'Need to Love' versus 'Desire to be Loved by someone!'

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Carry

@Doc.love

Dazzler

Posted: 7 years ago

Okay...so I may sound a little senseless...but I have to share it with ya'll...😆

I have been thinking about that terrace scene with Pooja...and I wasnt comfortable with what she said. I maybe wrong, but In my view, Adi has crossed some levels in Love already... I didnt agree with Pooja in that terrace scene. I think Bepannaah love makes one Selfless...not Selfish. The urge to soar and touch the skies etc happens in a superficial level of love mixed with desperation and lust. What Pooja had with Yash was nothing deep...naa hi it was something to be proud of...because it hurt other people, it devastated the lives of 2 associated souls with PooSh... PooSh love story brought mass destruction and created havoc in others' lives. Pooja was wrong there and I just couldnt agree with her at all... But she made Adi take the right decision to choose Zoya, so I let her go... 😛😛... but I cant let go of what they did to AdiYa. Their selfish actions broke AdiYa and their self worth and self esteem!!!😭..and theres just no justification for that! They should have talked to their spouses and the decision to divorce and set the other person free was the only sane thing that they had done! It also hurt...but aise tou na kerte jaise kiya... 😕 aur phir usko justify kerte rehna... Not done PooSh!😕

What AdiYa have or will have with each other is actually divine...its selfless... they are not going to give dhoka to anyone... they are not trampling over any hearts, breaking them into million pieces! They are going to be devoted to each other to an extent where they only feel the "Need to Love" each other...Not the "Desire to be loved!"

They cherish and value each other already...and that is what I feel is the correct interpretation of "Bepannaah Pyar"... 🤓 In my view, the "Need to Love someone with your heart and soul" is more over powering than the "Desire to be loved by someone.." and Aditya is already in that "Need to love Zoya" zone... where as Zoya is also there in the form of her desperate need to be his friend...to help him out with his troubles... she cares for him so deeply...and its just a matter of time for the realization of pure, undiluted and unadulterated love for Adi to hit her too..😳😊

P.s. this is just my POV. I respect all who differ from it.. ❤️

Edited by Doc.love - 7 years ago

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CaramelCritters

@CaramelCritters

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Posted: 7 years ago

Totally agree with you. In PooSh love nothing was right, nothing was pure. So whatever they did that was wrong & the wrong did which they are trying to justify it that is more wrong. For their wrong AdiYa have felt themselves worthless, Aditya almost has lost his self confidence. Before finding his peace in Zoya, He was only breathing not leaving. After all this I can never ever have support PooSh pov. You are right in saying Bepannaah love is selfless. Love is about giving & supporting each other selflessly. Whatever Pooja said that Love means rebellion. But that also have to do in front of world. But PooSh did everything hiding everyone, that kind of love may be everything but will never be named as pure or rebellious. But between AdiYa Love will be selfless, divine, pure & all in front of world. You are right in pointing about the difference between 'need to love' & 'desire to be loved'. Very well written post.

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IFLove

@IFLove

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Posted: 7 years ago

I can understand n agree with what u have written. PooSh always needed somebody to love or understand them n they were nomore interested in doing anything for AdiYa. Pooja needed romantic intense love from Adi, she needed him to be mature n caring, she needed him to b this n that. Yash needed Zoya's understanding, Yash needed her to share his miseries with her, she needed her to understand his problems without even telling her. Whereas, AdiYa were more than happy with whatever they were getting. They were happy with a fact that they loved their spouses, they never analysed positives n negatives of their spouses unlike PooSh. All they knew was loving their spouses no matter what.

N same happens now. Though we were wondering how come Adi didn't think about Zoya's reaction, u have given a perfect answer. He doesn't need her love back, he only needs to love her, care for her, protect her n he's unknowingly sure that if he does that, Zoya will do the same for him, because Zoya too feels the need of being best friend to him. Perfectly put!

