khatein', as i get a doubt on whether it is the character Anu or the actor who plays it that they hate.

Hope's post is not targeting at any particular stan. And supporting Prerna does make one a solo Erica fan or a solo Prerna fan. I think this response explains a lot of the misunderstanding or defensiveness when anyone supports Prerna. All Hope is highlighting the pain that Prerna is feeling and questioning why people feel unable to see it.

Prerna has been all alone in this. She was badly treated by the Basus when Anurag married Komolika and now is badly treated by the Basus and the Bajaj relatives when she married Bajaj. Its like there is no end and in many ways epitomises what life must be like for so many women.

Originally posted by: munnihyderabad

she would have been justified only if she stood firm on her ground , irrespective of the man she chose to be with , stand firm , go with convictions

Anurag and Bajaj have clear clarity and focus in their life as what they want ..and whom they want to spend their life with .. Prerna clearly lacks clarity and conviction or conscience .. one day her emotions pop up for Anurag and the other day she tells the same Anurag.. to "move on" "meri shaadi ho chuki" she is confusing both men

Anurag clearly told her ..that pretending to hold Bajaj's hand she was giving him the hope for relation and not play with emotions .. .....

she is judged today, she will be judged tomorrow if she goes on "I am married to Mr.Bajaj " mode ..she will be judged as long as she doesn't take a clear stand on what she wants in life..

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when your love is so weak that it can't let you confide,
I don't see the power of love which is bonafide

@ Bold : Then why is Bajaj not judged for wanting Prerna's love when he just wanted a mother for his child who could also be an instrumental in his revenge against Basus? How has Bajaj suddenly become the victim of Prerna's lack of emotional warmth or her inability to fall in love with him?

Besides, even if judging is inevitable, lets judge her for the things or mistakes she has done. Everyone has judged her for being torn between her husband and her lover and rightly so. Lets judge her as someone who is confused, torn and probably even stupid and insane.

But why is she being judged as someone who is cheating on her husband with an extra marital affair. This is not even sown in the Show, at least not on the one being aired on my television. How is she being judged as characterless when whatever is being shown of her does not fit the standard definition of the word. Hell, I cannot even accuse her of emotional infidelity because she was very vocal about her love for Anurag as well as her pregnancy both of which Mr. Bajaj chose to ignore conveniently as he did not need her love then. Four months down the line and lo behold!!! Prerna becomes a characterless woman just because her emotions doesn't change in tandem with the change of Mr. Bajaj's heart..

Judging and s**t-shaming are two different things and in Prerna's case it is the latter happening more than the former because she has not gone all moony-eyed for Mr. Bajaj. She should have already fallen head-over-heels in love with him by now, how dare she not?

when your love is so weak that it can't let you confide,
I don't see the power of love which is bonafide

How apt for Mr, Bajaj!!! He could not even confide that he is marrying her for his daughter then. Even now he has not confided to his game plan for Anurag and neither has he confided about his changed feelings for Prerana.

Yet lets judge Prerna for her emotional unavailability for victim Bajaj... WOW!!!

I never once question the frustrations people have with prerna character because as a supporter of anurag and prerna, even I have my set complaints against her. But then I have those with anurag as well. And I'm sure even fans of Bajaj should be having those grouses with him, in the spirit of being fair.

And this is where the whole point of my post comes in, that we always seem to be having different yardstick to judge prerna. In spite of her faults, her oscillation between two men, she is still the stalwart character of this show. What people call as indecisiveness between two men is not that at all. It is a battle. A battle between the heart and mind that this woman is waging, every single day. Her mind with its belief systems and its firm sense of duty tells her resolutely that her reality is now her new family. But as we all have surely experienced at some point in life, the heart has nothing to do with practicality or reality. It just wants what it wants. And it's not easy to silence this heart that yearns.. It takes time to do that and she deserves that time. And honestly which woman would be in this position, living under one roof with her husband and the love of her life. Honestly under the circumstances that prerna is in, I find her to be the sanest and most real character and to see her getting bashed this way, especially when there are characters who are far worse is truly difficult to digest.

P. S. It is nice to see that we are able to have some good discussions here. Thank you to everyone who has kept this thread away from being a battleground.

Originally posted by: UKGirl22

Hope's post is not targeting at any particular stan. And supporting Prerna does make one a solo Erica fan or a solo Prerna fan. I think this response explains a lot of the misunderstanding or defensiveness when anyone supports Prerna. All Hope is highlighting the pain that Prerna is feeling and questioning why people feel unable to see it.

