DO YOU WANT TWO DIFFERENT FORUMS FOR ISHQBAAZ AND DIL BOLE OBEROI? - Page 8

Originally posted by: MrDarcyfan

@Arshi67:

You must be one of the lucky ones. Even as a silent reader I saw how some people were treated on this forum. The constant mocking, bullying and trolling. If your opinions are vocal and contradicts the "Status quo" then you have a target on your back. I have only ever made one topic on this forum and that is my RUMYA-SS. I dont make topics here, just comment. But even that is enough to get you noticed if you are not in the majority.

Differing opnions are fine. But no one has a right to mock people for them or tell them what to do. Moderators dont appear to be solving these issues, as it has only got worse not better as far as I can see!

If seperate forums can solve that problem, I think it's a good idea. But if there isnt going to be different forums, then some mutual respect is needed and some manners!

Originally posted by: Arshi67

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif" size="2">Having separate forums will not take away the negativity which a lot of people have mentioned here. There will always be characters who have a larger fan base than another. And it's a natural aspect of fan crushing that you can't see how another can be "better" than the one you adore. Putting down another to show your idol in a better light is an unfortunate human instinct. Not that I'm condoning it in any way.</font>

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<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif" size="2">As you associate more and more with other like minded fans, cliques form which further feed your fondness. The perceived sense of safety in a group then allows the mocking and disparagement to escalate. Over time, the sense of comfort grows. Quite often the ridicule is not deliberate, it feels like it's just for a laugh. And the cocoon of being one of many feeds that feeling. Not many stop and think of the implications, you're just seeking to outdo each other in the "witty" stakes. Praise of your peers is a heady feeling.</font>

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<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif" size="2">It is, therefore, up to the individual to think before saying rather than moving to a different space. The feeling of entitlement needs to be tempered with an acceptance of equality.</font>

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif" size="2">Personally, I have found people to be friendly here in all my interactions on various threads. The pieces that I have written have all been verging on the wickedly humorous (well in my head anyway!) and I have never found anyone berating me for it ... yet ... </font>

Originally posted by: Arshi67

Having separate forums will not take away the negativity which a lot of people have mentioned here. There will always be characters who have a larger fan base than another. And it's a natural aspect of fan crushing that you can't see how another can be "better" than the one you adore. Putting down another to show your idol in a better light is an unfortunate human instinct. Not that I'm condoning it in any way.

As you associate more and more with other like minded fans, cliques form which further feed your fondness. The perceived sense of safety in a group then allows the mocking and disparagement to escalate. Over time, the sense of comfort grows. Quite often the ridicule is not deliberate, it feels like it's just for a laugh. And the cocoon of being one of many feeds that feeling. Not many stop and think of the implications, you're just seeking to outdo each other in the "witty" stakes. Praise of your peers is a heady feeling.

It is, therefore, up to the individual to think before saying rather than moving to a different space. The feeling of entitlement needs to be tempered with an acceptance of equality.

Personally, I have found people to be friendly here in all my interactions on various threads. The pieces that I have written have all been verging on the wickedly humorous (well in my head anyway!) and I have never found anyone berating me for it ... yet ...

Originally posted by: AnnzSageflower7

How I see it, it's a taunting battle between few individuals , and it's getting generalized as forum wide. Like what you like just don't taunt others for not being like you (whichever side you are). Peace.