कसौटी ज़िन्दगी के ২ LIVE UPDATE/Episode Discussions 29 May 2019 - Page 26

Originally posted by: mily_mathew

No, her love for Anurag is obsessive or the writing of prerna which shows her only concerned for Anurag not her father, her family, even her concern only for Anurag today all indicates that PRE only concerned with Anurag, nothing else matters to her, not even humanity when it comes to Anurag, did you hear what she said, I want kom to be saved so that nothing happens to Anurag, dats obsessive. I never saw her fight for her love, she just needed an excuse to be around Anurag, dats wat she did, be it love or revenge. She is totally dependant on him, dats y she could not move on even with that mega humiliation, u have written that it takes great strength to fight for ur love and forgive, let me tell u it takes even greater strength to pick up the broken pieces of ur heart, and build a new life so that people around u and ur loved ones are not harmed, did she do that, no, she just found some reason to stay in Anurag's life so as to get back at him, dats obsession, coz she could not get over him, her world starts and ends with Anurag. I never asked pre to break off, I'm just asking her to take it slow, don't just start romancing him, discuss it, tell him how u felt, assert urself in the relationship, don't be a despo.

By condoning pre we are actually insulting those thousands of women who actually nurse their broken hearts and build a new life and take care of their loved ones in the pro ess, dats real fortitude, dats substance, what prerna showed is in simple world like the stubborn whim of a toddler.

The way writers are writimg pre, I am hurt as a woman, are they trying to tell us that the life of a woman has no purpose unless they matter to a man, coz dats what is coming to pre from the show. She could have made something of her life, be financially sound for her kid, no, she chose to come to BB and play kitchen politics so that she can get back at Anurag, if mohini today is rude to her, I'm not even angry at mohini, not because I like Mohini, but because Pre put herself in that situation.

Mily,

I just have slightly different take on this and this opinion is mostly influenced by where I live. I have seen too many broken relationships because the couples forget their love due to one thing or another and move on in their life. I am not saying moving on is easier, it is hard, but lately it has become the easiest route that couples are taking. Divorce is so common here and has become easier to get divorce than get out of cellphone contract. Again, I don’t want to give the impression that people shouldn’t move on. Sometimes the relationship is too abusive that instead of choosing to remain a victim you need to find the strength to move on.

So for me to see that Prerna came back to fight for her rights was refreshing to see but that somehow got lost in poor writing. Coming to her not thinking about Rajesh, it is not that she doesn’t care, she has made peace with his death and is choosing to move on which as we both can agree takes strength.

As for Mohini, I’m not to concerned because Prerna can fight her battles against her if needed and she has in the past.

Originally posted by: rnegi

I can sense your hurt and anger and I do agree in lots of cases men behave like assholes and destroy a woman’s life. We do need to move on and build our life. I have done that and also fought so seen both sides... it was harder to fight and stay on but it is worthwhile when it all falls in place.

Hats of to you for finding the strength to move but also the courage to fight when needed 😊

Originally posted by: Cute_Virgo

Mily,

I just have slightly different take on this and this opinion is mostly influenced by where I live. I have seen too many broken relationships because the couples forget their love due to one thing or another and move on in their life. I am not saying moving on is easier, it is hard, but lately it has become the easiest route that couples are taking. Divorce is so common here and has become easier to get divorce than get out of cellphone contract. Again, I don’t want to give the impression that people shouldn’t move on. Sometimes the relationship is too abusive that instead of choosing to remain a victim you need to find the strength to move on.

So for me to see that Prerna came back to fight for her rights was refreshing to see but that somehow got lost in poor writing. Coming to her not thinking about Rajesh, it is not that she doesn’t care, she has made peace with his death and is choosing to move on which as we both can agree takes strength.

As for Mohini, I’m not to concerned because Prerna can fight her battles against her if needed and she has in the past.

Agree.. a woman fighting for the relationship is by no means weak or dependant or obsessive.

Pre did that under no pressure and only out oh her love for anurag and it took great strength and courage against so much opposition. It was worthwhile as she got her love back...

Hello all forumvasi...missed u lot..

After long I m making post...

Mohini is such a blind lady..

Baccha Pani me dooba h bt use backhane ki jagah bahu par chillana h..

Typical SaaS Mohini is .

When anu will get to know abt prem..

Pre is superwoman..after all accidents as well prem is alive..actually anu prem pre all 3 r superman n woman respectively..

Anu saves both from every accident .

They both get saved even after so many mishappening..

Miscarriage is so easy if u don't care..here pre is doing all the things to have miscarriage bt still Prem is alive..lol

Originally posted by: Cute_Virgo

Hats of to you for finding the strength to move but also the courage to fight when needed 😊

Life teaches you a lot of lessons..the biggest lesson being take a deep breath and calm down 😀

Things are not they seem when you are angry and give in sometimes for a bigger win..

When I moved on, I was very young, had a fixed ideology about relations ships, strong headed and it was not meant to be.

Now my perspective is different....

Originally posted by: rnegi

Agree.. a woman fighting for the relationship is by no means weak or dependant or obsessive.

Pre did that under no pressure and only out oh her love for anurag and it took great strength and courage against so much opposition. It was worthwhile as she got her love back...

@bold: Phew, I got few more people who think like me😊

There is a huge difference between being a strong women and a women of strength and I have always found Prerna to be a women of strength.

Originally posted by: mily_mathew

OK, so does that mean to just brush off the hurt that ur partner gave you, not even once let him know the ordeal he made you go through. Isn't it important that u have to assert urself in a relationship and not one person call the shots, always.

Of course not . Its extremely important to assert yourself , at the same point understand the perspective of the other person and learn to let go of their mistakes. Its important to forgive but not become a doormat . Not let anyone take you for granted.

