Social or family pressure on marriage

Right now on CNN program is on ... it is about marriage. and they are targeting long term marriages. According to their statistics , divorce rate is falling since 1980s. The reason they are inferring is , absence of family and social pressures.

Now this is totally against our "Desi" logic where family and other social pressures are considered the main reason of success of marriage.

What do you think about it?

Originally posted by: Morning_Dew

Right now on CNN program is on ... it is about marriage. and they are targeting long term marriages. According to their statistics , divorce rate is falling since 1980s. The reason they are inferring is , absence of family and social pressures.

Now this is totally against our "Desi" logic where family and other social pressures are considered the main reason of success of marriage.

What do you think about it?

won't call it "success" if one is staying in a marriage solely because of family and society's pressure. successful marriages have many more facets than just staying married over a long period of time😊 most of the long term desi marriages i see around me r not successful....they r mere compromises disguised to look successful😊

Originally posted by: Gauri_3

won't call it "success" if one is staying in a marriage solely because of family and society's pressure. successful marriages have many more facets than just staying married over a long period of time😊

like what? staying married happily thru the honeymoon period and then filing for divorce?😛😆

Originally posted by: chatbuster

like what? staying married happily thru the honeymoon period and then filing for divorce?😛😆

read again😛😆 staying married over a long period of time is just one of the facets..not the only one😉

Originally posted by: Gauri_3

read again😛😆 staying married over a long period of time is just one of the facets..not the only one😉

never mind, i thought it was making an implicit comparison to shorter marriages that dont come with pressures😊

Originally posted by: Morning_Dew

Right now on CNN program is on ... it is about marriage. and they are targeting long term marriages. According to their statistics , divorce rate is falling since 1980s. The reason they are inferring is , absence of family and social pressures.

Now this is totally against our "Desi" logic where family and other social pressures are considered the main reason of success of marriage.

What do you think about it?

CNN people are Videshi know!!!😳 They support their data in their own manner😛.However desi or videshi....two people can pretend to be happy couple....no foriegn element can know their private activities 😊.Driving the point home.....the success of marriage is based on the two elements husband and wife.....the rest all are catalyst.....we donno if they are negative or postive catalyst...the west thinks...the society...parents....as negative catalyst....the east(desi) think..they are positive catalyst......hmm! that's the beauty of desi culture😊

Originally posted by: Morning_Dew

Right now on CNN program is on ... it is about marriage. and they are targeting long term marriages. According to their statistics , divorce rate is falling since 1980s. The reason they are inferring is , absence of family and social pressures.

Now this is totally against our "Desi" logic where family and other social pressures are considered the main reason of success of marriage.

What do you think about it?

Different culture and different pyche.. people in the western culture do not feel answerable to anyone and seem to buckle up under pressure or call it quits. We on the other hand trust and have faith in collective wisdom, in this case our families who work as our support system even when it seems they are doing the opposite.

And success of marriage is proportional to number of years of marriage or else with divorce there is no marriage to talk about..😛 whatever the reason for couple to stay put in the marriage , it works for them and hence they have succesful marriage (unless of course one of them is getting abused or tortured) .marriage is marriage no matter what others think about it, and the longer it stays that way the succesful it is. just like money is money, doesn't matter whether it gives you pleasure or sleepless nights because you are worried about it.😉

Originally posted by: lighthouse

Different culture and different pyche.. people in the western culture do not feel answerable to anyone and seem to buckle up under pressure or call it quits. We on the other hand trust and have faith in collective wisdom, in this case our families who work as our support system even when it seems they are doing the opposite.

And success of marriage is proportional to number of years of marriage or else with divorce there is no marriage to talk about..😛 whatever the reason for couple to stay put in the marriage , it works for them and hence they have succesful marriage (unless of course one of them is getting abused or tortured) .marriage is marriage no matter what others think about it, and the longer it stays that way the succesful it is. just like money is money, doesn't matter whether it gives you pleasure or sleepless nights because you are worried about it.😉

😆😆😆 the longer the better...eh......but then, may be, i'm missing the pun here😊

with u on "support system" point but have seen some instances where this so called support system was the main reason for break-up😊

isn't marriage a compromise itself, i don't get it , I am not going to give mine and my hubby's succesful compromise's credit to social pressure or any damn pressure.

A marriage should be successful because of the two people involved and the way they get along with each other. Staying together because of worries of losing face in society or because of financial fears is not a successful marriage.

Social pressure is never good. Depending on the person it either leads to being trapped in unhappy relationships or a failed relationships. Lack of social pressure can also be bad making people have a string of bad relationships or sticking around with a bad spouse.

Balance is the key. Friends and family should know when to advice and when to keep their nose out.