कसौटी ज़िन्दगी के ২ LIVE UPDATE/Episode Discussions 29 May 2019 - Page 25

Originally posted by: _charu_

I beg to disagree. Unconditional love happens only with the dead. lets say . Like meera had for lord krishna. With god also love is conditional forget humans. Love is selfish . There are loads of expectations attached and the more you are capable of giving away a piece of yourself the more you can love ..this means self respect is not the factor in true love.

If prerna loved anurag unconditionally , she would have continued to do so inspite of his lies , betrayal and humiliations. This was prernas kasauti and she failed. Doesnt she love that anurag who showers love on her ? And not the one who babied komo. Anurags kasauti is yet to come . He will also fail .

Anurags love gets alive in 2 situations. When prernas life is in danger and two, when there is a possibility of her going away from him . Other than this , he was ok treating her and letting his family treat her like a doormat. Exactly where was the trust understanding and communication , from the moment he made the promises and made her pregnant ? Dont even talk about romance . In this kind of situation , if they are on top of each other randomly , thats not romance. Romance without love is soda without fizz. Anurag is jealous that she touched vikrant , he gets close to her and asks her if she still thinks he is not good enuf..downstairs his mom slaps prerna n he stands there like a statue...FO the romance ! After 2 days both r dancing as if last 6 months never happened so we say they love each other? Its happening slowly right ? 😆 coz they love each other ! So when he builds up that trust , then we can say they are in love.

Arrey waah.. 👏 What a sherni post Charu.. 🥳

Neither is better than the other when it comes to understanding each other or considering each other's emotions and feelings.. And that's why they need time to develop some foundation for their love instead of jumping on big big words promoting their own love for the other.. 😉

Double post.. 😊

Originally posted by: _charu_

I beg to disagree. Unconditional love happens only with the dead. lets say . Like meera had for lord krishna. With god also love is conditional forget humans. Love is selfish . There are loads of expectations attached and the more you are capable of giving away a piece of yourself the more you can love ..this means self respect is not the factor in true love .

If prerna loved anurag unconditionally , she would have continued to do so inspite of his lies , betrayal and humiliations. This was prernas kasauti and she failed. Doesnt she love that anurag who showers love on her ? And not the one who babied komo. Anurags kasauti is yet to come . He will also fail .

Anurags love gets alive in 2 situations. When prernas life is in danger and two, when there is a possibility of her going away from him . Other than this , he was ok treating her and letting his family treat her like a doormat. Exactly where was the trust understanding and communication , from the moment he made the promises and made her pregnant ? Dont even talk about romance . In this kind of situation , if they are on top of each other randomly , thats not romance. Romance without love is soda without fizz. Anurag is jealous that she touched vikrant , he gets close to her and asks her if she still thinks he is not good enuf..downstairs his mom slaps prerna n he stands there like a statue...FO the romance ! After 2 days both r dancing as if last 6 months never happened so we say they love each other? Its happening slowly right ? 😆 coz they love each other ! So when he builds up that trust , then we can say they are in love.

As I said, their love has multiple issues. The main was communication. When it broke, it was still young. The man wanted to be a hero and chose the wrong route.

And let’s be honest, even prerna’s dad never stood up against Mohini. There are lot of men who do not take the confrontational route to solving problems. He knows his mum has an issue against prerna but whether it was Naveen case or other case, he has made his case clear in front of her. Anurag will never start disrespecting his mother by callling her out. We have to accept that and so does prerna and these are things people in love accept. Moh is like those horrible mother in laws who will not say anything in front of their sons but will make life hell when they are not there. Pre will need to handle her.

His approach to breaking off with her was wrong and we have debated that to death. But now what... they have to rebuild and I happy in how they are rebuilding...

He does not show obsessevie jealousy as well. It is just right otherwise he would have supported prerna in the Tapur engagement fiasco. So his head is in place and they deserve another chance to undo the mistakes they have made, anurag more than prerna.

Also, I felt that prerna does love him unconditionally... that means she believed in that love inspite of the humiliation else she would not be there in B.B. you think she actually came for some revenge. In heart of hearts, she was never convinced that he did not love her. What revenge did she take? She was smarting initially but not sure how to explain, when you love somebody and are convinced that the other person loves you, you will not give up. She could see through him. She could see him not sharing a room, his excessive babying K and also a diff person when he was with her...

So they have start again and that can happen by accepting the past...

Originally posted by: _charu_

I beg to disagree. Unconditional love happens only with the dead. lets say . Like meera had for lord krishna. With god also love is conditional forget humans. Love is selfish . There are loads of expectations attached and the more you are capable of giving away a piece of yourself the more you can love ..this means self respect is not the factor in true love .

If prerna loved anurag unconditionally , she would have continued to do so inspite of his lies , betrayal and humiliations. This was prernas kasauti and she failed. Doesnt she love that anurag who showers love on her ? And not the one who babied komo. Anurags kasauti is yet to come . He will also fail .

