Anaa aur muhabbat: ajao saray - Page 30

Originally posted by: sanam912

It is not..

I think what ph are trying to show is the journey of both .. one coming down from her high ego .. and the other coming out of his buried emotions in his heart ..

As much heartbreaking it is watching the two .. it will be worthwhile watching their journey ❤️

Hi Sanam, lol me too, I am in love with Anirudh and in awe of him because he has made HS what he is.

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i have read so many posts stating that babita is wrong.

if you look at it on face value, yes she is wrong. but this is not her ego talking, not even her self respect. this is her fear talking.

Yes, HS has been very patient, but that does not negate the fears babita has. she is experiencing love for the first time. she is that immature 18 year old girl, she needs guidance. she fears that again she will be left alone.

previously when talking to mita's parents she clearly states that she did not speak becuase she was afraid to be left alone, left behind. and it is not that it is a serial and dialogues and all, but a woman actually comes to know when something is not right, when something is missing in her life. this can be called a saxth sense. i have seen a few such cases in reality and the sixth sense never failed.

babita has started to love HS, but she needs constant reassurance and HS cannot understand this because he had a happy marriage with imarti. he cannot understand the insecurities and babita cannot understand how to feel that security and that is why she asked for it in such a manner.

during the scene where babita is looking at lehengas, her need for assurance is so obvious when she asks her young daughter whether she is saying the right thing or not.

Originally posted by: inlieu

I remember HS once saying that even if he was an emotional person, he never let his emotions overtake his touch with reality. This will serve him well in the coming weeks and months.

Yes, I have noticed . He is very sharp and observant . And I admire this trait of his. I look forward to seeing how he plays it out with her

Originally posted by: Padmajaan

Hi Sanam, lol me too, I am in love with Anirudh and in awe of him because he has made HS what he is.

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Thank you .. Looking forward to more interaction and mutual admiration..

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First of all, HS ki deewanio (me included)..mubarkaan. Some had been saying how wrong HS was and he should say sorry. To lo ji...he said sorry. He did not let his ego come in between the right and the wrong. Hs ki jeet. matlab hum HS ki gopion ki bhi jeet. 😊😳

Now coming to the show, those who are still saying Babita does not have ego are wrong. The makers themselves are making other characters (first Poonam and in precap, HS) talk about Babita's ego. Today even Mini understood that her mom has ego problem.

So that got me thinking. How much do we know about Ashok and Babita's marriage? I mean before Ashok returned from London. I remember only two scenes...one when they got married and Babita entered the Khurana house. The other Ashok playing with little Mini and Ashok Babita eye lock or something on those lines. Rest of it was all through dialogues. Ashok at one point said that he had asked Babita to come but she gave priority to Dadu and Beeji. I can't remember the exact lines. But it was something on this line. Those who supported Babita said what else could she have done, etc, etc.

But looking back after today's episode, I think there are missing pieces to Babita Ashok married life. Ashok cheated much later. Not initially. So what went wrong?

From my own experience I can say that starting life from scratch in a foreign country is really hard. Many people in India don't realize this. When I got married, my husband told me to come after three months. He needed the time to switch job (he was looking for better pay), look for a good apartment and set things up before I came. He wanted to do that so that I don't have problems settling down. He did come with me to visa office and I had my visa as well as air ticket. It's just that he needed time and I gave him. Ours was also shuddh desi arranged marriage.

So this leads me to think...probably Ashok too needed time to set things up before taking Babita with him. Babita did not like it. Her ego got hurt. Later, when Ashok wanted her to come, she made up excuses of looking after Dadu Beeji, etc. Perhaps she wanted Ashok to say sorry just like she wanted HS to say sorry today. Ashok has his own ego. Akhir everybody is not so pyara like our dear HS. Ashok never said sorry. It then became a clash of ego. Ashok got fed up and ended up with Mita. I am not saying the ego clash gave Ashok any right to cheat. I am simply trying to put together some facts that may have existed.