Prerna has been all alone in this. She was badly treated by the Basus when Anurag married Komolika and now is badly treated by the Basus and the Bajaj relatives when she married Bajaj. Its like there is no end and in many ways epitomises what life must be like for so many women.

I didn't mean hope4u was targetting any stan. What i meant is that if some Pre stan themselves are not being able to understand Pre's current mental state, then why to blame other stans. Below is a reply post i made in one of my threads. Hope that wiil clarify my intention.

Prerna's character arc has been purposefully ignored by the CVs till date and we all know the reason also. I too have been disappointed & irritated with Prerna many times. But today seeing her breaking down, especially in front of Moloy, I couldn't hold myself from remembering our last year chirpy Pre who was her Papa's ladli. While her tears also reminded me of one of the initial Swiss scenes where she was shown running out of her room feeling suffocated & caged. At that time, i didn't feel bad for her because i was angry with the foolishness she did. But today, seeing her in angst really invoked that suffocated & caged feeling in me as i was reminded of that Swiss scene. I just felt like hugging Pre and letting her cry her heart out. And that is when i read her own stans pointing fingers at her in the name of selfrespect and got irritated & made this post. Because i was fed up of seeing a robot Pre who day by day was becoming a stone-hearted person as a result of suppressing her emotions. The Pre we got 1 year back, doesn't deserve this much pain.

Originally posted by: TakingAStand2

Looking at Prerna the character, I would still ask But what is the NEED for her to sacrifice, when there are other options in front of her?

That house isn’t hers by any stretch of imagination. So why not speak the truth and consult everyone? She also had her Kaka babu to help her out and she had a dream about spilling the beans to him, but then backed out.

With Mr. Bajaj, she KNEW fully well what she was doing and again it was so NOT NEEDED. Anurag has s full fledged family, and by her own admission if mr.bajaj was so ‘bad’ then she is beyond irresponsible to get married to him to save Anu than look out for her child.

Do you see how her actions don’t make any sense? And how she is so hard to sympathize with?

And let’s not even get into her hypocritical nature of standing by the truth when all the big events in her own life have happened because she continuously hid truth from her family and loved ones. She preaches to Anu about moving on, and yet can’t do it herself? Toh kahan se bani yeh sacrifice ki lamb? If She breaks her marriage NOW, then she will also leave a heartbroken Kuki, and not to mention potential child who could be called names and whose parentage could be questioned? Did she not think her marriage to Bajaj was for a lifetime?

At the end of the day, story telling is a creative process, and the makers can tell a story of their choice, but at least make the reasons believable and make the effort to show that their is actual conflict with proper character development, so we can all root for her. Prerna the character isn’t a bad woman or even a human, but just poorly developed one who makes it very hard to understand and like her.

Prerna being so much sacrificial, still she gets to hear all these. I just cannot imagine amount of flak she would get, if she was selfish thinks about herself.

Though SN, belong to her parents, I think every child would try to do their best in saving house. This was prerna's way of saving. All she wanted her family safety. Was she wrong? Consulting someone, was there any solution? Mohini, didnot threaten her?

Coming to bajaj..was anu not pronounced as guilty and was there any hope coming out of jail? If she discuss with basu family, mohini would have begged prerna to marry baj n save anu. I don't think basu family would say let anu be in jail, but you don't marry. Or if she inform anu n he would have said I will stay in jail but don't marry. But that will be ok with prerna? Dear..She had no ways other than marrying baj.

She definitely sacrificed her life marrying someone whom she cannot love. She may not move on, but definitely don't want anu spoiling his life behind her.

Dear I cannot explain you more than this. Bcoz, u made up your mind, that you want to hate prerna..

Cheers!!

Originally posted by: Hari73

Prerna being so much sacrificial, still she gets to hear all these. I just cannot imagine amount of flak she would get, if she was selfish thinks about herself.

Though SN, belong to her parents, I think every child would try to do their best in saving house. This was prerna's way of saving. All she wanted her family safety. Was she wrong? Consulting someone, was there any solution? Mohini, didnot threaten her?

Coming to bajaj..was anu not pronounced as guilty and was there any hope coming out of jail? If she discuss with basu family, mohini would have begged prerna to marry baj n save anu. I don't think basu family would say let anu be in jail, but you don't marry. Or if she inform anu n he would have said I will stay in jail but don't marry. But that will be ok with prerna? Dear..She had no ways other than marrying baj.

She definitely sacrificed her life marrying someone whom she cannot love. She may not move on, but definitely don't want anu spoiling his life behind her.

