Isn’t Mini too rude

Don’t you ppl feel that Mini has been shown to be extremely rude. For whatever reasons (as reasons might be justified) I don’t feel someone in normal household of that age behaves this way. Whatever are the circumstances, but we won’t glorify someone 17 talking that way. Mini usually is rude with every elderly person who talks bit in elderly pattern( what I mean is even we see certain elderly ppl being little as per their age, not all are very calm and composed) but still we have always been taught to respect elders unless something they do is really so bad and impacting us.

The way she behaves with Khatri is understood as he is mean but again her always calling him Khatri even in front of his wife or her behaviour earlier on with Naeem bi or then with Preeti’s mother is little too much. Nothing is ever handled by Babita, it is always Mini and Babita never evn tries to intervene. Now when Babita has been shown to be more confident and bold still she does not speak, it is usually Mini.

She feels responsible for her mother and like she has to speak on her behalf because babita isn’t one to fight for her rights or argue even if she’s in the right (recently she’s started doing this more). Mini is of a younger generation where respect isn’t just given due to age but it is earned. Yes she can be a bit hot headed but I think it’s due to all she’s endured in her young life and all the injustices they’ve faced that makes her defensive and feel like she has to be strong. Let’s be fair, she can’t be compared to others her age coz she’s had to endure a lot more than even ppl older than her. Mini is a bit more aware of the world even at her young age compared to babita who mainly knows tradition, religion etc as opposed to facts of life, the law, rights etc. I personally love her outspokenness- rather be outspoken than a doormat like babita was for most of her life. The only ever time mini has been rude imo is when she’s defended either herself or her mother, and can u blame her when everyone they knew all their life turned against them at a time they needed them most? Preets mother deserved it and I think she’s more outspoken and brash with Naeem bi than rude

There are many children who have gone through worst situations but hers was not bad compared to child abuse etc but was made by her Family including her own Mother etc. In staying to look after the inlaws at the expense of her Marriage and Child.

But no way does that justify the way she speaks to her elders etc. I can understand that different people or situations may justify it but on the whole even speaking to Nayeem be or even HS she has been rude to and has been called out on it.

But I think that Babita needs to correct her and not stand and smirk behind Mini. Maybe I was bought up to respect my elders and not to be rude. Once a rude impression is given even 10 good things will not correct the 1st impression.

Life is hard but you can not blame rude behaviour on any excuse especially in the young.

Yes, Minnie has been rude and aggressive too when dealing with others, especially elders.

I think her spunk and bravery are lauded but her rudeness is never reigned in by anyone. Ashok and Lovely are just the same so it's a behavioral pattern I attribute to the way kids are raised in the Khurana household - no disciplining.

Which is why I loved that scene when HS scolded her for being rude to her mother and then stopped Babita from going to pacify her. The message there was that no matter what Babita did, Minnie could not misbehave with her. I loved the way he counted to 5 and Minnie recognized that authority and yielded. On the other hand, Babita had to resort to emotional blackmail and threaten to stop eating in order to get Minnie to apologize for misbehaving with Beeji. Minnie needs to be taught these things, and I agree with HS that if this not corrected she may get out of hand.

Similarly, it's great that she knows how to defend herself verbally and physically, but she needs to know when to use her karate skills and when to solve problems by talking things out. It is part of growing up - learning to use one's judgement when handling conflicts.

Originally posted by: inlieu

Yes, Minnie has been rude and aggressive too when dealing with others, especially elders.

I think her spunk and bravery are lauded but her rudness is never reigned in by anyone. Ashok and Lovely are just the same so it's a behavioral pattern I attribute to the way kids are raised in the Khurana household - no disciplining.

Which is why I loved that scene when HS scolded her for being rude to her mother and then stopped Babita from going to pacify her. The message their was that no matter what Babita did, Minnie could not misbehave. I loved the way he counted to 5 and Minnie recognized that authority and yielded. On the other hand, Babita had to resort to emotional blackmail and threaten to stop eating in order to get Minnie to apologize for misbehaving with Beeji. Minnie needs to be taught these things, and I agree with HS that if this not corrected she may get out of hand.

Similarly, it's great that she knows how to defend herself verbally and physically, but she needs to know when to use her karate skills and when to solve problems by talking things out. It is part of growing up - learning to use one's judgement when handling conflicts.

True that

Sometimes when u undergo traumatic experiences it can make u r personality more brash and defensive

Someone who is already bold becomes more brash it is a defensive mechanism to save oneself from getting hurt. I have been der for some time i did become brash but people just loved me gave me the breathing space to revert back. Believe me she may or may not be aware of her behaviour, some love some tacit understanding some well meaning advise and she will change.

Originally posted by: AnjuRish

True that

Sometimes when u undergo traumatic experiences it can make u r personality more brash and defensive

Someone who is already bold becomes more brash it is a defensive mechanism to save oneself from getting hurt. I have been der for some time i did become brash but people just loved me gave me the breathing space to revert back. Believe me she may or may not be aware of her behaviour, some love some tacit understanding some well meaning advise and she will change.

