Defence Mechanism?

Someone in the forum used the word "trigger" and that really got me thinking.

I've read only the updates and yet to watch today's epi. While Rohit's behavior is not commendable, but, from a psychological pov, i kinda get where he is coming from.

I think more than being synonymous to love, Raima has become a sort of trigger which reminds Rohit of the past "trauma" which causes him an overwhelming amount of sadness, makes him lose tracks of his surroundings and in a way "relive" the trauma (that is, the failed operation), hence evoking feelings of guilt.

Remembering her birthday was a habit to him. The fact that he broke the pattern he has been following for years puts him in a situation of distress and that's where his defence mechanism comes in.

Denial. It is one of the many coping mechanisms "in which reality is avoided by defying the existence of the problem." I think unconsciously he realises that he feels for Sona, however, because of the strings that still binds him to Raima, he feels that whatever he is feeling is unacceptable. Denial is a way to protect oneself from feelings of shame (at not being loyal to Raima) and guilt.

The denial allows him to pretend that his equation with Sona is not real and has no impact on him. Denial also stops one from taking responsibility for their choices, leaving them free to continue to blame others. At this point, with no closure on his past, he is unable to accept his feelings and hence, is blaming sona for the same. This is a way of shunning her out.

He is blaming to shift the responsibility (of loving, of forgetting) which he thinks he has, as a way of showing loyalty to appease his guilt.

He is doing/will be doing everything to escape reality: repressing of feelings, denial, blame shifting and then, he will reach a point where he will have to be honest with himself.

Of course, of course, I know that the writers may not be thinking along these intricate lines, but that's just a reading of Rohit.

Originally posted by: ..Peppermint..

Someone in the forum used the word "trigger" and that really got me thinking.

I've read only the updates and yet to watch today's epi. While Rohit's behavior is not commendable, but, from a psychological pov, i kinda get where he is coming from.

I think more than being synonymous to love, Raima has become a sort of trigger which reminds Rohit of the past "trauma" which causes him an overwhelming amount of sadness, makes him lose tracks of his surroundings and in a way "relive" the trauma (that is, the failed operation), hence evoking feelings of guilt.

Remembering her birthday was a habit to him. The fact that he broke the pattern he has been following for years puts him in a situation of distress and that's where his defence mechanism comes in.

Denial. It is one of the many coping mechanisms "in which reality is avoided by defying the existence of the problem." I think unconsciously he realises that he feels for Sona, however, because of the strings that still binds him to Raima, he feels that whatever he is feeling is unacceptable. Denial is a way to protect oneself from feelings of shame (at not being loyal to Raima) and guilt.

The denial allows him to pretend that his equation with Sona is not real and has no impact on him. Denial also stops one from taking responsibility for their choices, leaving them free to continue to blame others. At this point, with no closure on his past, he is unable to accept his feelings and hence, is blaming sona for the same. This is a way of shunning her out.

He is blaming to shift the responsibility (of loving, of forgetting) which he thinks he has, as a way of showing loyalty to appease his guilt.

He is doing/will be doing everything to escape reality: repressing of feelings, denial, blame shifting and then, he will reach a point where he will have to be honest with himself.

Of course, of course, I know that the writers may not be thinking along these intricate lines, but that's just a reading of Rohit.

Excellent analysis ...

I think he is also using one other defense mechanism - Projection. He is projecting his fault on Sonakshi - blaming her for him forgetting Raima birthday so that he doesn't feel the resulting guilt. Which when u think about it is very unfair to Sona, she hasn't done anything to deserve his emotional burden.

You make soooo much sense! Thank you! 👍🏼 My anger has lessened a bit... It has not dissipated totally yet...😵 But its a good start! 👍🏼You and some other people here are angels today! Warna mujhe sakht ghussa aarha tha! 🤢

Originally posted by: ..Peppermint..

Someone in the forum used the word "trigger" and that really got me thinking.

I've read only the updates and yet to watch today's epi. While Rohit's behavior is not commendable, but, from a psychological pov, i kinda get where he is coming from.

I think more than being synonymous to love, Raima has become a sort of trigger which reminds Rohit of the past "trauma" which causes him an overwhelming amount of sadness, makes him lose tracks of his surroundings and in a way "relive" the trauma (that is, the failed operation), hence evoking feelings of guilt.

Remembering her birthday was a habit to him. The fact that he broke the pattern he has been following for years puts him in a situation of distress and that's where his defence mechanism comes in.

Denial. It is one of the many coping mechanisms "in which reality is avoided by defying the existence of the problem." I think unconsciously he realises that he feels for Sona, however, because of the strings that still binds him to Raima, he feels that whatever he is feeling is unacceptable. Denial is a way to protect oneself from feelings of shame (at not being loyal to Raima) and guilt.

