Anupama, you say Sonakshi is a jerk for letting a 6 years old decide if she wants to meet her dad or not. So would you rather she had said to Soha that she is not allowed to even mention her dad or even think about him like someone like Ishwari would?
Since when giving a choice to anyone is being a jerk? Giving a choice means that you are acknowledging their right to take a decision. And decisions taken are not absolute. It can be changed anytime. If Soha comes to Sonakshi and expresses her desire to see her dad, Sonakshi will never stand in her way regardless of her fear. That's a good mother. A good mother proposes, doesn't impose her ideas on her children. She let's them grow into their own self.
About Suhana's maturity, have you met every single child in the whole world? Have you interacted every single introvert child? Considering she is a happy child who likes her own company, doesn't need validation from anyone, independent, smart, good in studies are abnormal traits to you? Does every child needs to be childish? In my opinion, Anjali of Kuch Kuch Hota Hai is abnormal. Which mother gives letter to her 8 year old kid to match make her father? She should have written the letter to her husband to move on and find his friend.
I met children like Suhana who are introvert and more of a thinker and quiet people than jumping around all the time. My own cousin's son is like that and he has both his parents. Suhana has normal wishes too. She likes games, she likes to learn, she wants to grow up and join her mother's business, she wants to wear her mother's perfume and lipstick. Just because she is not throwing tantrums to specifically meet her dad, that does not mean that she is not normal unless definition of normal has to fit a certain pre-determined set of standards. In which case, a very limited no. of people will fit in that set mold.
About Sonakshi, again the expectations are a mold she has to fit in. Either she has to be strong all the time or vulnerable all the time. She can't be both or anything else in between. This is the exactly what I was talking about.
But the thing is that she doesn't need to be anything but herself. When she came to Delhi, she told Bijoy that she is ready to face the world and she did. She was not the one who constantly harassed Dev to get his attention. She bought an office, turned out to be Dev's. That's his problem that he can't control his business, not hers. Since then she only retaliated when provoked. Rest of the time, she was concentrating on her work.
Being tough and strong in public, doesn't mean that a woman can't open up and share her fears with her loved ones in private. It's for her to decide what she wants to share, how much she wants to share, to whom she wants to share. As I said, a woman needs to validate what she is feeling, why she is feeling, when she is feeling and how much she is feeling for people to even try to understand her, if they ever do. That's my biggest regret.
Originally posted by: reachanupama
Well Tia, I do agree with your observations. This post is not to glorify Ishwari or Dev or forget about the pain and humiliation they have caused Sonakshi and her family. All I am protesting is the absolute jerk she is being in letting a 6 year old decide if she wants to meet her dad. Its not as simple as asking her do you want Perk or Kit-Kat ? If the CVs want to show that Suhana is mature, sorry I disagree. I have interacted with multiple kids her age across all strata of society and I have not come across one kid who is like Suhana. Even my maid's son (her husband left her to marry another lady) has the normal wishes of any 7 year old.
Secondly I have no problems if Sonakshi continues to stay where she is provided she builds up her strength to confront any accusations that come her way. She should have never come back if she was not ready. I find her quite silly sharing her fears with Jatin when she had a choice to stay where she was. Was'nt she the one who, while coming to Delhi told Bijoy confidently that she was ready to face the world.
Edited by tia.o - 8 years ago
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