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At this point writers have completely lost it. I don't understand this Babita. They need to show Babita's introspections onto her thoughts and feelings reagarding HS and this whole intimacy angle. I am beyond frustrated at this point with Babita.

Can HS just lash out at her already? Show her the mirror? Fking ask her straight up if she's even attracted to him? If she just wanted a father for Minnie, why did she get married to him? He would have been a father either way. Someone needs to give a zor ka jhatka joro se, for her to come back to her sense. She needs a reality check and I feel only HS can do it. Maybe he needs to initiate something like the pottery making, to sprung those desires in her one more time. I have no hopes that Babita will do it herself.

Also, can Minnie tell Babita to get off her back, that she doesn't wanna be a third wheel in her parent's honeymoon... heck tell her that she doesn't wanna tag along, and woh jana hai to jaye, warna bhaad mein jaye. Pagal hogayi hai Babita. Writers have lost it literally with Babita's character arc.

Okayyy I am doneee.

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

At this point writers have completely lost it. I don't understand this Babita. They need to show Babita's introspections onto her thoughts and feelings reagarding HS and this whole intimacy angle. I am beyond frustrated at this point with Babita.

Can HS just lash out at her already? Show her the mirror? Fking ask her straight up if she's even attracted to him? If she just wanted a father for Minnie, why did she get married to him? He would have been a father either way. Someone needs to give a zor ka jhatka joro se, for her to come back to her sense. She needs a reality check and I feel only HS can do it. Maybe he needs to initiate something like the pottery making, to sprung those desires in her one more time. I have no hopes that Babita will do it herself.

Also, can Minnie tell Babita to get off her back, that she doesn't wanna be a third wheel in her parent's honeymoon... heck tell her that she doesn't wanna tag along, and woh jana hai to jaye, warna bhaad mein jaye. Pagal hogayi hai Babita. Writers have lost it literally with Babita's character arc.

Okayyy I am doneee.

I want to see some of that poison he's drinking seep out a little bit in the form of him telling her what he feels. As I have said many times, he is making a big mistake being so over-protective of Babita. I know his intentions are pure but it's not the right approach - too much of anything isn't good.

I think he's taking the no more tears to a ridiculous level. He cannot guarantee her a fairy tale marriage. Life doesn't work like that. He can do his best to make her happy but the fact is that there would be fights, arguments, angst, etc. I know his guilt over being unable to help his mom is still killing him on the inside but to transpose that onto his relationship with Babita is not good. Ok, she is not ready to learn about this side of him or listen to him share his pain, but he needs to forgive himself and stop relating everything to his mother.

I know that this pain of his might never go away and no matter how supportive Lala and NB are, this tees in his heart won't be healed completely. It's too big a trauma, and I know that he's always going to be in this over-compensation mode, but he's doing himself and his daughter a disservice by being laser-focused on Babita's needs and forgetting Minnie and his needs. I have always loved HS' ability to push back when people went too far with things but with Babita he is doing no such thing. For sure, it won't continue for long because it's against his nature to put up with such stuff for too long. He's no doormat. I just don't know if Babita will actually threaten to distance herself or leave him at the drop of a hat. He can't be living in a Damocles' sword situation all his life. It will suffocate him and destroy him. Minnie will be very hurt too because of it.

As for the father role, I think he should actually try to start fresh with Minnie and show her that he loves her and wants her in his life as his first prio. Unlike Babita, I want him to focus on Minnie and give her all the attention and support she needs. It will not only reduce his pain but will also serve as a good distraction from all the madness around Babita. Once she sees him in father mode, I bet she will start wanting him as her husband without him having to lift a finger.

Can we expect Babita to initiate intimacy with HS first at this point? 🤔

I think HS is gonna loose it and either back off completely or something like alcohol scene will happen (which will actually be good). I think maybe he needs to initiate contact, any contact first.

Babita’s reaction when Poonam talked about honeymoon 😆... as if she had said something forbidden or wrong. Babita is such a prude. Does she not feel anything sexually? Does she have sexual desires at all? Does she not desire a touch of a man that she loves... her husband? 🙄. Unless she’s asexual, this doesn’t make sense.

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

You are completely thinking in the same direction as I am. I don’t think Ashok ever was considerate of her needs. Did he even ask her if she was ready? I mean she was just 18. It would completely make sense if she wasn't ready. Did he pressure her, force her? She got pregnant right away. As a matter of fact, did she even want a baby at that point? Why didn’t they use contraceptive? Did Ashok show her that he was sexually attracted to her after Minnie was born? Does she fear that once she gives in and gets intimate with HS, he will stop desiring her sexually? (I am not saying HS would, I am talking about Babita’s fear)

If the writers are going this direction, I completely understand Babita’s fear and insecurities, but writers are not doing a very good job of showing all this. We need more introspection onto Babita’s thoughts and feelings. At least show us that she is affected by HS but is holding herself back because of all these fears and insecurities she has. Show us something to tell us that she desires HS, but she gets triggered by her past experiences so is holding helself back. Kuch toh dikhao 🙄

Yup! We're thinking of the same things.

