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Posted: 17 years ago
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today while conversing with my maid,she told me like her daughter is getting engaged in d evening

i was like didi u dont look that old ..when did u marry??she said she married at the age of 17...n her daughter is 14 years old

i dont know should i complain or not..imean how can u get ur daughter engaged at the age of 14...DATS ILLEGAL😡

i told her so..but she sais dat she will get married after 5 years

is it correct to tie up ur daughter at dis young age just because u fear if she will get a good husband later in life is not

plus the person with whom her daughter is getting engaged is actually her relative..i find dat weird too..hinduism doesnt permit it..but she is a muslim so i dont know..

iwant your vies guys😛...is this correct...

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Posted: 17 years ago
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Ok jus read ure post.
And i agree wd u dts not right.

hw cn a 14 year old girl get engajed and that 2 with her relative at such a young age?


I find that weird 2. But does dt girl who's 14 want 2 gt engajed/ married 2 dt person?

Even if she does dts at the age of 14 I am sure wen she gets more older lyk in d nxt 4, 5 years she might lyk or fall in love with some one else, dn wat will happen?

Wnt she fynd it weird her self 2 be engajed at such a young age 😡 😡 😡
I think its incorrect 2. But guess dts up 2 her parents in a way.

Edited by PrInCeZz07 - 17 years ago
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Posted: 17 years ago
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different stratas of society have different rights and wrongs based on the problems they face day in and day out. what seems right to us may not be right for them and vice versa. they have different priorities. it still doesn't make what she is doing right but if she is waiting 5 yrs then it's not that wrong either. don't know what else to say 😕
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Posted: 17 years ago
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Marrying at the age of 14 is absolutely wrong 🤢 ..if she is going to get marry after 4 years then that's ok..r u sure she will be getting marriage after 4 years or else ur maid told to cover up the child marriage issue saying this after calculating 18 years age adding 4 years 😆 😆 😆
ok coming to the topic..it depends upon the nature and situations of person to person..i personally beleive the situations in life may force some one to take such type of important steps in life..no matter how much we argue about early marriages but finally the life we r running may took us to take such steps..eaither it is early or late marriage..but marrying at the age of 14 😡 ..Goshhhh i hope every parent who is ready to put her daughter in mess should think thousand times
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Posted: 17 years ago
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The most obvious objections I guess most of us would agree upon, and I also take on board the one mitigating factor in all of this (if its true) is the there is this 4-5 year (getting used to the idea/allowing your child to grow a little) period.

But how about the the fact that anything could happen (God forbid) in thsoe next years??

What if the potential groom met with an accident, became disabled or even died???

Come to think of it there are so many intervening events that could happen in the next 5 years in these young lives that they will be transformed into different people from whom they were 5 years previously.

I'm the sort of person who doesnt believe in booking holidays a year beforehand in case I'm not here the nest year to enjoy.......but this is a marriage...

Huge, huge risk......not one I would want to put my child through frankly.

I know it is often the case in some cultures that children are "promised" but to be honest the children are not objects that belong to them, they are little human beings with lives and destinies of their own.

Let the time come when it is right, not before.

😡 M 😡

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Posted: 17 years ago
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Oh forgot to mention that Mulims, like Christians apparently, are allowed to marry say cousins, including first cousins.

I have a quite a few Muslim frinds who have married cousins.

The only strange thing I fin about it or at least different to my upbringing, is like your first cousins were treated like your brothers and sisters and if they were older, you might even call them paaji/bhaiya (brother) or didi (sister)

To then grow up and marry them........would make me feel weird.....

Just my POV - no offence intended 😊

😡 M 😡

😡 M 😡
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Posted: 17 years ago
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i told her..nything caan happen in these 5 years..she was like idont care..she is just getting engaged ,nt marred..
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Posted: 17 years ago
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Sounds like you have a hard job convincing her to think otherwise.....which is a real shame......



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Posted: 17 years ago
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Yh it is a shame 4 u. But dts really gud dt ure trying to convince her. Let me knw if u do get through in convincing her. Best of luck!!! 😆 😉 😛
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Posted: 17 years ago
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Originally posted by: Gauri_3

different stratas of society have different rights and wrongs based on the problems they face day in and day out. what seems right to us may not be right for them and vice versa. they have different priorities. it still doesn't make what she is doing right but if she is waiting 5 yrs then it's not that wrong either. don't know what else to say 😕



well said, very thoughtful views👏

I agree, what might seem as obviously wrong to us, might be a "majboori" (maybe social pressures) to another person.😕

Wish you all the best with your maid 😊 but I should warn you she might not listen, to her you are the rich lady who can't possibly understand/relate to her situation...


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