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Originally posted by: sanam912

BANG ON riti

He is holding on to his insecurities of losing his daughter .. but he will suffocate if he keeps bending in front of her ego to please/placate her all the time

Its a pity when the relationship comes to that .. been there done that .. !!

I don't know I felt so bad for him today..feeling like where are his wings in all this...when we talk about giving wings to Babita ..her desires and needs..

I also agree with the fact that our society have conditioned men to be strong..to be responsible more that they will handle things but what if they need help too ..why do we regard crying for men to be their weakness. Babita needs to be his emotional support too ..for seven years he has piled up so much hurt .. yes he said few things but as all it happened .. babita's daughter could see his hurt while she couldn't..she indeed has long way in understanding him and for that to happen it's important for HS to let his guards down... To expose his insecurities.. his fear regarding their relationship and yes now I too believe his fear for Minnie also has a role in it ..

Originally posted by: riti4u

I don't know I felt so bad for him today..feeling like where are his wings in all this...when we talk about giving wings to Babita ..her desires and needs..

I also agree with the fact that our society have conditioned men to be strong..to be responsible more that they will handle things but what if they need help too ..why do we regard crying for men to be their weakness. Babita needs to be his emotional support too ..for seven years he has piled up so much hurt .. yes he said few things but as all it happened .. babita's daughter could see his hurt while she couldn't..she indeed has long way in understanding him and for that to happen it's important for HS to let his guards down... To expose his insecurities.. his fear regarding their relationship and yes now I too believe his fear for Minnie also has a role in it ..

I think we all felt bad because he has been transparent, sincere and all-giving in to this and when he was manipulated into bending down to her demand (ego) .. why because he loved her genuinely .. it truly made him realize the gravity of having to deal with a woman-child, total opposite of his imarti ..

he has always had his wings .. they are something that he has acquired at his own merit .. with his hard work .. unlike her who got her wings through her daughter .. I feel this should be a lesson for him to demand/verbalize his desires & needs .. not just fulfill others'

Its a sad truth .. but a truth that now parents/men are willing to address ..

True .. she has a long way to grow up to being his equal .. but I feel in all of this there will be some collateral damage .. Don't know what ..

Hiee Guys.

I'm Prashu..i have been reading all your posts.. Some bash Babita.. I want to slightly differ from all of you saying she should do this.. That etc etc. Thats too ideal. Hum Sab galti karte hain. And that is so okay. Babita is not God. She is a human.

We all are flawed.. Some are egoistical.. Some are rude.. Some are very practical. Some are very emotional.. Some are super sensitive.. Some are head strong. Babita is NOT an ideal woman.. She has flaws.. And she showed it to Hanuman..

When I and my husband got married.. Even though it is a love marriage.. There were certain personality layers we came to know about each other in 1st year of marriage.. We had tons of fights.. After lot of dialogues we are standing today together bruised but.. We have bent our personalities for each other.. And we are still same in front of others. In some places even I am egoistical.. In some place my husband is.. But we know that about each other yet will still explore so many things.. We have to be ready.. Caz for both of us.. Relationship and love we share matters..

Babita cannot change completely but she will understand with experiences how to control her ego. And where to draw the line, how much to bend.. Etc etc

Ideal woman or man doesn't exist. Ashok must have seen Babita's nature.. But he backed off. Hanuman accepted her.. Because he knows she is worth it. There must be layers of Hanuman still to be shown to us! We don't know that. But as a husband and wife.. We should know each others flaws yet accept each other. It's a very difficult thing.. But if we can accept.. That is huge. There will be tremendous shift in relationships if we all accept each other as the way others are. Today, relationships break due to no communication and moreover no acceptance to each others personalities. Constantly fighting with each other on what they think is right.. What is ideal.. But reality is Ideal world doesn't exist. Ideal person or relationship doesn't exist at all.

Babita and Hanuman will explore each others personalities and get comfortable with each other.