Anurags love gets alive in 2 situations. When prernas life is in danger and two, when there is a possibility of her going away from him . Other than this , he was ok treating her and letting his family treat her like a doormat. Exactly where was the trust understanding and communication , from the moment he made the promises and made her pregnant ? Dont even talk about romance . In this kind of situation , if they are on top of each other randomly , thats not romance. Romance without love is soda without fizz. Anurag is jealous that she touched vikrant , he gets close to her and asks her if she still thinks he is not good enuf..downstairs his mom slaps prerna n he stands there like a statue...FO the romance ! After 2 days both r dancing as if last 6 months never happened so we say they love each other? Its happening slowly right ? coz they love each other ! So when he builds up that trust , then we can say they are in love.

As I said, their love has multiple issues. The main was communication. When it broke, it was still young. The man wanted to be a hero and chose the wrong route.

And let’s be honest, even prerna’s dad never stood up against Mohini. There are lot of men who do not take the confrontational route to solving problems. He knows his mum has an issue against prerna but whether it was Naveen case or other case, he has made his case clear in front of her. Anurag will never start disrespecting his mother by callling her out. We have to accept that and so does prerna and these are things people in love accept. Moh is like those horrible mother in laws who will not say anything in front of their sons but will make life hell when they are not there. Pre will need to handle her.

His approach to breaking off with her was wrong and we have debated that to death. But now what... they have to rebuild and I happy in how they are rebuilding...

He does not show obsessevie jealousy as well. It is just right otherwise he would have supported prerna in the Tapur engagement fiasco. So his head is in place and they deserve another chance to undo the mistakes they have made, anurag more than prerna.

Also, I felt that prerna does love him unconditionally... that means she believed in that love inspite of the humiliation else she would not be there in B.B. you think she actually came for some revenge. In heart of hearts, she was never convinced that he did not love her. What revenge did she take? She was smarting initially but not sure how to explain, when you love somebody and are convinced that the other person loves you, you will not give up. She could see through him. She could see him not sharing a room, his excessive babying K and also a diff person when he was with her...

So they have start again and that can happen by accepting the past...

Sorry double post IF was misbehaving

Originally posted by: rnegi

As I said, their love has multiple issues. The main was communication. When it broke, it was still young. The man wanted to be a hero and chose the wrong route.

And let’s be honest, even prerna’s dad never stood up against Mohini. There are lot of men who do not take the confrontational route to solving problems. He knows his mum has an issue against prerna but whether it was Naveen case or other case, he has made his case clear in front of her. Anurag will never start disrespecting his mother by callling her out. We have to accept that and so does prerna and these are things people in love accept. Moh is like those horrible mother in laws who will not say anything in front of their sons but will make life hell when they are not there. Pre will need to handle her.

His approach to breaking off with her was wrong and we have debated that to death. But now what... they have to rebuild and I happy in how they are rebuilding...

He does not show obsessevie jealousy as well. It is just right otherwise he would have supported prerna in the Tapur engagement fiasco. So his head is in place and they deserve another chance to undo the mistakes they have made, anurag more than prerna.

Also, I felt that prerna does love him unconditionally... that means she believed in that love inspite of the humiliation else she would not be there in B.B. you think she actually came for some revenge. In heart of hearts, she was never convinced that he did not love her. What revenge did she take? She was smarting initially but not sure how to explain, when you love somebody and are convinced that the other person loves you, you will not give up. She could see through him. She could see him not sharing a room, his excessive babying K and also a diff person when he was with her...

So they have start again and that can happen by accepting the past...

Originally posted by: rnegi

As I said, their love has multiple issues. The main was communication. When it broke, it was still young. The man wanted to be a hero and chose the wrong route.

And let’s be honest, even prerna’s dad never stood up against Mohini. There are lot of men who do not take the confrontational route to solving problems. He knows his mum has an issue against prerna but whether it was Naveen case or other case, he has made his case clear in front of her. Anurag will never start disrespecting his mother by callling her out. We have to accept that and so does prerna and these are things people in love accept. Moh is like those horrible mother in laws who will not say anything in front of their sons but will make life hell when they are not there. Pre will need to handle her.

His approach to breaking off with her was wrong and we have debated that to death. But now what... they have to rebuild and I happy in how they are rebuilding...

He does not show obsessevie jealousy as well. It is just right otherwise he would have supported prerna in the Tapur engagement fiasco. So his head is in place and they deserve another chance to undo the mistakes they have made, anurag more than prerna.

Also, I felt that prerna does love him unconditionally... that means she believed in that love inspite of the humiliation else she would not be there in B.B. you think she actually came for some revenge. In heart of hearts, she was never convinced that he did not love her. What revenge did she take? She was smarting initially but not sure how to explain, when you love somebody and are convinced that the other person loves you, you will not give up. She could see through him. She could see him not sharing a room, his excessive babying K and also a diff person when he was with her...

So they have start again and that can happen by accepting the past...

