"Man is made by his belief. As he believes, so he is"
Life is something that we all want to live to the fullest. It is something that we want to appreciate, savor it each moment, cherish it and learn lessons from it. It's true that we all have only one life to be happy, to be sad, to do the impossible thing, and most importantly to make it worth living so that it can inspire others.
Sometimes we are stuck in deep problems in our life which are so harsh and cruel that we forget to live our life. We lose hope from our life that something good will happens with me, we lose ourselves and engulf into darkness and try to end our lives. We feel that now our existence has no meaning, we feel that now I'm just useless and no one is there for me. At such times we curse ourselves and maybe god that why did he created me.
But then we forget to realize one thing that we all are in this world for a purpose and our existence in this world is not a waste irrespective of how harsh and cruel our life is.
"God is our Creator. It is [God] that has made us, and not we ourselves. God has a purpose for everything he creates, including us. God created us with a "spiritual need, which includes the desire to find meaning in life. He wants us to satisfy that desire.
During such times when our lives is experiencing mess and obstacles, our mind plays games with us. It makes us look at the cup as half empty instead of half full. But as it is said that our life is in our hands only and it solely depends on us that how we are going to look and overcome those difficulties and hardships. It is in our hands that how we are going to defeat the problems and become the winner of our lives so that next time even life will be scared and nervous to put forth any hurdles in front of us.
Life only gives us two options either you do it and win or you quit it and surrender to the problems of life. There is no third option given by life to us. Some people try to choose the easiest way of surrendering themselves into the darkness of life without fighting till their last breath for the kind of life they wanted to live, while some people in spite of repeated failures and taunts fight till the end of their breath and come out as a champion .
My life also gave me so many hardships and problems since my childhood that it was not easy for me to hear people's taunt and pitiful words. But I never lost my hope that one day something good will happen with me, that one day I will prove to those people that why I am in this world, that one day my life story will inspires others to fight, that one day people will stop looking at me with pity and will appreciate my achievements and look that one day has come in my life.
I want to share my life journey through a poem:
I was never a complete human being
Is that something that snatches
the happiness & purpose of my living??
World looked at me with commiseration
Relatives would talk about my aberration
So what should I do???
Should I run away like cowards calling
it quit?
Should I feel ashamed of my disease??
Or
Should I have faith in myself with my
every whit?
I'm lucky that my parents always stood
by my side
Raised me like others normals girls with
great pride
And that helped me to a greater extent
To fight in this world for my betterment
If my parents would have never
supported me
If they would have neglected me
Then also
I would have chosen to be proud of
myself
I would have chosen to survive on my
own self
I would have never looked down at
myself with pity or embarrassment
I would have never let that affect
my mind and judgement
Yes, at times I do feel the pain of rejection
At times I do feel the pain of people's
sarcasm
At times I do feel the pain when everyone
looks at me with compassion
At times I do feel the pain for my
problems
But that won't stop me
That won't deter me
That won't clip my wings of dreams
It's easy to choose the easiest way of
quitting without any effort
But would there be any peace in my
heart??
Would I be able to look at myself in the
mirror every morning as a loser?
Would I be able to give my inner
consciousness any proper answer?
Therefore I chose the difficult path of
accepting the challenge
Now my heart is at peace and my inner
consciousness has no guilt
Now I can confidently look at myself in
mirror with a sense of achievement
Pain, hardship, betrayal, loses are
important in life to encounter
They build us and make our attitude
stronger towards our very own survival
My physical defect was painful to live
with every moment
I could have ended my life to put a full
stop to all my torments
But would that have helped me in
any way??
How would I have inspired others then??
How would I have motivated others to
look at life from a positive sense??
How would I have encouraged people to
create a space in this world for
themselves??
My life's struggle and abnormality was
not so easy to live with
Still I chose to live with it every day
"Because it was god who was my strength
and believing in him helped me in every
way"
Now when I look back at all my hard
work, struggles and labor
I feel proud that my existence has got
every reason to have pleasure
I fought with everyone to prove my
worth
I never let negativity dampen my morale
Now people feel proud for my life
And that is how I tell others to never quit
without a try
One day sun will shine
One day god will be kind
One day you will be proud of your every
struggle
One day your struggles will inspire
others
I was never a complete human being
Now I am complete by every means
Now it doesn't snatches the happiness and
purpose of my living
Why this show is special to me??
