Slowly and steady: ajao saray - Page 75

Originally posted by: inlieu

Because she only deals with things at the superficial level, without thinking through things. Minnie and HS' interaction convinced her to stay back but she did not introspect about the reason why she wanted to leave the haveli in the first place and why it bothered her.

Proposal ke Pehle sorry bulwaleti, Itna siyappa nahi hoti na.

Bechara phas Gaya, ab to peeche bhi nahi hat Sakta, apni Beti ke liye hi sahi Zehar peene ke liye bhi ready hoga.

Sometimes I feel like cvs want to show us why women only suffer with all the situations, men’s also feel the pain na😃

Or they want show us how to tackle the ego situations throughout the marriage life and how to be live happily ever Or Sadly in India nowadays because of small ego issues also taking divorces they want tackle those issues 🤔

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

It clears up a lot of things! Thank you! 🤗

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Originally posted by: asmaanixx

We have to keep one thing in mind: the Babita we were introduced to will never be the same Babita we end up with. Otherwise, there's no point to this show. The whole purpose is to make Babita go on a journey where she rises from dependent and fearful of others to becoming an independent woman.

To some extent, she will be testing his love for her. A few months back, she had just gotten her divorce and was taking her first steps into the real world by establishing her career. Yes, HS has been with her through all those times, but there have been moments where he has hurt her immensely. So for her to want that reassurance that he will be there with her no matter what, isn't wrong. Could her methods be better? Yes. Again, this is something that she needs to learn.

As for the gifts, those things could be want Babes had wanted for herself. Even though Ashok's jhumke weren't anything special, the one HS gifted her are. Those were selected and gifted only to her. No one else got a similar pair.

That's what she said in the starting of the episode to Minni that I thought he will. Chops his ego but he choose me, he truly love me.. She will surely need some assurance in coming days as well bcoz he has shown her mixed feelings to her these days and it's nothing wrong in getting assurance that the person u r going to marry is loving u or not... But her way was wrong that it... Lets hope she realizes it and rectify it...

Originally posted by: annx

Also to those saying HS is going in it for Minnie's sake, then if we look it from another perspective didn't Babita stayed back for Minnie too? In her own way, she said by helping HS in sorting things between his FIL and him, she had made it equal.

She was stepping out and leaving for good. If she was that self-centred and egoistic she'd have left no matter what... BUT it was for Minnie that she decided to let go of her ego, hurt and self-respect... Hell, she even proposed!

But she couldn't completely let go of her hurt... I don't blame her for that. Also, there were some insecurities. I get it that the way she did it was wrong, very very wrong... but I think it's okay... as I've been saying, she's not that bad.

And as someone said, we tend to overreact at whatever Babita does and ignore Hanuman's mistakes or give him benefit of doubt!

@bold... This is what o was saying she kept her ego aside and proposed him... Thought she was hurt by his words but she gave a chance to them as a couple as a family... If she has so much of ego she would have been left to matter whatever would. Have been happened.... Agar uska ego bada hota to kabhi imarti ke letter be feelings Nani bolti... Chod deti HS ko apni problem solve karne... Yes she came bcoz Minni got her.. But again she was hesitating bcoz the man who called himself as her daughter's father attacked her character... (I personally feel HS should not have done that his intentions were to protect them. But he have done a damage by attacking her character, instead that he also have done something else.. Either keeping quite or share his stress but he chose the extreme.. ) how can she face him and come back for the she needs a push and that's Minni...

But now she stayed back without any push...

One such blunder of Babita made us think that's she don't deserve HS... How can we...

They are made for each other with their flaws....

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

There's nothing wrong in having desires. She can have them and she can voice them. But if everyone's agreement isn't involved, then your own desire for the object tends to dim as well.

I guess that why Minni don't say her anything this time...

Originally posted by: inlieu

Exactly. The intent is understandable, the method not so much.

I was also totally against what he said to her the other day because the intent was understandable but the method not.

I still think he could have found a better way to achieve the same results instead of insulting her as a woman, entrepreneur, and most importantly as a mother when he indicated that Minnie would live like an orphan if Babita didn't start paying attention to her. His words were harsh and cruel even.

Similarly a few weeks ago because of Minnie he had asked Babita to stay away from him and was ignoring her hanky, etc. but he did not insult her. It hurt her enough to want to leave, though and even though I hated seeing Babita upset, I did think that was much better than the recent insult.

Bottom line is, in my case I understand both characters and when I see that they do something wrong I will call them out for it.

Babita had every right to leave the house when she felt her dignity was at stake. Her method was not ok, though because she used the case as an excuse.

Right now HS' biggest flaw, that I can see at least, is his over-protectiveness towards Babita and now Minnie. It's going to hurt them both if he keeps this up because he will be the one to spew venom at some point if his whole Neelkantha analogy is anything to go by.

@bold.. It can be fine now but in long run someday the bubble will burst and the venom which he will spew will again be a disaster just like the maryada scene...

He have to express his feelings to them though Now it may hurt them but they will understand him as the way of approach will be different...

Originally posted by: inlieu

It's not wrong at all. I just meant that she didn't put his choice over her own, that was not the track her mind was on in that scene.

please don't take me wrong..

But if we think from her ego pov we will feel like that but if we see it through the love she have for him it will look beautiful and we can see that she dint take the chunni of her choice even she liked it bcoz it was not his choice...

For this kind of action from their partner like. Selecting dress for them is what every woman wants.. And expects from their partner..

Whatever Babita is doing right now is wrong but she will never badmouth Imarati, never ever. If she does then samajh lena Babita's character has been ruined completely. For me the way makers introduced the Imarati track and now this ego track is wrong. Imaan had such a beautiful love story. They were so much in love. It was a really beautiful and painful chapter of HS's life. But the way they introduced this didn't worked for me. Now this ego track. I hope they will handle this track sensitively.

In the chuuni sequence she liked the red chunni but she didn't took it bcoz HS didn't liked it.

OK if we come up with recent events in the show...

First he said he is Minni father by which he gave a signal to Babita ki I urs.completely...and them he was about to come and proposed her but the case popped up and he left...

Then when he came back she was waiting for him to come back... She asked him if anything is bothering him or is he facing any issue as he went without telling anything... She expected him to open up if he have any issue but he ended up questioning her character...making himself a paraya Mard again from her daughters father...

Then imarti case got solved all the mess was cleared and Babita have searched a new house as she can't live there and get haunted with his words that night...

After that when babes and naeem bi had discussion on HS drinking habit and how he left it as Minni asked him...naeem bi said that he had a cute relationship with Minni even prior to u.. Then babita said I don't want to force myself on him... Why u know the only question she had in her mind was if he loved me then why don't he share his pain to me...

Then again when she saw that bcoz of her ego and to called self respect her daughter and the man she loved will be suffering the kept all. Her insecurities aside and proposed him... With the last line agar aap chaho to... Means if he wishes to be with her... And he reciprocated with making her makan malkin... And then Babita was on cloud 9 with her thoughts of her wedding and love... But after the Khulna gifting thing she realized that this man called himself paraya and questioned my character and I m forcing myself on him the why did he agree to marry me... Is that his love for Minni as father or the love he have for me...

See her action and the way she dealt her insecurities and the way she represented them was totally wrong but her feelings are genuine she loves him yaar... Dekha nahi kaise ro rahi thi when he went to Chandigarh...