Nisha The Jealous and Possessive Wife

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Tacker_Holic

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Posted: 8 years ago

Hey guys,

Been burning to make a post about this! Before I start my lecture I just want to say that this post is purely my thoughts from the start of the show! I am not saying I am right it is purely a post to create discussion in the forum. Please do share your honest views! 😊

So from the start we have seen Nisha being the evil DIL who is trying to make her husband get the CEO role and become the owner of the Jindal property. Nothing different right from other shows? I would say it is a pretty typecast scenario. However, these past 2 weeks we have seen a new dimension of Nisha.

She is jealous that another woman is able to make her husband do things that she has been trying to do in the past 8 years. She feels threatened that another woman has more influence in her husband's life. To be perfectly honest I feel really bad for Nisha. Yes she is evil, yes she is abusive towards her husband's family members but isnt the cause of all of this to some extent Adi?

These two are completely incompatible and they are on bad terms but I dont think Adi has really tried to understand Nisha and what she wants. Yes she is selfish and mean but her demands are not unrealistic.

1) She wishes her husband to lead the company because of his hard work. He deserves to be CEO.

2) Kakasa is getting old and Babasa clearly cant work. By passing over all responsibilities to the eldest son is natural. Nisha wants to see her husband lead. Is this unrealistic?

I am not married but usually when two people get married there should be some progression in their lives. Adi isnt showing any progression he is constant whereas Nisha is ambitious. She doesnt want to be the docile bahu. She wants to feel in power and be proud that her husband is a CEO of their family business.

From some of the flashback scenes Nisha was very reasonable about her wishes but Adi never listened to her. Adi has not listened to her so she is using other means/ways to push Adi to become a CEO. I dont think Nisha is evil or a bad person she has been made to be evil.

She loves Adi a lot and I know it is bizarre that she gave him mushrooms or tried to drug him with those tablets yesterday but all she wants is a bit of love and attention. Is that a lot to ask for? I dont know her back story but she wants to be a queen. The queen to her king Aditya.

Now we are seeing a very unstable Nisha and the reason for this is Jhanvi. Dont know how many women are in this forum that are married? How many of you feel jealous/possessive over your partner/husband? I can tell you that I would be. It is a natural trait.

So lets analyse what Nisha has been doing to Adi to try and get attention:

1) Restricting or Controlling Behaviour- Nisha has tried to control Adi for a long time and has managed to until recently. She is restricting him from doing certain things or compelling him to act in certain ways is because she is scared that he will leave her. Every time he mentions divorce she shakes up. She cant control her emotions nor her anger.

2) Verbal Abuse- There has been time and time again that they have ended up in an argument and Adi not listening to Nisha's heart has led to verbal abuse.

3) Blaming/Threatening- As Adi has not listened to her desires he has been blamed for the failure of their relationship. This has led to threatening behaviour and she is hurting the people he loves the most because she is not getting her way. Nisha feels powerless and hence she blames others rather than herself for her actions.

4) Using people to her advantage- She has played the game of winning Kakasa very well and she knows that he can protect her. She has used her own children because she is helpless. She knows that Adi loves them more than anything in this world and they can make him do whatever she wants. It is wrong, very wrong but she doesnt have many options left.

We all believe including myself that Adi is the victim of a terrible relationship but I feel Nisha is the real victim here. I cant emphasize enough how important communication is in any relationship and there is no communication. I know Adi is hurt by her actions/her behaviour believe me I would be too. But if they could rewind time and if Adi listened to her maybe they would be happy.

Adi hasnt been able to balance his relationships properly giving more importance to his parents rather than his wife. This is a very common problem and not many men succeed. One relationship always seems to suffer and in this case it is Aditya-Nisha's marriage.

This quote sums up Nisha's current state: "I am jealous, I get mad, I get worried, thats only because I love you and I dont want to lose you"

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FIZK6

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Posted: 8 years ago

Its a lovely post Sonia.