No human being is perfect. Hanuman is not perfect. He too has flaws (which is yet to come out) like Babita does. Babita’s are more evident right now because writers are taking us to that direction, but Hanuman’s flaws will also come forward at the right time.

They aren’t perfect, but they are perfect for each other. They both need to realize and acknowledge each other’s flaws, and accept each other despite it. They also need to realize each other’s values and importance in their life. And most importantly to not let ego come in between their love.

Pyar toh dono ne karliya ab yeh pyar nibhana bhi in dono ko sikhna padega.

Ye chunni wala scene kya tha phir? Will HS give Babita the chunni at this state of mind? 🤔

Do you guys think they will delay the wedding? Of what I could make out of dadu /beeji’s conversation in the episode, I feel they will delay the wedding.

Originally posted by: riti4u

Yes I feel that too ..his putting up a mask when he is clearly breaking inside... I mean it puts that external burden on person that they can't be themselves freely.. it's like some restrictions that they have set themselves into just to protect people they love ..and in that regard is his unconditional love is also his flaw very true.. I don't know why I remember it now but Imarti's dialogue in the letter... Itni bhi Preet achi nahi.. ki Jaan hi le le ..and then his own admission of his extent of love..when he tells Minnie that even if we hold person tight then also it's suffocating.. but isn't he suffocating himself .. imagine being in a relationship when a person has to think carefully about words he has to choose and constant reminder of what if it hurts her .. there is no freedom in such relationship..no freedom to be actually his real self.. more I think more I believe that it's very important for people to be blunt at times...to tell their insecurities..their fears ..exposing their vulnerable side.. to the person they love... If that person really loves them than he or she would try to understand where those are coming from..

Exactly. The relationship has always been imbalanced and it will be even more so in the coming days. He needs to stop being over-protective about Babita and Minnie just like they need to learn that he won't always be in a good mood or frame of mind, that he has his own frustrations, challenges, etc. He may lash out for no fault of their own or may struggle to solve certain problems, but that's often what we do with people we love. Minnie is still young and learning, whereas Babita's self-centered nature makes her oblivious to other people's needs, often even Minnie's.

I don't know in which aspect HS will feel like he can even open up to Babita. He has been the emotional care provider in a way since they first met. The first instance where she had the chance to take up the role reversal she fled the scene. This will have definitely made him retreat further emotionally.

Originally posted by: riti4u

He was hurt with way she asked .. it was an emotional blackmail..a proof of love that she was asking..he had to prove it inspite of everything he has done

Exactly, this is what hurt him the most, not that she was asking for an apology but the reason behind it. The fact that everything that has happened so far has still not registered in her mind.

Again, contrast this with Minnie who didn't ask him to choose when she was in hospital. He had told her he would not stop them if they wanted to leave.

I am sure more of his insecurities around Minnie will come up but he needs to express himself. He needs to say he would not let her go from his life. Babita did not witness their conversation in hospital so she has no idea what went down. After yesterday's episode, I feel as if something like this is going to come up at some point, and then he will have to tell Minnie that he loves her and feel confident in exerting his rights as a father.

Originally posted by: sanam912

BANG ON riti

He is holding on to his insecurities of losing his daughter .. but he will suffocate if he keeps bending in front of her ego to please/placate her all the time

Its a pity when the relationship comes to that .. been there done that .. !!

Totally agree - what a shame he has to go through this!

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

Ye chunni wala scene kya tha phir? Will HS give Babita the chunni at this state of mind? 🤔

Do you guys think they will delay the wedding? Of what I could make out of dadu /beeji’s conversation in the episode, I feel they will delay the wedding.

Aise halaat mein shaadi ka hona thoda ajeeb sa lag raha hai

Originally posted by: sanam912

BANG ON riti

He is holding on to his insecurities of losing his daughter .. but he will suffocate if he keeps bending in front of her ego to please/placate her all the time

Its a pity when the relationship comes to that .. been there done that .. !!

Me too been there done that and there is no point in this at all!🤗