Dear I cannot explain you more than this. Bcoz, u made up your mind, that you want to hate prerna..

Cheers!!

Lmao, we can agree to disagree and no where did I ever say anything that would insinuate that I ‘hate’ any character. So please cool it with inane those comments.

Hope, THANK YOU so much for this post!

Prerna, the character sometimes suffocates me to no end. Whenever, I think from her perspective, all I see is darkness all around. The creeping scary darkness, that took her everything away from her and left her with nothingness in her heart... And that's the most dangerous and disheartening situation a woman, a human could ever experience. Sometimes, when I see her all I feel is NUMB, for her and that's what she has become lately. I would thank kuki ONLY for one thing, that she is there and prerna hasn't completely shutted herself out, somewhere because of the warmth she gets from her. We say it very easily, that prerna should behave like that or should do that.... It's all so easy to SAY but no one knows and understands the state of the one who is experiencing it!

Emotions could kill! And that's was they are doing with prerna. Emotionally killing her from the inside with all those emotions trapped inside her, for so long. As a human, one reaches a saturation point and NEEDS to let everything out before those emotions end up killing oneself. I am amazed at how every single move of hers is dissected here. Even her emotions and tears are dissected, this emotion is for this person, that emotion was for that person, she cried for this person today, she showed affection to that person yesterday, she will come running to this person tomorrow and what not!

And what's wrong in showing the emotions and letting the frustrations out in front of the man, she loves with all her might?! She deal married unwillingly and by making it CLEAR beforehand only that all her emotions and her whole heart belongs to the man SHE LOVES, and somebody din't had any problem with it then. The deal was to take care of kuki and stay loyal to him, which she is without any doubt. Just because today, he became possessed by the obsession of having her by HOOK or BY CROOK, prerna should go by his ways, she should let her emotions kill her on the inside, because she HAS to! One moment of emotional breakdown gives people the right to call her names. Her "husband" has apparently started "louving" her and no matter what she HAS to reciprocate!

She is a human first FGS, before being someone's this or someone's that, treat her like one!

Originally posted by: UKGirl22

Prerna has a God complex!?!?!?!

Unlike Anurag who also didn't tell anyone why he was marrying Komolika not even the sister who was running the company with her father while he was a college student. He decided to "help" Prerna move on by calling her a s.... in front of a whole party, going on a honeymoon with Komolika and a number of other things. He then also decided to find out Bajaj's truth by doing things behind Prerna back that he knew she would not approve off thereby ending up in a situation that required her to rescue him by making a deal with Bajaj.

Now lets come to Bajaj, he has the biggest God complex. His entire introduction started with examples of him playing without other people. He married prerna saying he wants to take revenge knowing she loved someone else's child and then played with her emotions by bringing his daughter into it. He is trying to play puppet master with the Basus and Sharmas. As far as I know that fits the definition of someone with a God complex.

I am not in any way trying to say that the lack of communication they routinely show in this series and the inability to forward thing is justified. But I don't see how Prerna is more guilty of it than any of the other two leads. Its just that the eyes of the beholder when it comes to Bajaj and Anurag are kinder than they are to Prerna.

They are all flawed characters, and I don’t disagree with you per se. anurag was just as stupid as her when it came to marrying Komolika, but there too, His mom was instrumental in coercing them.

Its fine to compare any main character to the other, and you can have a fine discussion on that, but my focus is on P, I was looking at her character as a person, and she does have god complex along with martyring herself without actually thinking things thru. Based on TMs starting point, My sole argument is that she has the least character development snd her actions are the hardest to understand and hence certain group of the audience like me may find it hard to sympathize with her.

Originally posted by: Hari73

I so wish to see this.. hope cvs read this.

I hope they do it too...

It is high time that they show something substantial than some asinine plots and inane characterizations.

Prerana breaking the shackles of deal marriage, her determination not to be with Anurag either, her perseverance and dedication to fight the world for her child while simultaneously carving her career path will be the biggest Kasauti that any single-woman can go through.

Originally posted by: bashful_moon

I hope they do it too...

It is high time that they show something substantial than some asinine plots and inane characterizations.

Prerana breaking the shackles of deal marriage, her determination not to be with Anurag either, her perseverance and dedication to fight the world for her child while simultaneously carving her career path will be the biggest Kasauti that any single-woman can go through.

I don't want her to stay single forever. But I don't want her jumping into marriage with anurag immediate after bajaj. Let her take time n get married to anurag as both love each other. But shaadi ke liye break chahiye. I want to see prerna sharma for sometime.