I have always from the beginning felt Adi is somewhat to be blamed for Nisha's behaviour. That doesn't mean it justifies what Nisha did to Babasa. She is wrong too.
Adi has always put his family first. It seems he hasn't compromised in their marriage. Ok, so now because of Nisha's behaviour he doesn't listen to her yet he listens to Jhanvi who is a stranger and he hasn't known for long.

In many households the daughter in law doesn't want to live with the in laws or gets on well with them. But for the betterment of their marriage, children and to keep a somewhat stable relation with his family the husband compromises, i've seen it and even the parents would rather let them set up home separately than to ruin the relationship with the daughter in law completely. They all need to compromise. I'm sure if Adi had mentioned it to his family they wouldn't have refused.

I have to get ready for a Walimah reception now. Will be back later.

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alpha78

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Posted: 8 years ago

I truly understand your view. You want to say that Adi is responsible for making Nisha evil. But I want to mention few things.
1) Nisha wants her hubby to be a CEO of company but how can you forget that she only wants this because she just wants the whole property on her name. She just want to use the wealth as per her wish. Adi's kakusa & his family are also the owner of the property then how can she demand the property for only her family?
2) she do not want to be a housewife. I agree. But no one in the family is forcing her to do so. The elders are so understanding that if she would had demanded to work in office I don't think there was anyone who will stop her. But she do not want to work & just want to party on others wealth. And by the way she can't do business properly. She will make Adi bankrupt by her ugly tricks.
3) You think that Adi didn't give attention to Nisha. But I don't think so. In yesterday's episode Nisha said that Adi was madly in love with Nisha. The two beautiful daughters are proof. He do not want anything from her except love for his family but Nisha tried to hurt them to whom he loves & respects a lot. She made Adi fall in front of his family. How can a husband love a wife who makes conspiracies against his family?
I think in any relationship respect is most important thing. And Nisha has lost all the respect in Adi's eyes. And Nisha pretends that she loves Adi. But what is love? Care & attention. In all these years had she once called her & asked him why he is been in the office? Or she cared for him. Now she just wants Adi back because she want to prove that she only owns Adi. And any wife will not give husband something that he fall ill & make him unconscious. So she is a bad wife & deserves nothing.
This is my POV.

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Tacker_Holic

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Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: FIZK6
Its a lovely post Sonia.

I have always from the beginning felt Adi is somewhat to be blamed for Nisha's behaviour. That doesn't mean it justifies what Nisha did to Babasa. She is wrong too.
Adi has always put his family first. It seems he hasn't compromised in their marriage. Ok, so now because of Nisha's behaviour he doesn't listen to her yet he listens to Jhanvi who is a stranger and he hasn't known for long.

In many households the daughter in law doesn't want to live with the in laws or gets on well with them. But for the betterment of their marriage, children and to keep a somewhat stable relation with his family the husband compromises, i've seen it and even the parents would rather let them set up home separately than to ruin the relationship with the daughter in law completely. They all need to compromise. I'm sure if Adi had mentioned it to his family they wouldn't have refused.

I have to get ready for a Walimah reception now. Will be back later.

Thank you Fizz and its good to see you back in the forum! 😃 Yes as they say you cant clap with one hand it is a collective responsibility. I am not saying Nisha is right in anyway I am just trying to see from another point of view. He has compromised for his girls but not his marriage.

Its all so confusing and so mysterious at the same time! Why have they made Nisha's character so complex?! 😆 Yes I think it was just Adi not having the balls to speak for his wife. This is where it all stems from. He hasnt found the right balance and he is suffering and so is their marriage.