That reminds me one thing from the past. How AdiYa r different from PooSh. PooSh right from the first day of their friendship, always complained n cribbed about AdiYa to eachother. I didn't hear them talking a single good thing about them even they had done nothing wrong to them. Whereas even after being cheated by PooSh, all AdiYa talked about was how good they used to be n what all PooSh used to do for them, how much they would love them n all. Adi might have called pooja a cheat thousand times, but he always used to be like "pooja used to do this for me, we used to do that together, how could she still do this to me". This differs AdiYa's need to love from PooSh's desire to be loved. AdiYa are really pure n innocent souls.

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Carry

@Doc.love

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: CaramelCritters
Totally agree with you. In PooSh love nothing was right, nothing was pure. So whatever they did that was wrong & the wrong did which they are trying to justify it that is more wrong. For their wrong AdiYa have felt themselves worthless, Aditya almost has lost his self confidence. Before finding his peace in Zoya, He was only breathing not leaving. After all this I can never ever have support PooSh pov. You are right in saying Bepannaah love is selfless. Love is about giving & supporting each other selflessly. Whatever Pooja said that Love means rebellion. But that also have to do in front of world. But PooSh did everything hiding everyone, that kind of love may be everything but will never be named as pure or rebellious. But between AdiYa Love will be selfless, divine, pure & all in front of world. You are right in pointing about the difference between 'need to love' & 'desire to be loved'. Very well written post.

Thank you soo much for understanding what I was trying to say... You have put it wonderfully...👏 Waqai what PooSh were doing was stabbing in the backs of their unsuspecting spouses.. and this can never ever be justified in the name of Love at the least!🤢🤢 And yes...they were hiding in shadows...and that pretty well explains why they were wrong and why THEY did not deserve pure souls like Aditya and Zoya!

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Carry

@Doc.love

Dazzler

Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: IFLove
I can understand n agree with what u have written. PooSh always needed somebody to love or understand them n they were nomore interested in doing anything for AdiYa. Pooja needed romantic intense love from Adi, she needed him to be mature n caring, she needed him to b this n that. Yash needed Zoya's understanding, Yash needed her to share his miseries with her, she needed her to understand his problems without even telling her. Whereas, AdiYa were more than happy with whatever they were getting. They were happy with a fact that they loved their spouses, they never analysed positives n negatives of their spouses unlike PooSh. All they knew was loving their spouses no matter what.
N same happens now. Though we were wondering how come Adi didn't think about Zoya's reaction, u have given a perfect answer. He doesn't need her love back, he only needs to love her, care for her, protect her n he's unknowingly sure that if he does that, Zoya will do the same for him, because Zoya too feels the need of being best friend to him. Perfectly put!
That reminds me one thing from the past. How AdiYa r different from PooSh. PooSh right from the first day of their friendship, always complained n cribbed about AdiYa to eachother. I didn't hear them talking a single good thing about them even they had done nothing wrong to them. Whereas even after being cheated by PooSh, all AdiYa talked about was how good they used to be n what all PooSh used to do for them, how much they would love them n all. Adi might have called pooja a cheat thousand times, but he always used to be like "pooja used to do this for me, we used to do that together, how could she still do this to me". This differs AdiYa's need to love from PooSh's desire to be loved. AdiYa are really pure n innocent souls.

I could never say it in a much better way as you have put!👏⭐️

You are absolutely right. All PooSh cared for was their own needs being satisfied. To some extent i do feel that they did what they could for their spouses, and that Aditya and Zoya were not mistake free completely. I know that they were also lacking in many things...but their lackings were based on their innocence. While PooSh gave up on them and started stabbing their backs based on pure selfish reasons! So thats where the difference comes between PooSh and AdiYa.

As simple as that yar... PooSh just did not deserve to be with beautiful , happy go lucky people like AdiYa... And they never evoked the emotions that Aditya and Zoya evoke in each other, for each other..😳😊 Hence it further proves how well suited AdiYa are for each other... Even their needs match on a much deeper level than what they had with their own spouses!😳😛

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