An end.....and a new beginning.

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Posted: 9 years ago
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Today we had an end of a relationship , and a new beginning of an old one.

I have already read some comments written on this forum and I'm quite disappointed with some of the reaction towards Vividha. And it's not just because she is my favourite. It's because of what she had to go through.

Vividha was on display today.


I'm going to give Ravish credit for what he did today, but how he did it was simply disturbing to watch. Yes, he was fulfilling his promise to Vividha of reuniting her with Atharv, but divorce papers would have sufficed. Or perhaps, in the privacy of their room he could have asked Vivi to take off her mangal sutra and sindoor and then told the family the marriage had now ended.

But in the name of drama, and to make sure the female lead came across as sympathetic to the audience, Vividha was subjected to the cruellest humiliation in front of everyone. I would have respected Ravish more if he had just stuck to his speech. I liked the fact that he admitted the marriage was forced and in name only. I loved his words when he said the mangal sutra was just a piece of jewellery worn on the body if it was not connected to the soul, and that the phere he took with Vividha had no identity in front of the vachans ViTharv had taken together.


And don't get me started on Atharv. How dare he just stand back today and let Vividha go through this ordeal! Where was Vividha's Atharv? Even if the rest of the family were standing watching the tamasha, he should have intervened and stopped it from happening. And yes, he had every right to. Because where Vividha is concerned, he has that right. Atharv disappointed me today even more then Ravish!

ViTharv have now finally come back to Ajmer. Everything is the same, the tabela, the cows, Julia. Yet everything is so different. ViTharv are different.

The last three months have changed ViTharv whether we want to admit it or not. They are not the phase one ViTharv who used to laugh with each other, tease each other, hold each other, love each other. As much as they want to, they can't pick up from where they off. They are further apart right now then they have ever been and it's not going to easy for them to find their way back to each other.

So much has been said about the pre-cap and again Vividha is being blamed by some. Why? Because she was going to put sindoor on? So!

No matter what Vividha does, it's always her who has to prove her love. She left her marriage in the most humiliating way today for Atharv. I hope people remember that and be a bit more sympathetic before judging.


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Posted: 9 years ago
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whispa , instead i expect people to insult her more ... that's what this fandom is best at ...
and i need a 🤗 before i explode
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Posted: 9 years ago
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As a woman, a feminist, or just as a human being - Today i'm extremely hurt and humiliated! Somebody who thinks they can write, has made a mockery of a woman without even thinking twice.

I have written something similar in Reemz' s post that they should have brought Vividha down WITHOUT the MS and Sindoor ... THEN it would have looked good in Ravish's favour. THEN they would have shown how to treat a woman. So much for women empowerment - so much for giving women respect!

I saw some comments about Vividha giving Ravish sad looks etc - so here's my take on it.

Vividha was Shocked, insulted, stripped of her confidence! Her so called husband brings her down the stairs, stands in the middle of everybody and tells her there you go - now you belong to Atharv - EXCUSE ME! What do you expect her to do? Dance happily, stare into Atharv's eyes and just give him shy smiles! She did not get a chance to even feel Relieved, if she wanted to.

Atharv was shocked at the events unfolding in front of his eyes -- he didn't know how to react. I saw pain in his eyes for his Vividham what HIS vividha was going through. There was no sense of Relieve in him either, rather he was restless, to me he seemed appalled as well.

Though they are now back to Ajmer, but we have a long time before homecoming. ViTharv are shaken, broken, hurt and scarred for life. Atharv has his daemons and fears to overcome and he HAS to help Vividha overcome her humiliation. He has to heel her, because only HE has the power to do so. Together they need to overcome the void this marriage has left between them.

Atharv NEEDS to talk to her, they need to discuss this - Right now, everything Vividha does related to her marriage or about Ravish, it will trigger his anger. THIS is the time for Atharv to prove his trust - HE needs to trust her more than he ever has.

No P.s. today - i'm shaken up! 😭 my heart is crying for Vividha who has done nothing but given one test after the other - overcome one hurdle after the other! The girl is broken and needs to be given life again.
Edited by AmnaIsh - 9 years ago
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Vividha was treated like a fragile doll today, just like Papa used to do. A doll that everybody can utilise and humiliate at their own will. I felt terrible for her- it was really difficult to watch!

I accept that it is big of Ravish to support them in such a way and behave selflessly however you could not be more accurate in criticising his way of going about this. He literally stripped her of her dignity. It was so abaft and regressive, not in line with JNDSD at all.

