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Originally posted by: guddi01

I strongly disagree with you. Its takes 2 people to make a marriage. She could have insisted to go with him and even when Mini was missing her Father she did nothing.

I suspect and it might come out later that he wanted het to go with him but she choose to stay behind and look after the in laws. I flatly refuse to believe that he never asked her to do so.

Hence his lack of interest in the Wedding. So you are either naive or blinded on the context that all was rosy in there Wedding when infact there was nothing there at all.

In a Marriage its takes two people to make it work not one. There are shades of grey in this Marriage which will be coming in front of Mini soon.

Can't blame the Husband if he went looking elsewhere if its not in the marriage. Gender blame is so easy when not looking at the root cause of the problem.

I find this line extremely objectionable.

If it's not in the marriage, try to work it out. If not possible, make a clean break of it and then move on!

EMA cannot be condoned or explained in this fashion. Very upset!

Originally posted by: Padmajaan

I find this line extremely objectionable.

If it's not in the marriage, try to work it out. If not possible, make a clean break of it and then move on!

EMA cannot be condoned or explained in this fashion. Very upset!

Originally posted by: Padmajaan

I find this line extremely objectionable.

If it's not in the marriage, try to work it out. If not possible, make a clean break of it and then move on!

EMA cannot be condoned or explained in this fashion. Very upset!

Agreed. Nothing, I repeat, Nothing can ever justify EMA. Even if your partner refuses to share the bed with you - FIRST break the relationship THEN do whatever you want... IF (which by the way didn't happen) Babita refused to go with Ashok and he was lonely, he should have divorced her and then done whatever he wanted to...

Originally posted by: Padmajaan

I find this line extremely objectionable.

If it's not in the marriage, try to work it out. If not possible, make a clean break of it and then move on!

EMA cannot be condoned or explained in this fashion. Very upset!

Totally agree. I simply don't understand why spouses cheat. If they are not getting along, just divorce, go separate ways and then do whatever you want.

No need to be offended at all. Its a reality that it happened but she made no effort at all. That's a fact and we know that she comfortable in the serving the elders at the expense of her Marriage. At that time it would not have been possible to divorce, so maybe that option was not there for her.

However lets wait and see what the CV have in store regarding this matter closure, because they have hinted that Mini will discover the truth that it was not all black and white in her Parents Wedding but had shades of Grey.

Its so easy to blame the wandering party ie the Male and hence the gender blame game.

Nothing can excuse or justify EMA, no matter what your spouse did or did not do. Two wrongs don't make a right.

What I do want to know is what happened in the first 7 years of their marriage, before Ashok met Meeta? I think this will be explored in future, when Babita will have to acknowledge her past and move on. She will need HS' guidance in this but until she puts it behind her, she will never fully move on. As NB has said, Babita cannot blame herself for the EMA itself, that was entirely Ashok's doing, but if for whatever reason there were incidents or issues in the first 7 years of the marriage that we don't know about, then we'll see. I won't comment until we are shown more details or flashbacks.