Attachment Issues of Mishti

Posting her after long time. Thought to share my thoughts on the new track. Based on the OLVs it is clear Mishti is not bonding with Juhi and is closer to Avni. Not sure if CVs know it but these attachment issues in children are prevalent for few. These arise primarily due to bad childhood, tormented or abusive childhood or other issues they faced of being removed from their parents. In these situations children have difficulty to attach themselves to anybody. This is can be seen in cases of adoption where kids fail to attach with adoptive parents.

Your posts are always very thoughtful with constructive analysis...ideas on addressing issues mindfully

I was thinking of this mater since long and you can see in latest OLV Misti calls Avni as "Avni ma" . The kid has attached itself emotionally with Avni that she cant see anyone in her place . The more and more I see this track is heading to adoption of Misti by AvNeil . But again a question comes how in presence of the kids mother they can . I cant compare this situation that of Raman-Ishita-Ruhi-Shagun cuz Raman had married Ishita when the custody case came up . I wonder whether CVs will go to the extent of custody . If so I can say Misti will choose only AvNeil as she is comfortable with Neil too . In a custody case the child's will is given more importance than parents and here the case is not of divorced parents living away . The child is a product of rape or we dunno what the exact story is . I wonder what will be the end but for Misti she will choose AvNeil even in case Juhi tries to convince she is her mum . And i also hold child cant easily believe Juhi if she tries to convince . Only in case Avni explains her she might accept and too she cant part with Avni so easily as she loves her moon to back .

This is so True. I agree with everything.

Also though It was Tough for Mishti even to Accept Avni but i will say It was much easier for Her as compared to make a bond with Juhi. I'l explain my point.

When Avni came To Mishti's life She was all alone dealing with all her issues at her innocent level. When Avni came initially she resisted which was again very realistic but then when realised Avni's constant assurance and her patience to have Misti's trust is not faulty, she Immediately Found a Ray of Hope in her Life and she didnt hesitated to name her as Her Angel.

Now when it comes to Juhi, Mishti is not sure about her she doeant know her she doesnt recognise her. And Obviously she Has her Angel with Herself so she doeant even bothered to make a bond with her. She is in a way secured with Avni and she look forward to her. So it will ne More difficult for Juhi to make "Such kind" of bond with Mishti, as she had already laid her trust completely on Avni, and Avni is there with her always. Also the child has seen Avneil's struggle to get her safe and sound from Vidyut's clutches, a process where Juhi was nowhere to be seen. Ao its natural for her to see Avneil as Their Saviour and Love them for that.

Originally posted by: sps0114

Your posts are always very thoughtful with constructive analysis...ideas on addressing issues mindfully

Originally posted by: AgnesFan

I was thinking of this mater since long and you can see in latest OLV Misti calls Avni as "Avni ma" . The kid has attached itself emotionally with Avni that she cant see anyone in her place . The more and more I see this track is heading to adoption of Misti by AvNeil . But again a question comes how in presence of the kids mother they can . I cant compare this situation that of Raman-Ishita-Ruhi-Shagun cuz Raman had married Ishita when the custody case came up . I wonder whether CVs will go to the extent of custody . If so I can say Misti will choose only AvNeil as she is comfortable with Neil too . In a custody case the child's will is given more importance than parents and here the case is not of divorced parents living away . The child is a product of rape or we dunno what the exact story is . I wonder what will be the end but for Misti she will choose AvNeil even in case Juhi tries to convince she is her mum . And i also hold child cant easily believe Juhi if she tries to convince . Only in case Avni explains her she might accept and too she cant part with Avni so easily as she loves her moon to back .

Originally posted by: docritu99

This is so True. I agree with everything.

Also though It was Tough for Mishti even to Accept Avni but i will say It was much easier for Her as compared to make a bond with Juhi. I'l explain my point.

When Avni came To Mishti's life She was all alone dealing with all her issues at her innocent level. When Avni came initially she resisted which was again very realistic but then when realised Avni's constant assurance and her patience to have Misti's trust is not faulty, she Immediately Found a Ray of Hope in her Life and she didnt hesitated to name her as Her Angel.

Now when it comes to Juhi, Mishti is not sure about her she doeant know her she doesnt recognise her. And Obviously she Has her Angel with Herself so she doeant even bothered to make a bond with her. She is in a way secured with Avni and she look forward to her. So it will ne More difficult for Juhi to make "Such kind" of bond with Mishti, as she had already laid her trust completely on Avni, and Avni is there with her always. Also the child has seen Avneil's struggle to get her safe and sound from Vidyut's clutches, a process where Juhi was nowhere to be seen. Ao its natural for her to see Avneil as Their Saviour and Love them for that.

Seeing new OLVs it is clear Juhi has no patience with Mishti. I get it its frustrating that Mishti has bonded with Avni and not her but Mishti has not known Juhi for that much time. We saw the effort Neil had to put in before Mishti could start trusting him, even Avni did not have it easy at first. Mishti has been through a lot, you need to be understanding and patient but Juhi is not doing any of that.

Originally posted by: .Mandy.

Seeing new OLVs it is clear Juhi has no patience with Mishti. I get it its frustrating that Mishti has bonded with Avni and not her but Mishti has not known Juhi for that much time. We saw the effort Neil had to put in before Mishti could start trusting him, even Avni did not have it easy at first. Mishti has been through a lot, you need to be understanding and patient but Juhi is not doing any of that.

Originally posted by: dsupriya

Exactly Mishti needs time and space. She will not bond so easily as she needs to trust you first. And that is because she has been abused and terrorised so much that she thinks everyone will do the same. She only knows that so has build up walls as defence mechanism.

Juhi needs to understand that. She is only thinking of her pain and her emotions but is not able to understand a child. I loved the realism here and child needs time to attach. Juhi needs to give time and patience and asking Avni to back out is completely wrong. Avni is her anchor and through Avni she needs to build that trust. Similar to what Neil did. Neil backed off but tried time and again.

Exactly, Juhi fails to understand Mishti's POV. Mishti has been through a lot, she is in a new place with new people it is going to take time for her to adjust and bond with everyone. You cannot just force yourself on her, you need to be patient and you need to give her space. Avni distancing herself from Mishti so she can bond with Juhi is a big mistake because Mishti will respond negatively to that. You rightfully said Avni is her anchor, she trusts her and right now she needs her. Gradually as she gets to know Juhi better she will warm up to her but for now Juhi needs to suck it up and do right by her child instead of being so self absorbed.

Another thing Mishti is going to be even more attached to Avni, I saw a new OLV and Vidyut actually comes to see her. It looks like the promo will play out where she is playing hide and seek and he comes into her room, I don't know if Avni will see him but you know that is going to make her fearful. Mishti looks at Avni as her savior, her lifeline and she needs her right now. I hope Avni understands this as well because she too is getting frustrated her efforts are going in vein but they need to make this a smooth transition for Mishti, give her time. In NK time it looks like it has only been a day since Mishti came to the Khanna home, that is not enough time for a child to adjust especially when that child is Mishti