And Atharv. I sympathised with his initial anger and even his actions yesterday. However now he knows the truth, I can't comprehend his silence. Yes he ought still to be confused and heartbroken and all the rest of it but he could have at least intervened when he could see the pain on her face so evidently.

It was odd really to see Ajmer. It felt quite uncomfortable and almost awkward to me that these people, whose lives have changed so vastly, have been put back in to a place that remains so vehemently unchanged.
It is a good device for the CVs to begin the reconstruction of ViTharv though, if they utilise it well that is. They both should be reminded, slowly but surely, of what they had and what they are. They need to find their way back to each other!
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Posted: 9 years ago
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No words whispa
Disappointed

With atharv - for not speaking up and looking like a dumb person a mere spectator

Ravish - though his intentions are good the way he handled things was not good.

Vividha - when no one speaks we need to speak for ourselves. Agree she was shocked . She could have stopped the humiliation if she wanted to.

Totally don't agree with the way Cvs handled this. Not done
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Whispa I have said enough moaned enough abt Viv's humiliation. I hope mamta m'am reads my tweet and feels the pinch. A woman should not be able to write such a scene about another woman or approve that it be shown.

Yes Atharv was in the wrong to stand there and I am not defending him but I do feel he was left shell shocked. He had accepted that this is his kismet. He has lost her and he can't claim any right on her and what Ravish did, left him stunned. The problem is no one, not even Viv has explained to him what she went through without him.How she yearned for him, how her life was just about him. Ravish held no existence in her life. Just merely to be seen as Atharv's brother.

And ur right abt that awkwardness-They can't start back from where they left off and I think for them to fall back together, we need Viv's confrontation to him, he needs a wake up call from her that she is still his Vividha-nothing changed.

I am worried based on precap this may go the other way and Atharv will try to be the mahaan brother who feels that the only way he can repay Ravish back is by 'giving' him his love and sacrificing his own love. And we will get Vividha in the form of realisation that she took those 7 phere blah blah blah. Now she can't be Atharvs and all.

This would be a huge blow to the characters of this show and to society, to SP who on one hand are showing us that we are so liberal and we believe women have equal rights but we won't show this because all we care abt is money so here u go, we will treat a woman like she is a trophy.

I hope I am proven wrong on my analogy here.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: Africanqueenkel

whispa , instead i expect people to insult her more ... that's what this fandom is best at ...

and i need a 🤗 before i explode


Kells🤗

To see Vividha insulted and doubted is just so unfair on her. She's the one caught in the middle of all of this but her pain is always considered irrelevant by many.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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I felt for Atharv in the previous two episodes, despite his words & anger towards Vivi because we knew and could understand where he was coming from! As well as we knew he would leave no stone unturned to make up to her after everything got cleared! But the Atharv in today's episode disappointed me big time!
Vividha was on display today, even though she wanted the bediyan to be off! But it didn't have to happen this way! Like beagle ponited out in the AT it's violation irrespective of the intention.
But I am not even going to blame Ravish for it, it's CVs who chose this regressive way to end it. for the sake of drama & GEC audience I guess.
But I liked what he said today about the MS holding no value & marriages are not made of rituals alone etc! That's what all of us have been screaming about since phase 2 began haven't we?
I also felt that today's episode was abrupt! So much happened and then a abrupt cut to Ajmer?
No reaction from Atharv? Or Vividha?
The precap was heartbreaking to watch and Whispa I already said this in the AT I don't think it's a lollipop either.vitharv have so much more to go through and Atharv despite what he has been through has a lot to make up for!
Vividha does not have to prove anything to anyone not even Atharv. Because this is the same guy who could just look into her eyes and know that she loves him. So this time too he'll find out & make up for it. He does not know what Vividha had been through in these three months so him misunderstanding her can be understood but we have all seen what this girl has been through & what she has done for Atharv! The last thing she deserves is somebody questioning her love for Atharv!
Vivi has done enough proving, it's Atharv's turn now. Remember what he said to her when she confessed her love? He asked her to admit it in front of her father, show her "Himmat" and that she would find him standing beside her. This girl has done a lot more than that, she has screamed to the whole world that she loves him, her husband, her in-laws, has been slapped, abused, made to question her sanity,molested (she refused to believe that the molester was Atharv), she was willing to drop her sister's murder case because she knew her Atharv was not killer irrespective of his mental condition! She brought him back from death (dramatic, but didn't we all fell for it & loved it), the only person she thought of when she was about to die, declared herself a widow because thats how she felt in a world without Atharv. So Atharv Sujatha you better keep up your words and understand that you are not the only one in pain.
I am feeling so protective of Vividha! My heart goes out to her after all that she has been through, she really does not deserve this!
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Posted: 9 years ago
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I saw pieces of the episode. The main parts. As a girl my heart cries for Vividha. Dude, no one even cares about MS and sindoor in today's world, and Vividha had to have her bangles broken, sindoor rubbed off and that darned MS taken of?? Like she has no voice? But somehow I feel she doesn't actually. Remember how she broke her bangles and called herself Atharv's widow? That was her CHOICE. She had lost him yet some of what he had awakened in her remained.

