Retro Series: Importance of the fart scene

Originally posted by: bluejalpari17

Hi guys, I am Jalpari if you guys know me I have written on other forums as well. I am slightly older than majority of you , I am 39 , and appreciate sensible realistic love stories rather than wham bam type shows. I also usually write when I find female lead characters being treated unfairly on the name of hot heroism . I am happy to see this show is breaking a mold...there are no characters like Mukhi written ever, and Arundathi Nanavati is such a author backed character.

I am now hooked to this show and by far find it very heart touching and made completely realistic. I happened to watch the episode where Mukhi gets wet in the rain because Aru doesn't open the door. The whole scene..the tin phone, Mukhi trying to keep his bakri dry while himself wet, and a surprisingly young and not so villagish wife arguing with him caught my attention. Then I started watching, went back to episode 1 came up to speed with the series. My kudos to the makers and actors for taking up a challenging project. 20 + years age gap is not a joke and cannot be ignored, to make a love story happen and keep it believable is incredible.

I will come back with more retro article on how Aru's marriage happened , Mukhi's characteriztion and my take on it, but today I want to talk about the fart scene we saw yesterday.

The two episodes back to back have focused on Aru's and Mukhi's imagination of life partner. And though the fart scene may have appeared to be below the belt scene, or not in a good taste for a few, there is a lot of meaning and realism associated with why it was placed there. Other husband wife in other shows are not seen talking about restrooms, susu in the middle of the night, being electrocuted and being saved with the girl fearing that she was naked, and now the man farting after a night of chana chor garam. These are meant to show glimpses of a true reality of a man and women co-habiting. Whether they accept their marriage or not, they are co-habiting in a room together. And the extra dose of some not so pleasant realism was very required to make a point. Aru likes some qualities in Mukhi..maybe she has likes most qualities in Mukhi now. So she wants to see if he fits within her definitions of a "hero" husband. Her imaginations of the Khan trio is so very right for a girl of 22. But point is, everytime she tries to mix and match Mukhi with her dream heroes, she wakes up to a different reality. When she imagined Salman, she was helping Mukhi with his 4 foot turban..a part of him that is not going anywhere. When she imagines Aamir, he is offering her home made chaat, which he is not able to digest very well being 42, 20 years older than her. And as real as it can get, he has digestive issues next morning. She dreams of Shahrukh, but what she has is a man using daanton, cleaning is mouth , and then relieving himself of the excess gas when he thinks she is not around.
This is show the dramatic difference between her dream man and the ground reality. Its a stark contrast, a " find the differences between the two" type of exercise her mind is doing. Reality of marriage is not love and roses all the time. Two people livng together also see the gross side of each other. Snoring, gas, using restrooms , finding each other hair everywhere, keepin room tidy/untidy, fan on -off, tv on off, everything..every small and big thing affects the relationship and can cause arguments. Its not just love for the good qualities, but acceptance of these flaws that makes the relationship whole. For example I love to cook and be creative with what I make, but hate to clean. My husband helps me out with it, cause he accepts my bad with my good. He does the chores I ask him to but if I am not available, he cannot understand what kids homework needs help or what can be cooked for the evening. So I have to make sure to leave notes, and accept that things wont be done my way. I am good with emotional things , he is good with practical and we learn how to balance things out.
I love how Mukhi did not lose his cool or make fun of Aru when she needed to go susu in the middle of the night. He was quite respectful with her and made that bhoot joke only to stop her from being scared. And I love how Aru just laughs like a kid when Mukhi farts and brings it up again today to pass it off as a joke...once its made a joke there is no embarrassment..it actually was husband wife banter at that point. The lovely way things are falling in place is amazing. Both can see the good in each other due to which there is mutual respect and empathy. Both can see flaws in each other which they are learning to accept, and even protect the other through it. Mukhi knows Aru;s over-curiosity..it can be dangerous and he will protect her through it.
So some such unpleasant realities need to brought out so that they know what they are getting into. Especially Aru, since she is possibly romancing with a guy 20 years her senior , and if she accepts him, she needs to know his realities.

Hope there is place for me in this forum and would love to know all of you along with Aru Mukhi.

Until next retro series, see ya and enjoy Armu!

Originally posted by: bluejalpari17

Hope there is place for me in this forum and would love to know all of you along with Aru Mukhi.

Until next retro series, see ya and enjoy Armu!

Originally posted by: C0raline

Dear Jalpari!

I was extremely busy this whole week and rarely managed to make a post here. But welcome with lots of love and expectations. :-D

I was planning to sit down next and make a post about the same thing. :-D The bit about accepting farts, warts and everything else when you accept someone was very much on my mind for that post.

And you said it. And so beautifully!!

Love,

Originally posted by: bluejalpari17

Thank you Sana, Wateva and RadhaMohan...this is a great forum!