i need help- please read

Hello everyone,

i really need some advice, i am in my first year of university, as i am the youngest out of three children, my brother and sister both went to university in different places, (I live in preston but i study and live in manchester), and after so much aggro my parents have let me go to university to study as that is what i intend to do which is to study and gain a degree at the end of it like everyone wants. after realising that they have no one to shout and scream at for atleast 3 years, they are trying to stop me from going to uni next year, and are trying to keep me in their house with them and thats what i do not want- i dont want to live with them as all i ever get from them is shouts and swear words even for things that i don't do. they are trying to control my life and i wont let them do that. what will happen when i get married - will they follow me around then, thats exactly why i cant live with them because they are trying to control my life and to me i feel like i have no life at all- i want to be happy and i want them to be happy for me because isnt that what parents want- for all their kids to be happy??

well i dont know what to do now as i feel they are planning something to stop me from going back to university next year.

What do you think i should do now, if i speak to my mum and dad about it, all they willl do it try and talk me out of going to uni and to stay with them and get a crap job, i had others plans to actualy make something of my life and to be happy, but they cant stand the fact that i want to be happy in what ever i do, all i want to do is go uni, study and then get a good job with very good pay- is that too much to ask for? its not fair on me becuase they have let my sister and brother go but not me.

will some one please help me out and give me some advice as to what i should do, some people may think that i dont care or respect my parents but i do, its just that i have my own life to consider.

please help me.

Eesha.

Hey. Your story is similar to mine. I have learned to deal with it now...but i am not in university yet. I would still advise you to talk it out with them once. Let them know what you really want to do and why? Show them that you are capable of doing a good job at it as well. They should understand. This is your personal matter...i dont really have much say but yea. Best thing to do in such situations is talk it out with them.

Hope everything works out for you.
*hug*
Take care
Ekta

hey, thanks for replying, ill try to talk with them but not sure if it will make a difference to them, but i will talk to them soon.

I think if you talk to your parents, it will make them alert as to what kind of person you want to become. Tell them plainly what your ambitions and goals are, and I'm sure you guys will come to some sort of compromise.
Sorry, don't have much experience on the topic... I'm only 14!

thank u for your help and support, ill try and talk to them.

Eesha dear, I think you should talk to them.. like really talk to them.. because as you said you have to consider your life.. and you're right.. you should do what you want to do and what makes you happy.. and if studying in that university makes you happy then you should be free to go.. it is possible that they don't want you to go because you're the baby of the family and with you gone they'll be alone..I'm not sure.. but still try talking to them

Avanti

i think that if you try talking to them and tell them openly what your dreams are and that they have to let go of you and let you become what you want to be, they'll have to agree. you should tell them that you have to go to college to go ahead in life, get a good job, and settle down in life, they can't just keep you at home for everything anymore. they have to let go of you and learn to accept the fact that you have to move on in life. i think you should just sit down with them and have a real conversation and discussion about this with them, and everything will be alright..
hope it works out for you :]

Originally posted by: Isha_786

hey, thanks for replying, ill try to talk with them but not sure if it will make a difference to them, but i will talk to them soon.

it will make a difference to them hun. It seems like it doesnt but trust me.....i am the oldest in the family but i go through the same problems every single day. They yell at you and everything out of frustration but they still love you. You just need to prove to them what you can do if given a little time a freedom. You let them know that you will make them proud. Trust me.....even if it takes more than one try, dont lose hope...hang in there....remember that song by Hillary Duff?

"The tide is high but im holding on, Im gonna be your number one"

Just hang in there sweetie....everything will workout...just make sure you are really strong about this whole thing...dont break down..it will push you into depression....i've been there...its not a pleasant experience..

You can always PM me with your reply if you don't want to reply here.😊. If you need someone to talk to, i'll be here. It may sound strange but hey, We are both going through the same problem....I can understand what you are going through.