Today, She is completely broken and being pushed from all sides. Atharv is back but he is equally lost. So she has lost her ability to voice out her choice, feels suffocated by society and is a living corpse now more than ever. Until and unless someone returns her self-confidence, her will, her strength she is still going to feel guilty and suffocated. And that someone HAS to be Atharv. No one else can.

As for Atharv, I am not defending him, but today simply wasn't his day, except for the last part. Though he did not speak anything, his eyes showed how shocked and appalled he was. This Atharv is broken. Shattered. He is still coping with things and he does not entirely know what Vivi has been through. Yes, he should have spoken up but he needs to find his strength back too.Somehow society has gotten to Atharv Sujata.He too needs to find himself again. And he needs to find Vividha again before he can speak up for her. They both BADLY need a confrontation and breakdown. This isn't going to work at all if they act like everything is okay.

That entire humiliating sequence established a point though. . Vividha has been through so much that she no longer has the will to fight. Both Atharv and Vividha are broken.From their selves as well as from each other. They have to find their way back and it is going to be hard.

The question is will Atharv be able to live upto his trust waala vachan? Will he be able to return life to the lifeless Vividha?

I have no words for Ravish. Forget it. Divorce papers ke zamane mein he was acting as if Vividha is his widow.

The only saving grace was Dadi.😆 I love her man!😛

Precap: Goes to show how NOTHING is okay. There is so much simmering that it has to blast. And Vividha going to apply sindoor.. all I can see is a girl who has lost her soul. But will Atharv be able to see that?

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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: AmnaIsh

As a woman, a feminist, or just as a human being - Today i'm extremely hurt and humiliated! Somebody who thinks they can write, has made a mockery of a woman without even thinking twice.

I have written something similar in Reemz' s post that they should have brought Vividha down WITHOUT the MS and Sindoor ... THEN it would have looked good in Ravish's favour. THEN they would have shown how to treat a woman. So much for women empowerment - so much for giving women respect!

I saw some comments about Vividha giving Ravish sad looks etc - so here's my take on it.

Vividha was Shocked, insulted, stripped of her confidence! Her so called husband brings her down the stairs, stands in the middle of everybody and tells her there you go - now you belong to Atharv - EXCUSE ME! What do you expect her to do? Dance happily, stare into Atharv's eyes and just give him shy smiles! She did not get a chance to even feel Relieved, if she wanted to.

Atharv was shocked at the events unfolding in front of his eyes -- he didn't know how to react. I saw pain in his eyes for his Vividham what HIS vividha was going through. There was no sense of Relieve in him either, rather he was restless, to me he seemed appalled as well.

Though they are now back to Ajmer, but we have a long time before homecoming. ViTharv are shaken, broken, hurt and scarred for life. Atharv has his daemons and fears to overcome and he HAS to help Vividha overcome her humiliation. He has to heel her, because only HE has the power to do so. Together they need to overcome the void this marriage has left between them.

Atharv NEEDS to talk to her, they need to discuss this - Right now, everything Vividha does related to her marriage or about Ravish, it will trigger his anger. THIS is the time for Atharv to prove his trust - HE needs to trust her more than he ever has.

No P.s. today - i'm shaken up! 😭 my heart is crying for Vividha who has done nothing but given one test after the other - overcome one hurdle after the other! The girl is broken and needs to be given life again.


Hey Amna🤗

I think we're all so shaken because our show is better then this. When we've had scenes like Atharv standing behind Vivi while she slapped a guy for teasing her, or Vivi slapping a samajhwala for insulting Uma, or seeing Atharv proudly telling the samaj that his mother is better then every father, today's scene just broke our heart.

About Vivi giving sad looks, that's just so pathetic. The girl was shellshocked! She was being stripped of her dignity in front of everyone. What was she supposed to do? Smile happily.

And Amna today I'm not going to defend Atharv. No matter what, he should not have just stood standing there and let Vivi go through all of that by herself. He has always been a wall standing in front of her and protecting her. Today, he disappointed me.

ViTharv are so broken. It hurts to see them like this, so formal and so far apart. They need to have a proper talk soon.


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