Originally posted by: tia.o
Bijoy ka bas chalta to woh to yeh shaadi hi nehin hone deta. Kaun karega apni betiki shaadi aise insaan se? I won't ever let anyone I love marry a man who dances to anyone's tune whether it's his mother, father, brother, sister or best friend.
On top of it, he is a lier. Great. Tab to sone pe suhaga ho gaya.
Tia, i respect all your opinions, and do accept the fact that Dev is a liar. he lied when he said sona's reports were positive.
But on a serious note, did he lie about her medical condition? Did anyone ever ask him if there is an issue with Sona being fertile.? Did this thought ever cross the mind of anyone out there, even sona herself ? was there a situation shown where Dev deliberately lied to the family about her medical condition?
agree sona was admitted to hospital and the reports revealed her medical condition, if you all are saying that Dev should have told Sona about it and then let her decide if she wants to marry or not, then i would like to have an answer to this .
Does it mean that she should marry Dev only if can produce a heir? should her fertility become the basis of their marriage ?
To me personally, Sona has no choice here whether she wants to be a mother or not unlike neha. her medical condition pre determines it. only if her condition is treatable and if the procedures are successful then she stands a chance.
on the other hand, Dev had a choice . if being a father, was really very important factor to him, he could have backed off from marrying sona citing her medical condition ( though many of you out there will bash me for this, but knowing our Indian families, i am pretty sure Ishwari will never agree and even sona and her family would readily accept to break the alliance on these grounds, its a sad reality in our society)
He made a choice to accept Sona with all her flaws. All that mattered to him was to have Sona in his life and he took his decisions.
Today the whole fiasco of pregnancy is not because Dev -sona want to enter a phase of parenthood. Its focused on Whether Ishwari will accept this relationship or not if sona is not pregnant.
Today somehow i did not feel the connect of a father with Bijoy, rather than feeling sorry for his daughter who was shown false dreams he is more concerned about Ishwari's reaction.
Dev pe yakeen hona --- Ishwari ki approval hona, for me these two things are poles apart.
you are right , if Bijoy did really worry about his daughter, he should have never let Sona marry Dev, there is no point of being in a relationship where we are in a constant fear that it will break!!!
I will say the same to Sona also, agar aap ko apne relationship ko lekar itna daar hai, to aap ko koi haq nahi banta Dev se shaadi karne ki.
somehow i feel , Dev is not worried that he will break his relationship, rather he is more worried that Sona will move away from him if Ishwari does not approve. Woh choose nahi karega. last time, that was his call lekin is baar he will not get to call the shots, it will be decided for him and he has to oblige. That is his biggest fear.
All I would only like to say is as long as we fear that the marriage will break, it will never stay no matter, for how long we have been married .If we are living in constant fear , then it is better we call it quits or even best if we never enter into it in the first place.
Edited by randomramblings - 8 years ago