Many people watch this show for entertainment, while many people watch this show to show their support to their favorite actors. But for me this show is not an entertaining show. For me this show is a target. A target to make people realize that every human is equal and needs love and care.
Though my journey is somewhat different but still I can relate that how it was only Saumya's mom who stood by her side and supported her. How since childhood she craved for that love from her dad and her family members but alas that could never happen. We are in this world because our parents brought us. But how would you feel when only one of the parent or none of the parent loved you, supported you just because of some defect or problem you had or just because you were unwanted to them??? No child deserves that kind of treatment, yet in real world there are so many parents who abandon their child because of some or the other reason making him question about his/her existence and life.
I got everything that I desired for because my parents were there for me in my every single step but this was not the case with Saumya because it was only Nimmi who loved her and stood by her. Had it been every member of the family loving Saumya , then even she would have got normal treatment from everyone. She would have got education and her own identity. But except for Nimmi everyone hated her and made her feel unwanted, she lived in imprisonment, she lived without everyone's love (except her mom). Her mom lived in constant fear that someone might take her daughter away from her and that was the reason why she was always kept at home in front of her mother so that she can protect her.
Her family felt ashamed of Saumya's deformity because for them the word "society and honour mattered and it's true that in real life also for most of the people "society and honour matters the most and to keep that intact they don't even hesitate to kill their own blood or family members without giving a second thought. Here I would like to tell that you were raised not by the society, but by your family. When any misfortune will happen with you then this society won't come to help you. It will be your family that will come to your rescue. The only work of society is to criticize you, look at you with sympathy and after sometime when all gossips will be over about you then they will search for another person. If Saumya's dad would have looked at her daughter rather than society, then today Saumya wouldn't have to live in fear, she would have been proud of herself today and she would have been living with dignity as a successful woman. She would have got her dad's love and would have never felt discriminated.
I wished that Saumya's parents spoke with her about her identity when she was a child and would have given and made her learn to have self-confidence and to be strong. I wished both her parents together were her Shakti & would have helped her and supported her in facing her difficulties and obstacles, but my lovely Saumya was unlucky where it was only her mother who was her Shakti and her only world.
It is shocking and painful when not only Saumya but also in real life people blame someone for his/her identity. It's not up to a human nor it's in human's hand to be a girl or a boy, to be a complete human being without any defects. Our identity, our nature, our human color is all up to god. Its god who created us as humans with different identities, physical and mental features, nature and races. Just like none of our fingers are equals , the same way none of the 2 humans can be equals in terms of body, skin color, health, mental status etc. Just be human and accept other humans. Give them the respect and love because they're humans like us and every human being deserves to be loved irrespective of his defects, color, and difference of opinion.
Probably this is the reason why I love this show because somewhere I can relate to Saumya's pain. What if even my parents would have behaved like Saumya and would have never supported me?? What would have happened to my existence then?? This is why I love and support this show and why it touched me because even though I didn't face worst like Saumya but because of her defect her mockery that is made of her is something which people used to do with me .I'm interested a lot in HaYa's journey and I hope that CVS give HaYa more important space and a lot of care because Shakti deserve that.
This show talks about a very sensitive topic and a huge applause needs to be given to colors TV to bring this show & a big thanks and hats off to the most talented actors Vivian D'sena & Rubina Dilaik to accept portraying HaYa's journey and specially Vivian D'sena bcz due to him I discovered this pureful and unusual show .Thank you all .
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Promo article with message for my lovely readers and freind:
At last I would like to say that you can go on with your rights and you can prove your existence to the world. You must fight your own battle and the first step to your battle will begins with your own self. Stand up and face the difficulties and struggles. No one will give you respect just like that. You have to earn that respect for your own self and that can be done with passage of time through your hard work and self-confidence. I wish that even Saumya comes out as a winner with support of Harman.
"Every bad situation will have something positive. Even a dead clock shows correct time twice a day"
CID
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