Ooo very nice! Hope you have fun! 👍🏼

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Tacker_Holic

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Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: alpha78
I truly understand your view. You want to say that Adi is responsible for making Nisha evil. But I want to mention few things.
1) Nisha wants her hubby to be a CEO of company but how can you forget that she only wants this because she just wants the whole property on her name. She just want to use the wealth as per her wish. Adi's kakusa & his family are also the owner of the property then how can she demand the property for only her family?
2) she do not want to be a housewife. I agree. But no one in the family is forcing her to do so. The elders are so understanding that if she would had demanded to work in office I don't think there was anyone who will stop her. But she do not want to work & just want to party on others wealth. And by the way she can't do business properly. She will make Adi bankrupt by her ugly tricks.
3) You think that Adi didn't give attention to Nisha. But I don't think so. In yesterday's episode Nisha said that Adi was madly in love with Nisha. The two beautiful daughters are proof. He do not want anything from her except love for his family but Nisha tried to hurt them to whom he loves & respects a lot. She made Adi fall in front of his family. How can a husband love a wife who makes conspiracies against his family?
I think in any relationship respect is most important thing. And Nisha has lost all the respect in Adi's eyes. And Nisha pretends that she loves Adi. But what is love? Care & attention. In all these years had she once called her & asked him why he is been in the office? Or she cared for him. Now she just wants Adi back because she want to prove that she only owns Adi. And any wife will not give husband something that he fall ill & make him unconscious. So she is a bad wife & deserves nothing.
This is my POV.

It may seem from my post but my point is that Nisha isnt only at fault here. They both are. Everything in a marriage is a collective responsibility. Nisha has lost a lot of respect in Adi's eyes and I completely agree with you 110% but Adi never listened to Nisha nor understood her point of view. She isnt evil because of Adi she is evil because of the circumstances that have taken place in their marriage. There was love because they wouldn't have had two children otherwise.

As the years went by Nisha has started losing Adi so she is hurting his family as a way to seek revenge. She is controlling, horrible and evil completely but neither of them were willing to compromise from the start. The issue is they are incompatible for each other. If they had both realised this the relationship wouldn't have turned out like this. Her idea of love is control and possessiveness. She is a bad wife but Adi isnt a perfect husband neither.

I am not supporting Nisha or Adi just trying to dwell deeper into their relationship. No hard feelings! 😊

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alpha78

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Posted: 8 years ago

I think one point may we should take into consideration is the upbringing of Nisha. I think that is the most important thing. Her mother only taught her to own power, money but forgot to teach about taking responsibilities of the family, love family. That's why she only uses the relations including her daughters.
I think there is nothing positive about her. Only evil.

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Tacker_Holic

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Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: alpha78
I think one point may we should take into consideration is the upbringing of Nisha. I think that is the most important thing. Her mother only taught her to own power, money but forgot to teach about taking responsibilities of the family, love family. That's why she only uses the relations including her daughters.
I think there is nothing positive about her. Only evil.

You are right! I think the show is in its early days. There is a big back story and that will be the reason for Nisha's ways. Her upbringing is certainly a factor. We need more clues!

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coolmeet

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Posted: 8 years ago

It doesn't matter to me how Nisha behaves with Adi or jhanvi .But I just can't ignore how she behaved with babasa in past and other elders of the family.

My father suffered from Parkinson's disease for 3yrs ( he passed away last year) .We r two sisters only , so my father shifted with my family.This disease is also related to our nervous system.And it's not at all easy to take care of such patients.

So at that time ,hum kehte the ki achha hai humara koi Bhai nahi hai nahi toh woh aur uske wife papa ka Kya haal karte.

For me , Nisha is a criminal and I can't see her with Adi or in Jindal house.

My pov.

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grandtheft5

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Posted: 8 years ago

Beautifully written and well put forward thoughts. I differ on some things. For instance, you said Nisha's demands are not unrealistic. For me it's vice versa. Not realistic. The extent she went to achieve control, wealth, power and status is mind blowing. I mean her taunts, the bully-ism, how she treated him in front of her friends, how she mistreated the family, how she used the kids are things I never witnessed before. Too extreme. About her loving Adi and the kids, sorry but only God can tell me she does.😆 Absolutely nothing she has done so far has demonstrated that. What has been established is Nisha loves herself, she is greedy, selfish, possessive and mentally ill.

I am desperate to know their back story. How they met and so on. Because since watching the show, she comes across as a gold digger.

You are a fantastic writer.👏👏