Plus bringing Poonam for one scene just to state Babita has ego problem is significant.

I don't know if Babita will learn from her mistakes, whether she even realizes what has done wrong.

Today HS was hurt. Even Mini could sense it. But Babita remained in her own world. She had no remorse at all and started selecting lehengas. From what she told Mini today, I got the impression that when it comes to ego, HS has to bend all the time. Not a good thing for a good marriage.

Originally posted by: attiya1.3

I must say, till date, this episode has touched or I would say , moved me to the core. I won't be doing praises of writers because they are as usual brilliant, what I must say, what a transformation they had created in babita.

A women , who spent 17 years without any demand, right into a marriage was demanding an apology in a relation which was just created 17 hours before . A women who never took a decision now puts a condition . In this tangent, it's a commendable development in the character of the women.

But on other hand, this women forget that what is a difference between right and demand. A right is earned whereas ,a demand is a condition. She put a condition between ego and love and our man, as usual, just realize the reality and future of this relation. How he can lose this women whom he earned after such struggle. The decision was simple; the women demanded love and the man, just loved😍.

A beautiful episode where nobody was wrong. As usual, anirudh was just outstanding with emotions.such a heart touching performer. Love and ego! The struggle is real guyzz❤️🧡💛

My sentiments but love cant be that blind...he should slow down or stay "live in" should have let her move ...so she realizes his true worth...it was her ego and to prove to Punam....don't see her cooking /catering...just crying/:arguing..... A true character assassination and complete turn from docile to dominating?!

Originally posted by: rose1000

Plus bringing Poonam for one scene just to state Babita has ego problem is significant.

I don't know if Babita will learn from her mistakes, whether she even realizes what has done wrong.

Today HS was hurt. Even Mini could sense it. But Babita remained in her own world. She had no remorse at all and started selecting lehengas. From what she told Mini today, I got the impression that when it comes to ego, HS has to bend all the time. Not a good thing for a good marriage.

Because of Poonam we learned that Babita had ego issues even when she was younger. So this subject will come up again and again.

I think HS will bend but at some point he will start becoming less affected by her emotional blackmail and conditions, and then he will also stop wanting to do it. Then she will get a reality check that things are not always going to go her way and that she would have to think about his feelings too and drop her ego sometimes. I agree, the marriage can't be one-sided in this aspect - it won't last long.

I think from character growth pov, he will have to start confiding in her / baring himself open in front of her .. and for her to learn the difference between ego & self respect ..

Agree completely that he can't bend in front of all the time .. eventually he will break and not give in.. but for her to understand where he stands/comes from .. he too needs to start communicating ..

Else this relationship will not last long

Originally posted by: sanam912

I think from character growth pov, he will have to start confiding in her / baring himself open in front of her .. and for her to learn the difference between ego & self respect ..

Agree completely that he can't bend in front of all the time .. eventually he will break and not give in.. but for her to understand where he stands/comes from .. he too needs to start communicating ..

Else this relationship will not last long

Yes, he needs to start communicating, slowly but surely. I know it will be hard for him to do that overnight but he must start somewhere. Having said that, I don't think she has shown any signs that she is ready to provide that space to listen to him, or to help him speak up.

I don't know which way this is going but my stomach has been churning slightly since the episode aired.

Originally posted by: inlieu

Yes, he needs to start communicating, slowly but surely. I know it will be hard for him to do that overnight but he must start somewhere. Having said that, I don't think she has shown any signs that she is ready to provide that space to listen to him, or to help him speak up.

I don't know which way this is going but my stomach has been churning slightly since the episode aired.

**Edited**

Very true .. she has never given him the space or chance to hear him out especially when she wants something from him ..

Him too without hurting her ego has not been able to get through her ..

I am not anticipating romantic episodes .. but I m sure ph some tricks up their sleeve to show the learning curve..

On a side note are you based out of India or elsewhere?