Were Yash and Pooja right in their attitude towards their partners ?

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Posted: 7 years ago
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Hi guys,
I was away this whole week for a family function abd couldn't watch the show. Just watcjed the last 3 epis. So finally thr diary is in Zoya's hands and we will see how Pooja amd Yash fell in love.

I was wondering about something. We have always seen that Aditya and Zoya are faced with situations which make them realize that they didnt know their partners as well as they thought. But did Yash and Pooja know Aditya and Zoya ? Aditya and Zoya werent the ideal spouses. Yes. Maybe they were the ones who always got their way. But does that make Pooja or Yash the ideal spouses? Was their attitude or stance their relationships right ?

Why did Yash never see the strength in Zoya that Adi did ? Yash loved Zoya and she too loved him, enough to elope with him. That must not have been easy on her. Yash supported her through it but never saw her innate strength. He protected her from the world as jer father had. He gave her everything she wanted. But was he the perfect husband ? To me he is no more perfect than Adi. He kept Zoya safe but was that right for her ? As a wife or even as a person Zoya deserved to know what is going on around her. She deserbed to know both the good and bad in Yash's life. He was afraid of shattering her but didnt he who had struggled enough in his life know that everyone has through go through ups and downs. Yes Zoya might have been worried but he could have supported her them rather than not tell her anything at all. He should have shared his problems with her. She should have been his friend. That was her right and duty. Yash treated her more like a child rather than a wife. He gave in to her wishes but never told him hers. How can a relationship like that stay healthy ? Every relationship works on give and take. If it was wrong of Zoya to be the one who took always, then it was wrong for Yash to be on the give side always.

The same goes for Pooja and Adi. Adi was inconsiderate . Yes. He is a bit lost in himself. He didnt bother to meet her friends. He walked out on the party without thinking of her. Yes. Pooja felt bad but did she ever tell him how bad she felt ? She was his friend. Didnt she know thar despite all his impulsiveness and anger he loved her? She was his anchor. Adi cared so much for Zoya despite havong no relation with her. Wouldnt he have cared for Pooja if she told him how bad she felt ? Maybe he never felt the need coz he never understood how deeply it hurt her. Why did she never fight ? If Adi made a mistake by not considering her feelings didnt Pooja make a mistake by not taking a stand ? By not telling him what she wanted ?


Sorry for the long post guys. 😆

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Posted: 7 years ago
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exactly
i mean did they even try to get along with their partners? really wanna know more about the diary to understand what they were thinking
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Four Of them Were Not Right in Their Stand I would Say
A Healthy Relationship Requires Trust
Zoya & Adi Trust their spouses enough
But It wasn't the same with Pooja & Yash

As You Said If Yash Had Seen Zoya As A Grown Up Women Who is Stronger & Will Stand by his side whatever happens may be they would have had a balanced relationship but He didn't He kept her in blind thinking what is going around him may shatter her ..Rather than treating her as a baby he could her told her about his issues Zoya might shatter a bit but she would never leave his hand
But Finding Those in any women is completely wrong ..Whatever reasons he gives his act cannot be justified .

Same With Adi ..Pooja should have fight and should have talk out her inner problems & the how hurt she is when he hurts her ..A heart to heart would have helped .

Pooja & yash they could have rather divorced and got into a relationship rather than cheating behind their spouses back who love & Trust them the most.
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Posted: 7 years ago
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You need to be open about your relationship with your partner. Yash-Zoya and Adi-Pooja were totally different people ..but there's something called communication ..which they never did with their partners. Instead chose their relationship to drain and chose to go the EMA way. They never put forth their expectations ..which purely stated ..they..were selfish. They were never open on their desires and problems they were facing from their respective spouses.
They have walked out of their boundaries and chose to live a seperate life and never told anything about them. Kept them in dark...whereas they themselves lived in their own world of oblivion were everything for them had to be perfect.
Such a selfish act 🤢
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Posted: 7 years ago
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poosh lacked communication .
pooja wanted adi as perfect husband rather than a friend but was she a good friend no..
not even a good human being hurting her hubby who was already disturbed from his parented relationship ...

yash failed to communicate even if he did zoya couldn't understand he didn't try hard to explain ..
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Yesterday they showed problems in PooSh too. They didn't understand their spouses, paid more attention to the shortcomings in them, took them for granted.
That's why I am saying except for that paak rishta and sachha pyaar dialogues, I didn't feel like they were justifying EMA because they showed problems in all 4 people.
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Remembering one of previous episodes, in a flashback scene I think Yash did try telling Zoya about his issues ,but Zoya seemed to not understand the extent of his problems.. In one flashback, Zoya had fallen asleep when Yash was telling her about some meeting and in the other, she was unable to understand how difficult it is to buy/rent a house in Mumbai. So, in these cases Zoya does seem naive enough to not understand the matters of the real world..
Of course, he could have tried to give her a reality check but it seems he did not try hard enough to explain and just gave up.
In case of Pooja, there seems to be a bigger communication issue mainly from Pooja's side as only one flashback wherein she expressly asked Aditya to accompany her and mentioned that she does stuff for him even when she doesn't enjoy it, like attending football matches.. But other than that there weren't any situations wherein she explained her displeasure at Aditya's actions.. Somewhere it seems that as Pooja was Aditya's best friend she too mixed the feelings of friendship with romance.. She wanted her best friend to realise that he should be romancing her without her verbally asking for it.
Cause you can blurt out anything and everything to a person who is your best friend, but in the books inspired romance the couples understand everything just by glancing at each other (untrue in real life)

So, yes.. All the four had problems which could have been sorted with some sincere discussion along with coffee or any other beverage of their preference..

Also, the diary is from her POV.. So it does not expain the feelings, thoughts of other people involved in that particular situation who might have an entirely different take on the matter.

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