The wedding pretty much happened against her will. So I doubt she would have been interested in having sex with him. But the fact is that she did, because that's what I was expected of her. And given the background she comes from, I doubt, she had a decent discussion on sexual education. Or even the concept of saying no must have alluded to her. She's the wife after all. It's her duty to please her husband. 🤢

She must have been terrified when she learned she was pregnant. I mean, how old is that? At 18 I knew Jack shit. If I found out I was pregnant, I would be having panic attacks all day every day. And then for her to go through the pregnancy AND the birth all alone... that's a whole different kind of loneliness.

Wasn't Ashok already involved with Meeta by the time Minnie was born? So clearly, he didn't give two hoots about Babita.

Agreed. If the writers want to go in this direction then I'm all for it but they have to present it in a better way. Right now, I'm not getting any hints of her trauma or abuse. If they try to throw it there for just shock value, then Imma be even more pissed. And introspection is HEAVILY needed! I am so disconnected from Babita right now it's not even funny.

Originally posted by: inlieu

I was just watching the beginning of episode 206 where HS opens the door to his mother's room. How mind-blowing was Aniruddh there!

Oh my god!

What a heartbreakingly beautiful scene! I fell a little more in love with HS, and even NB, there. ... uff! There is so much depth there and shown so beautifully.

To have opened it to welcome his lady love in that room, yet to have to shut it and himself in order to prevent Babita suffering as his mother did and also because she is nowhere near ready to see this side of his or be his confidante ...

I don't even know when or if she will step up. Perhaps she never will and HS is destined to live with Babita remaining this way. Perhaps she will never understand him at that level, the way Minnie or NB or Lala do, she hasn't ever thought to learn more about him. I am not sure why they are going this way with Babita's track but at this point I can't imagine her being anywhere close to being his life partner in that sense. It seems as if it's just her life, not theirs, and perhaps HS was right to feel scared about their joint kismat.

HS' mother lived out her lonely marriage in that room and now Babita is doing the same. The difference is that in HS' mother case, she didn't have a choice since she had an abusive and remorseless husband. Babita on the other hand, is doing this for who knows what reason while having a husband who loves and adores her so much!

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

At this point writers have completely lost it. I don't understand this Babita. They need to show Babita's introspections onto her thoughts and feelings reagarding HS and this whole intimacy angle. I am beyond frustrated at this point with Babita.

Can HS just lash out at her already? Show her the mirror? Fking ask her straight up if she's even attracted to him? If she just wanted a father for Minnie, why did she get married to him? He would have been a father either way. Someone needs to give a zor ka jhatka joro se, for her to come back to her sense. She needs a reality check and I feel only HS can do it. Maybe he needs to initiate something like the pottery making, to sprung those desires in her one more time. I have no hopes that Babita will do it herself.

Also, can Minnie tell Babita to get off her back, that she doesn't wanna be a third wheel in her parent's honeymoon... heck tell her that she doesn't wanna tag along, and woh jana hai to jaye, warna bhaad mein jaye. Pagal hogayi hai Babita. Writers have lost it literally with Babita's character arc.

Okayyy I am doneee.

No, if she actually did undergo sexual abuse, then I don't want that information pried out of her by force. It should be forthcoming and told out of her own volition.

But she HAS to show some sort of indication that this is something that has happened to her. And at the very least stop hiding behind Minnie so much and treating HS like a piranha.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Yup! We're thinking of the same things.

The wedding pretty much happened against her will. So I doubt she would have been interested in having sex with him. But the fact is that she did, because that's what I was expected of her. And given the background she comes from, I doubt, she had a decent discussion on sexual education. Or even the concept of saying no must have alluded to her. She's the wife after all. It's her duty to please her husband. 🤢

She must have been terrified when she learned she was pregnant. I mean, how old is that? At 18 I knew Jack shit. If I found out I was pregnant, I would be having panic attacks all day every day. And then for her to go through the pregnancy AND the birth all alone... that's a whole different kind of loneliness.

Wasn't Ashok already involved with Meeta by the time Minnie was born? So clearly, he didn't give two hoots about Babita.

Agreed. If the writers want to go in this direction then I'm all for it but they have to present it in a better way. Right now, I'm not getting any hints of her trauma or abuse. If they try to throw it there for just shock value, then Imma be even more pissed. And introspection is HEAVILY needed! I am so disconnected from Babita right now it's not even funny.

Exactly... I guess the writers want to show the same but their presentation is very irritating... Why can't they show her inner turmoil... What she feels... They are showing her cold towards everyone....

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

Babita’s expression when Poonam talked about honeymoon 😆... as if she had said something forbidden. Babita is such a prude. Does she not feel anything sexually? Does she have sexual desires at all? Does she not desire a touch of a man, her husband? 🙄. Unless she’s asexual, this doesn’t make sense.

17 years sex se vanchit rehke sex be babes ko vanchit jar diya..

Originally posted by: porankisrilata

Exactly... I guess the writers want to show the same but their presentation is very irritating... Why can't they show her inner turmoil... What she feels... They are showing her cold towards everyone....

Yep, theoretical presentation gone wrong ..