Selfish and selfless - Page 6

Originally posted by: Ananya79

Great. Then why worry about them at all?

Vartika: Where does liking GOT come into all of this? I didn't understand. Is mein GOT kahan se aa gaya. 😶😶😶😶

Originally posted by: Ananya79

Do they justify any of the wrongdoings in Friends or GOT? Showing something and justifying them is different, right?

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Originally posted by: Ananya79

Do they justify any of the wrongdoings in Friends or GOT? Showing something and justifying them is different, right?

Originally posted by: Vartika026

I'm sorry, are you the jury here? Did we present various evidences before you and appealed you to justify them? I don't think we did

Originally posted by: Vartika026

What is selfishness??? Well for me; it's when you put your happiness above others, you give more importance to your thoughts and actions and don't think what consequences it's going to leave on others. It's the general understanding, I suppose.

On my 10th birthday I was going to have a big party....I was so excited about it, in fact, was planning it for two months, but 2 days before mg birthday, my father said; "why don't you celebrate your birthday in an orphanage? And give some gifts to the kids there?" I was okay with it, but then all hell broke loose, when he added that I won't have a party and all the gifts I was going to get, will be given to the orphanage's kids. I protested of course, and my father just smiled at me and said it's okay...he's just teasing.... But even then; I could see his disappointment in me.

I'm 23 now, and still regret that day. In my selfishness, I deprived those kids a moment of happiness they could've gotten.

Coming to the point here; it's been said that Ruhaan is a selfish guy and doesn't think about his friend. Well, maybe. The way I see it, the guy was nurtured in an orphanage, he doesn't even know the names of his parents. He was not born with a silver spoon in his hand nor did he get any extraordinary upbringing. And let's be realistic here; no one really cares in an orphanage if you've had your meals, if your nails are clean, if you show manners to others, if you've been victim of someone's brutal beating.... So I'm assuming that Ruhaan didn't get all these luxury treatment either. The guy has always taken care of himself by himself only. He made a good life for himself by his own hardwork and came out as a winner.

Now he loves a girl but the said girl is already engaged to his best friend. Now, he should be called selfish if he started pursuing that girl, if he seduced that girl, try to allure her towards him. I don't see him doing any of these things. Yes, he cherishes each n every moment he gets with her, but should he be called selfish for that too? I don't think so. Doesn't he deserve even an ounce of happiness? I think he does.

Contrary to the popular belief, I think Ruhaan is quite selfless. He doesn't have an ultimate motive when he understands Mishti's pain and tries to sooth them. I don't think the thought ever crossed his mind that if I show Mishti that I understand her turmoils, she'll come to me. Without even showing any right, any possession over her, he just wants to be there for her. If it's not selflessness then I dunno what is.

It's my thought and people need not agree with it, although I'd appreciate if no one mocks me on this.

When it comes to marriage ...it has to be selfish or self centered in a way ...because marriage only involves two people ..for the rest of their lives,,.so they have to be happy together ...Hence sacrifices and putting your friends happiness first etc,..doesn’t work if it is a about. marriage . So if mishty And ruhaan love each other they need to be together..there’s no discussion about that...Mishty can’t marry veer when she is in love with ruhaan ...and ruhaan can’t sacrifice his happiness for veer ...marriage is too important and a life changing event ..so there can’t be compromises and sacrifices ...it’s not like giving up your favourite toy or letting your friend get a prize instead of you ...So if mishaan are in love they have to tell veer and cancel the wedding,..