Thats what i am trying to say mily. When one lets go of their self respect , the other should respect it ..if the other person doesnt respect , then its unhealthy and leads to a very toxic relationship..it implies for both the partners..both have to be flexible ..... i am not implying anurag is a bad person ..he is all messed up. Both are acting impulsive according to the situations thrown at them . Both are weak. Both are capable of loving each other but there is not 1% growth ..infact they went downhill.

My basic complaint with prerna is that if she loved anurag so much , which she now says , tum meri hi anurag ho, tum nafrat ka natak kar rahe the mujhe pata tha etc , if she had slightest of doubt , it should have come to her mind or in her actions. It never did..this is actually insensitive writing , its not the character fault also..she knew anurag since childhood..how did she believe that he can takr advantage of a girl like this ? Use and throw ?

anurag wants to build up that trust between them , its ok..they are starting from scratch..lets not say they are madly in love or theirs is the biggest and best love story ever . They didnt even start with love so lets see .

@rnegi ..buddy, i dont expect him to go against mohini..that will be unlike anurag. But if mohini is slapping prerna , he can feel bad for prerna? He can show some reaction ? of hurt ? Of pain?

Originally posted by: rnegi

I can sense your hurt and anger and I do agree in lots of cases men behave like assholes and destroy a woman’s life. We do need to move on and build our life. I have done that and also fought so seen both sides... it was harder to fight and stay on but it is worthwhile when it all falls in place.

However in this case, as per characterisation of anurag, you cannot dismiss all his good doings and the care that he has shown by a very uncharacteristic behaviour I.e. humiliation and wedding... so she wanted to see for herself and fight for that love( she would not accept that thought). As an audience I feel that is why a she did it.

Regarding dismissing her dad’s death, I agree that is a big flaw but she did call him out once she came to know it was not an accident.. but that is done.. her dad is gone and they have had months of that acceptance. The family has moved on...

Mily, how can you blame her for wishing that K is found as else it will be a problem for anurag..what do you expect there? Komo as you said is her dad’s murderer, the person who took her love away and you want her to think about her? K almost killed her as well.. I would sincerely hope that she does not think about her and does worry about anurag who she loves.. let’s have the priorities straight.

Pre believed in her love inspite of the humiliation and that is her story..every case is the not the same.

I think we will never agree, I don't think pre believed in her love, its just that she could not believe the opposite, coz she could not accept it, not because of her love, but cause of the same desperation she has for Anurag.

Love is not always abt being weak, it takes great strength to move away from ur loved one's when they behave like asses, yet continue loving them.

No, it's not that Pre believed in Anurag's love, cvs wanted a way to keep AnuPre under one roof, so they made them married with a technicality, released a promo, and then when they understood majority of audience don't want revenge, they toned down pre and diverted all her anger towards kom, then when it was time for hina to go, they very cleverly made prerna do parda phaash of kom.. After that, since majority viewers don't like the idea of Pre angry at Anurag and want her to understand his sacrifice despite the fact that his same sacrifice almost killed her(remember she was almost run over by a truck). So they conveniently made pre forget all insults and humiliation, because the day pre calls out on Anurag's humiliation, Anurag's sacrifice and his perfect man avatar would totally be undermined. How can star plus and bt allow that to happen to their golden duck, Anurag. So this is why Pre is looking obsessive and desperate, this is why her dialogues are completely contradictory.

And the reason they have not completely reconciled is to satisfy those minority pre fans, who feel that for a woman respect also matters as much as love. It's just the poor cvs trying to satisfy everyone. Anu fans(the majority), Pre fans(minority) and AnuPre fans(considerable popation). Its pure trp business, nothing about fighting for love.

If only they had executed it a little better and given dialogues and scenes to pre so that we feel that the girl actually has an interest apart from Anurag, but that's not the convention in ITV land, women have to be emotional fools and completely emotionally dependent upon the man they love.

Its sad that daily soaps, which has majority female viewers has this kind of writing for female characters, shows a lot where we stand as a society.

Originally posted by: Cute_Virgo

Mily,

I just have slightly different take on this and this opinion is mostly influenced by where I live. I have seen too many broken relationships because the couples forget their love due to one thing or another and move on in their life. I am not saying moving on is easier, it is hard, but lately it has become the easiest route that couples are taking. Divorce is so common here and has become easier to get divorce than get out of cellphone contract. Again, I don’t want to give the impression that people shouldn’t move on. Sometimes the relationship is too abusive that instead of choosing to remain a victim you need to find the strength to move on.

So for me to see that Prerna came back to fight for her rights was refreshing to see but that somehow got lost in poor writing. Coming to her not thinking about Rajesh, it is not that she doesn’t care, she has made peace with his death and is choosing to move on which as we both can agree takes strength.

As for Mohini, I’m not to concerned because Prerna can fight her battles against her if needed and she has in the past.

But Madam Pres case is different, her total indifference to others and the total lack of other pursuits in her life irks me. That's cvs obsessive love for Anurag so that she always stays mesmerised with him.

Originally posted by: rnegi

Agree.. a woman fighting for the relationship is by no means weak or dependant or obsessive.

Pre did that under no pressure and only out oh her love for anurag and it took great strength and courage against so much opposition. It was worthwhile as she got her love back...

No way , ur abs right . Fighting for your love is by no means weak or obsessive . But prerna was NOT fighting for love . She was fighting for a "failed" relationship . She never showed any kind of hope ..of love from anurag. Its just by chance that komo was exposed. She or anurag didnt do anything for it..neither fight nor try . So their fight or kasauti is an eye wash . They won bec of cannes 😆