I agree with you. Minnie is a very sensitive, caring, and basically a good girl. Love and care as well as help with anger management and now the depression she has been going through will go a long way to resolve some of these issues.

I am curious to see if she'll misbehave with HS once she hears that audio clip, and how he will react to it, especially since they have grown even closer since he last scolded her.

Originally posted by: AnjuRish

True that

Sometimes when u undergo traumatic experiences it can make u r personality more brash and defensive

Someone who is already bold becomes more brash it is a defensive mechanism to save oneself from getting hurt. I have been der for some time i did become brash but people just loved me gave me the breathing space to revert back. Believe me she may or may not be aware of her behaviour, some love some tacit understanding some well meaning advise and she will change.

Yes point is if she is like that for a reason so that is ok but why not have Babita correct her or tell her atleast. Y not show someone guide her regarding that. Just like someone rightly said that HS shouted at her when she abused her mother same way atleast she needs to be told abt it whenever required. Issue is not her behaviour but Babita has always been seen to be ok with her behaviour which is not right. When elders speak children usually do not intervene. Here not few times but always Mini speaks, why so. Agree that u should gain respect and age does not guarantee respect but that is the case with few ppl not with everyone. Mini is like this at all times and almost everyone. I have never seen her speak nicely ever. I think since a serial is seen by many, showing such arrogance is not right, it might impact the behaviour of the young crowd watching the show. What we are showing them here is that you get applauded even if you are rude. Like you mentioned that telling her that she is rude is essential and showing her change that attitude is necessary.

At no point am i saying mini is right but reasons why she is so

if u hear biji or dadu they talk about her as naughty full of life person who knows how to stand up for herself.

i guess u need a nuetral person maybe a HS who could help counsel mini to channelise her anger. right now Bab is too emo in this situation , sometimes i feel she hides behind mini and hence mini steps in to defend or handle the situation

Originally posted by: Reshmi.parekh78

Don’t you ppl feel that Mini has been shown to be extremely rude. For whatever reasons (as reasons might be justified) I don’t feel someone in normal household of that age behaves this way. Whatever are the circumstances, but we won’t glorify someone 17 talking that way. Mini usually is rude with every elderly person who talks bit in elderly pattern( what I mean is even we see certain elderly ppl being little as per their age, not all are very calm and composed) but still we have always been taught to respect elders unless something they do is really so bad and impacting us.

The way she behaves with Khatri is understood as he is mean but again her always calling him Khatri even in front of his wife or her behaviour earlier on with Naeem bi or then with Preeti’s mother is little too much. Nothing is ever handled by Babita, it is always Mini and Babita never evn tries to intervene. Now when Babita has been shown to be more confident and bold still she does not speak, it is usually Mini.

I completely agree! Being rude and outspoken ALL the time does equate to being strong and independent. I hate that the characters in the show applaud her for it. That’s not someone people should aspire to be like.

Of course she’s been through a lot and some of her behavior is justifiable, but being strong and independent never means your rude to others. You stand up for yourself, but you don’t need to pick a fight with everyone. You don’t need to be angry or rude to be strong.

I feel like Mini is shown to argue, be rude, pick fights with others when it’s absolutely not necessary in an attempt to show her as a “strong” girl. I would go as far as to claim that Babita is actually stronger and more independent than Mini is. She doesn’t pick, at least for the most part, unnecessary fights with people, but she does stand up for herself when it’s necessary.

Silence is often times better than words. You don’t need to tell people how to treat you. You SHOW people how you want to be treated. If, of course, someone oversteps their boundaries, you gracefully show them their place.

I’m glad you posted this because Mini’s character is so unrealistic to me, and I hate that people in the show are aspiring to be like her. I feel the writers have this whole being strong and independent thing all wrong.

-Riya

I think people forget that kids deal with situations differently to each other based on their mental and emotional capacity. Babita wrongly created a romanticised version of her father and she herself had dreams of being together with her father in London. It would have been a great shock to the psyche when she landed back on earth and was faced with the reality of their situation. Add to that suddenly mini at 17yo is now meant to be her mums carer, confident, coach etc. It’s almost as though for a while the roles were reversed and mini was the mother and babita the child of divorce. She’s had to also worry about very adult things like money, a place to live, preparing her mother fo job interviews etc. She’s had to grow up really fast so I think it’s a bit too much to expect her actions and attitude to be that of a typical 17 yo. I personally think that girls need to be direct (even tho They can come across and sometimes rude) because if they don’t, they can very well end up a babita who just suffers situations in silence. I know I wouldn’t be ashamed to have a daughter like mini. She has a mind of her own, and can hold her own in front of even a man... that’s something to be applauded and encouraged. She may have been brash with ppl but she’s never wronged anyone which is more important!