The denial allows him to pretend that his equation with Sona is not real and has no impact on him. Denial also stops one from taking responsibility for their choices, leaving them free to continue to blame others. At this point, with no closure on his past, he is unable to accept his feelings and hence, is blaming sona for the same. This is a way of shunning her out.

He is blaming to shift the responsibility (of loving, of forgetting) which he thinks he has, as a way of showing loyalty to appease his guilt.

He is doing/will be doing everything to escape reality: repressing of feelings, denial, blame shifting and then, he will reach a point where he will have to be honest with himself.

Of course, of course, I know that the writers may not be thinking along these intricate lines, but that's just a reading of Rohit.

You said it all👏👏.One thing that I am having trouble in comprehending is that how is it not understandable. I mean at one point or another, we all behave like that, I know I had. Ok, maybe others don't do that. But again you have written it amazingly. Kudos to that

Originally posted by: Naturegirl99

I think he is also using one other defense mechanism - Projection. He is projecting his fault on Sonakshi - blaming her for him forgetting Raima birthday so that he doesn't feel the resulting guilt. Which when u think about it is very unfair to Sona, she hasn't done anything to deserve his emotional burden.

True that!

Sona is the last person to be blamed for the emotional ongoings in his life... but he'll get there.... and i hope when he realise, he apologises because he tends to get away without them😳

Originally posted by: Doc.love

You make soooo much sense! Thank you! 👍🏼 My anger has lessened a bit... It has not dissipated totally yet...😵 But its a good start! 👍🏼You and some other people here are angels today! Warna mujhe sakht ghussa aarha tha! 🤢

Oh trust me, I was angry when I read the update... but then, I was like, wait a second...

I hope this track is handled well... I dont want him to go overboard with his denial🙄

And what did she do to deserve this?

He always does this. Whether it was abt Dipa's seating, the launch of that technology where they first met where he insulted her in the party, Pooja's malfunction, the watch incident, etc.

Hez been shown as a short-tempered illogical person, who misbehaves at the first instance of a problem.

I can totally imagine what will happen if he finds out Sonakshi was involved in Raima's accident in some way. Also when Pari-Rohan thing comes out. He will blast her without a thought. I hope he doesnt but till now that is what is happening.

And then he is forgiven without even apologizing. CVs really gotta work on the character and not ruin it.

There is no justification for his actions, justify karna pade to every1 has reasons even for the crimes they commit.

KVG is the only reason I forgive Rohit each time.

Originally posted by: togepe30

And what did she do to deserve this?

He always does this. Whether it was abt Dipa's seating, the launch of that technology where they first met where he insulted her in the party, Pooja's malfunction, the watch incident, etc.

Hez been shown as a short-tempered illogical person, who misbehaves at the first instance of a problem.

I can totally imagine what will happen if he finds out Sonakshi was involved in Raima's accident in some way. Also when Pari-Rohan thing comes out. He will blast her without a thought. I hope he doesnt but till now that is what is happening.

And then he is forgiven without even apologizing. CVs really gotta work on the character and not ruin it.

There is no justification for his actions, justify karna pade to every1 has reasons even for the crimes they commit.

KVG is the only reason I forgive Rohit each time.

Agree. She does not deserve to be at the receiving end of all this. Which is why she needs to cut off from him.

I agree that he was wrong many times and he did not even apologise for the instances you mentioned.

However, since I am from a psychological background, I seem to understand the reasoning behind. I'm in no way justifying him... im just saying that there is a reason for this, this and only this issue.

@bold- psychology says, they do. Reasons that sometimes we can understand, sometimes it's beyond us. But it's the way the mind works 😉

Originally posted by: togepe30

And what did she do to deserve this?

He always does this. Whether it was abt Dipa's seating, the launch of that technology where they first met where he insulted her in the party, Pooja's malfunction, the watch incident, etc.

Hez been shown as a short-tempered illogical person, who misbehaves at the first instance of a problem.

I can totally imagine what will happen if he finds out Sonakshi was involved in Raima's accident in some way. Also when Pari-Rohan thing comes out. He will blast her without a thought. I hope he doesnt but till now that is what is happening.

And then he is forgiven without even apologizing. CVs really gotta work on the character and not ruin it.

There is no justification for his actions, justify karna pade to every1 has reasons even for the crimes they commit.

KVG is the only reason I forgive Rohit each time.

Am fully in agreement & feel the same way. In real life I might be charmed by Dr Rohit but won’t like him. I like him coz of how KVG plays him.