Professional Women , motherhood and the term 'Guilt' - Page 3

Something that I have understood is that we cannot change the mindset of parents/in laws/grandparents etc...they are too old to accept such changes . There might be exceptions but majority wont. All we can do is to change the mindset of the future generation. What I do is , teach my son the importance of doing house hold job ...like asking him to set the dinner table , help me in keeping the house clean and when I am not well , I don't try to become a super woman...and do every house hold job...I make him understand that mother is not god or superhuman...she is ,as human as him and his dad...we also fall ill and at that time he nd dad has to be step in ...its very important to make boys understand the pain that a woman goes thru...and the best way to do it...is thru his mother...I try my best ...but then there are those outside factors who try to lead him to the archaic ways...and at that time , I try to win over those archaic thoughts thru logic and narrating personal experience ...a lot of my friends and colleagues also do the same...avoid bringing up ur boys as ATM machines and girls as maids ...teach them to understand earning money and doing house hold activities are essential for leading a healthy life..



Can't agree more dear. We all talk about female empowerment and gender equality but those will only remain in theories if we don't change out mindset. Glad to know that you are raising your boy by giving him good values and important lessons to respect women. A mother or a woman doesn't posses super power. She has her own shares of ups and downs in life. Hope the next generation's husbands will not ask their working spouses to make a cup of coffee or tea during morning breakfast or immediately after going home from office as it's a girlish job. They will share the duties equally and sometimes pamper the better halves by these small doings. Please teach your son all colors are same whether it's pink or blue. Also teach him that all pilots are not men and all nurses are not women. If a woman can fly high up in the sky and a man can take care of patients with empathy, then there is no discrimination as we all are human beings.
It was wonderful knowing you dear. Your child is blessed to have a super progressive mommy.

Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld

Something that I have understood is that we cannot change the mindset of parents/in laws/grandparents etc...they are too old to accept such changes . There might be exceptions but majority wont. All we can do is to change the mindset of the future generation. What I do is , teach my son the importance of doing house hold job ...like asking him to set the dinner table , help me in keeping the house clean and when I am not well , I don't try to become a super woman...and do every house hold job...I make him understand that mother is not god or superhuman...she is ,as human as him and his dad...we also fall ill and at that time he nd dad has to be step in ...its very important to make boys understand the pain that a woman goes thru...and the best way to do it...is thru his mother...I try my best ...but then there are those outside factors who try to lead him to the archaic ways...and at that time , I try to win over those archaic thoughts thru logic and narrating personal experience ...a lot of my friends and colleagues also do the same...avoid bringing up ur boys as ATM machines and girls as maids ...teach them to understand earning money and doing house hold activities are essential for leading a healthy life...

Originally posted by: Cloudy_Noon

Something that I have understood is that we cannot change the mindset of
parents/in laws/grandparents etc...they are too old to accept such
changes . There might be exceptions but majority wont. All we can do is
to change the mindset of the future generation. What I do is , teach my
son the importance of doing house hold job ...like asking him to set the
dinner table , help me in keeping the house clean and when I am not
well , I don't try to become a super woman...and do every house hold
job...I make him understand that mother is not god or superhuman...she
is ,as human as him and his dad...we also fall ill and at that time he
nd dad has to be step in ...its very important to make boys understand
the pain that a woman goes thru...and the best way to do it...is thru
his mother...I try my best ...but then there are those outside factors
who try to lead him to the archaic ways...and at that time , I try to
win over those archaic thoughts thru logic and narrating personal
experience ...a lot of my friends and colleagues also do the
same...avoid bringing up ur boys as ATM machines and girls as maids
...teach them to understand earning money and doing house hold
activities are essential for leading a healthy life..



Can't agree more dear. We all talk about female empowerment and gender equality but those will only remain in theories if we don't change out mindset. Glad to know that you are raising your boy by giving him good values and important lessons to respect women. A mother or a woman doesn't posses super power. She has her own shares of ups and downs in life. Hope the next generation's husbands will not ask their working spouses to make a cup of coffee or tea during morning breakfast or immediately after going home from office as it's a girlish job. They will share the duties equally and sometimes pamper the better halves by these small doings. Please teach your son all colors are same whether it's pink or blue. Also teach him that all pilots are not men and all nurses are not women. If a woman can fly high up in the sky and a man can take care of patients with empathy, then there is no discrimination as we all are human beings.
It was wonderful knowing you dear. Your child is blessed to have a super progressive mommy.

Today Ishwari with her words proved she is MIL...when Sonakshi said that she tried to tell Dev its not practical...her response ...I don't if he took this decision alone...OR its BOTH YOUR DECISION...was typical MIL ...that's what they do ...cant convince the son...come and blame the DIL for the decision in such a way that DIL will feel guilty...

When I watched todays episode especially RR and Ishwari conversation...then Ishwari and Sonakshi s conversation ...it reminded few instances from the past... situation was diff as both of us were professionals working for diff organisations ..so had to do a lot of adjustments...changing jobs/moving into a suitable roles /change work timing /work from home etc etc ..so that we could take care of our kid and at the same time work...hmmm...

All that was needed was a lil bit of ppl at home...in their case its their office ...Ishwari and RR could have taken care of the lil ones...if Sonakshi was at home ...is baby going to be with her always ...reality in a joint family ..the kid reaches the mom only during feed time ...otherwise the entire lot of ppl will want to hold the baby...but the moment lady says she wants to work then mom is needed 24/7...

I LOVED DEV today ...I know...its after a looong time... 😆 😉 he did stand by his statement of being partners...I also liked the parallels shown betwn Vicky and Elina...long back when Elina was brought home and the way he asked RR not to insult Elina ...made me feel that Vicky was much a stronger character than Dev when it came to his wife...but today I take back the words...I think Dev never had problem with Sonakshi being professionally successful...in fact he always spoke about her work with pride...he was new at the balancing act...7 yrs of separation taught Sonakshi to be more expressive ...and Dev learnt the balancing act...I hope they succeed in their new venture ...I think they will ...because now they know each others strengths and weaknesses ...hence will know when to support the other...they will work as a unit this time...