Hi guys, once again a long post lol 😳
This one is in regards to something I have noticed a few times about this forum and a perfect example of this was in Mondays and Tuesdays episode this week so I thought it would provide a good example. Remember these are just my opinions, nobody should take them personally or negatively, it's just me discussing things I observe 😊 Guys I am a day behind in the episodes from people in India, being in Canada and the time the show replays because I can't make the 7 pm time slot. So I usually read the forum posts about the episode beforehand just to get a feel for the episode, I don't read the episode recaps. So yesterday, Mondays episode, the one where Aru and Mukhi have the tincture scene, the daru bust etc, when I started reading the posts here as well as on twitter and Facebook, most of the reviews were that the episode was horrible, people didn't like it, they had many issues about it so I was going into watching the episode like this one is going to be super bad and I will be honest, it wasn't that bad.
I have noticed this tendency in this forum and I love the passion and writing on this forum, it is so supportive, mature, and intelligent that I find it a joy to read the posts BUT with that passion also comes a slight over-reaction as well. And that is we take each episode far too seriously and dissect it far too much. Let me explain. A lot of the criticism about the show last night was that Lalji was dropped off at the border, why can't Mukhi see that Arjan and Rami are at fault too, why wasn't there a discussion of feelings in a sweet ArMu scene after that kidnapping, why wasn't the daru turned over to the police, etc and the precap with Aru being rude to Sanvi, people were saying that's out of character, what's happening, the writers are ruining the show etc.
Guys I know we all love the slow love story here, the way they have laid it out as realistically as possible, this love story is very different and more real than most others...but let's not forget that as realistic as this love story seems, that is because compared to the over the top serials that are on TV, it is more realistic but still even this serial is not close to reality, none of what's happening would realistically occur and we know that, let's not be silly. It's a very touching portrayal of a love story, that's it, now with that premise comes a certain understanding that there will be things that aren't how they would be in actual real life, that defy logic, like the daru bust and Lalji not being taken to jail, of course that's what would happen in real life but in a serial, whatever they choose to do, to give that authority to Mukhi is just to keep the story flowing without bogging it down in another 10 different tracks.
Let's say we took Lalji to court then what, there would have to be a track of Aru going to testify against him, there would be Lalji saying Aru has permanently injured him, she is at fault too, there would be a courtroom trial etc, do we need that in a show where the focus is the love story, we have enough tracks already they can choose from.
Will there be plot holes in a serial, yes of course, we are smart enough to know all serials have them, it's an acceptance we have to just go with. There's reality and there's TV reality, we love this show so much that we have a tendency to get so into each and every detail that we lose sight of the overall narrative and understand that sometimes for the sake of moving onto other things, that logic is bent a little to keep the story moving forward.
Why is Mukhi blind to Arjan and Rami... guys did you really think that in one quick instance, the show is going to eliminate every single bad guy in a nice neat package, then what would we have, another new bad guy, how would that work?! That's it, all the Arjan, Lalji, Rami angles done nice and neat lol, think of it this way, in less than 12 hrs, Mukhi had to deal with his Aru being kidnapped, then he is shocked with Laljis appearance, then he has to deal with the panchayat, then he finds out he has daru in his village something he thought was unheard of, then on top of all those shocks we expect him to be Sherlock Holmes and to suspect his brother in law and sister as the villains, really? Mukhi isn't the most chalak man I know but even I would be a bit overwhelmed with all that happening so forgive me if I don't think he should have seen thru it all and see Arjan's and Rami's guilt 😛
Finally the main issue people had with the episode was there was no emotional scene after the kidnapping between Mukhi and Aru and you know what guys, why did you expect that? At what point has this show ever had an emotional scene where they talk about their feelings after a traumatic event? After her almost being drowned in the well, after she was nearly burned to death in the house, after that guy blew himself up near Aru, and countless other times, was there ever a scene where they talked about their feelings after and what happened? Why would this time be any different then right lol, this show has always sped thru and glossed over the aftermath of a traumatic event, so this is just another example of them doing what they have always done, I wasn't expecting any soft ArMu scene after this at all.
The scene they had, the tincture scene is exactly in line of the show and ArMu, they are a resilient couple, Aru isn't the frail rona dhona woman who needs days to recover from an event, in fact did u remember her line, when Mukhi said he would zubardasthee put medicine on her and she said he knows what she does to guys who try to do zubardasthee on her, that's Aru right there, she is sweet vulnerable and needs Mukhi but she also bounces back fast so to me that bit of comic relief was in their character after such a tough time as the kidnapping. We got all the emotional powerful scenes in the last episode when they first met at the warehouse and then the panchayat.
Finally the precap, so many people were upset with the precap and I have never understood why do people take a 20 sec clip and totally overblow it and psychoanalyze it to death when they have no idea what the episode will be like?! I told people yesterday, just watch, all these people saying oh it's out of character, they are ruining Aru, I bet you they will give a reason why she was upset and that she was correct in being upset and guess what? From what people have told me after watching Tuesdays episode, most people would be upset as Aru was if they found out Sanvi and Mukhi were engaged and nobody told them, wouldn't you be? And tuesday's episode has many small moments of ArMu that ppl enjoyed so really, the reaction to the precap was a tad exaggerated.
So I excuse her rudeness because I would be hurt too as well as the fact she is still young and not fully understanding how relationships work, especially in a "love sense, and in response to Mukhi's crossing the line and bringing out their pati/patni saying which was always in private, her reaction was justified. In fact what's funny is that people were on Mukhi's side in the precap and now after seeing him in the episode they are against him saying he was the rude one lol!
So guys my point is this, we are so invested in the characters and the show that we are way too quick to over-react to every little thing, we over-analyze and we seem to get lost in the details, let me give you a personal example. I took this advanced English literature class in university my last yr, the head of the department taught this course, and up until then, whenever we would read a poem, we would write papers on it by dissecting each line for meanings, we would go thru it line by line picking that poem apart, but when I took his course, he didn't do that. I asked him why not and he told the class, what has happened is that we have taken works of art, Shakespeare, poetry etc and gotten lost in the details and don't appreciate the whole; the authors never meant for us to dissect each line, each word to death, they wanted you to read and see the poem or story as a whole unit, not to get so lost in details but to appreciate the feelings it evokes.
It's like focusing on a tree in a forest and not seeing it as one part of the entire forest behind it, granted the episode may not have been the best they have made but the way people were reacting to it and the precap I thought this was going to be pure garbage and it really wasn't.
Let's not let our love for the show get us so bogged down in details that we don't enjoy the feelings it evokes and the main points of some scenes, yes logic is thrown out the window, so be it, this is a realistic love story set in a fictional story, that's it guys 😆
Enjoy the story as a whole unit, don't get lost in the small details so much that you miss the few minutes of smiles and laughs and warm moments each episode has; to me that tincture scene was enough sweetness to put a smile on my face, the rest was average, that's the way it is, each episode can't be the level of last week right, there's going to be a letdown, its natural but I also know the same CV's that made us fall in love with ArMu aren't going to ruin it now, so enjoy the ride guys. Let's not be like chickens running around with our heads cut off that the sky is falling just because there was a few drops of rain, have faith in the show, it will be alright 😉
Ye Hai Mohabbatein
Mangal Lakshmi
