Can anyone help me out?

Thanks for coming forward to help me. I am a girl of 28 years age old. I was basically born in a small village and completed my graduation there. (do not want to share information of the place I stay). From childhood onward am an introvert. I don't have any friends. I like to be alone. I talk to people but don't easily make friends. But I love watching movies and serials) . I lost my parents at the age of four. I was brought up by my grand parents. Though very few people in my place are highly educated and we don't have any financial support , my grand parents raised me up and educated me and haven't taken any help from anyone of the neighbors and relatives who think that money is everything. Right now I am doing Ph.D. at reputed IIT Bombay, Mumbai. It was the first time i am visiting a large city. Initially I used to hate Mumbai. Now I am about to finish my Ph.D. and wanted to settle in Mumbai. I have siblings (younger) too who have just finished B.Tech and recently joined jobs. Initially I was a girl who used to think that to get a job just for survival and settle in my village. But now my thoughts have changed. I want to be strong, independent and wanted to settle in Mumbai. In my place they take a lot of dowry even if I am doing Ph.D. they still expect minimum of 10 lakh dowry to get married to a mediocre . I m seriously irritated. But my grand mother is worried about my marriage. She is like how we can find a person for you who stays in Mumbai and who doesn't accept dowry. From childhood onward I used to hate men bcoz most of them I find running behind girls and flirting. That is the reason I get more attracted to gul shows (including arjun show by Gorky). I still need to complete my Ph.D. and find a job which will take time. But my grand parents are worried that they are aging and also I am aging. Now i am not able to concentrate on my work I am under pressure of marriage.

Now my priorities of men changed a lot:

1) Who does not have bad habits like smoking, drinking and no affairs. (may be loved once and failed but it should have been a true one and not lust)

2) who should not ask for dowry and should be able to respect women and her thoughts.

3) should be good looking (I mean hygenic, fitness and to some extent looks also matter)

4) I don't care about salary. It is not a business.

But most of my relatives are giving marriage proposals from village. Most of them are male chauvinisticand not ready to move to Mumbai. I am under sheer pressure. They are not good looking also. I don't say that this the only thing that matter but looks also matter to some extent. Please help me out. We do not have any support system. I am bit impulsive and frank so it is very difficult to make friends for me and also being an introvert.