I am loving these discussions respectfully providing povs from each other👏.. It's been days since that happened.. All we do lately is blame the other pinpointing, comparing and pushing down one or pulling up the other.. Thanks Charu and @rnegi for putting forth your thoughts nicely.. Well done.. 🤗

Wanting to stop posting anything on the forum but posts like these compel me to do so.. 😆

Originally posted by: mily_mathew

Prerna never trusted Anurag, from where I see she did want to belive Anurag does not lover her, she was that dependent on Anurag, it was not trust on love but desperation and obsession well Tbh, she did show her anger and resentment, in her own small way, she distrusted him for a long time, but she needed just the smallest excuse to belive the one thing she always wanted to believe that Anurag loves her, just because u love someone does not mean u cannot let go and move on, it takes great strength to move on too, it's just that Pre wanted Anurag in her life, one way or the other, that's desperation.

Mily, I would never call prerna’s love obsessive.. never...she fell in love with him gradually seeing his kindness and care towards her during Naveen fiasco. His ability to read her mind/actions inspite of her words telling him otherwise.

Love is not about just breaking off on the first insult and humiliation.. you fight for it and she did. She is not dependant on him... the only time she asked him for help was in the hospital and that was just desperation...

She is soft kind girl who loves her family and would love his if they give her a chance.... simple girl who wanted to do what she could to protect her loved ones..

Yes, it takes great strength to on but far greater to fight for that love... and in this case it was the right thing to do as man did love her back..and if she had moved on they would have lost that love..

Originally posted by: rnegi

Mily, I would never call prerna’s love obsessive.. never...she fell in love with him gradually seeing his kindness and care towards her during Naveen fiasco. His ability to read her mind/actions inspite of her words telling him otherwise.

Love is not about just breaking off on the first insult and humiliation.. you fight for it and she did. She is not dependant on him... the only time she asked him for help was in the hospital and that was just desperation...

She is soft kind girl who loves her family and would love his if they give her a chance.... simple girl who wanted to do what she could to protect her loved ones..

Yes, it takes great strength to on but far greater to fight for that love... and in this case it was the right thing to do as man did love her back..and if she had moved on they would have lost that love..

By condoning pre we are actually insulting those thousands of women who actually nurse their broken hearts and build a new life and take care of their loved ones in the pro ess, dats real fortitude, dats substance, what prerna showed is in simple world like the stubborn whim of a toddler.

The way writers are writimg pre, I am hurt as a woman, are they trying to tell us that the life of a woman has no purpose unless they matter to a man, coz dats what is coming to pre from the show. She could have made something of her life, be financially sound for her kid, no, she chose to come to BB and play kitchen politics so that she can get back at Anurag, if mohini today is rude to her, I'm not even angry at mohini, not because I like Mohini, but because Pre put herself in that situation.

Originally posted by: mily_mathew

No, her love for Anurag is obsessive or the writing of prerna which shows her only concerned for Anurag not her father, her family, even her concern only for Anurag today all indicates that PRE only concerned with Anurag, nothing else matters to her, not even humanity when it comes to Anurag, did you hear what she said, I want kom to be saved so that nothing happens to Anurag, dats obsessive. I never saw her fight for her love, she just needed an excuse to be around Anurag, dats wat she did, be it love or revenge. She is totally dependant on him, dats y she could not move on even with that mega humiliation, u have written that it takes great strength to fight for ur love and forgive, let me tell u it takes even greater strength to pick up the broken pieces of ur heart, and build a new life so that people around u and ur loved ones are not harmed, did she do that, no, she just found some reason to stay in Anurag's life so as to get back at him, dats obsession, coz she could not get over him, her world starts and ends with Anurag. I never asked pre to break off, I'm just asking her to take it slow, don't just start romancing him, discuss it, tell him how u felt, assert urself in the relationship, don't be a despo.

By condoning pre we are actually insulting those thousands of women who actually nurse their broken hearts and build a new life and take care of their loved ones in the pro ess, dats real fortitude, dats substance, what prerna showed is in simple world like the stubborn whim of a toddler.

The way writers are writimg pre, I am hurt as a woman, are they trying to tell us that the life of a woman has no purpose unless they matter to a man, coz dats what is coming to pre from the show. She could have made something of her life, be financially sound for her kid, no, she chose to come to BB and play kitchen politics so that she can get back at Anurag, if mohini today is rude to her, I'm not even angry at mohini, not because I like Mohini, but because Pre put herself in that situation.

I can sense your hurt and anger and I do agree in lots of cases men behave like assholes and destroy a woman’s life. We do need to move on and build our life. I have done that and also fought so seen both sides... it was harder to fight and stay on but it is worthwhile when it all falls in place.

However in this case, as per characterisation of anurag, you cannot dismiss all his good doings and the care that he has shown by a very uncharacteristic behaviour I.e. humiliation and wedding... so she wanted to see for herself and fight for that love( she would not accept that thought). As an audience I feel that is why a she did it.

Regarding dismissing her dad’s death, I agree that is a big flaw but she did call him out once she came to know it was not an accident.. but that is done.. her dad is gone and they have had months of that acceptance. The family has moved on...

Mily, how can you blame her for wishing that K is found as else it will be a problem for anurag..what do you expect there? Komo as you said is her dad’s murderer, the person who took her love away and you want her to think about her? K almost killed her as well.. I would sincerely hope that she does not think about her and does worry about anurag who she loves.. let’s have the priorities straight.

Pre believed in her love inspite of the humiliation and that is her story..every case is the not the same.