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Viewers of Kuch Rang have a privilege - We see into the mother's need to hang on to her past, draw a kind of sadistic pleasure out of making her children feel guilty for being themselves, her flashbacks of Dev as a 8 year old (the list is long). Similarly we have been witness to Dev's new dilemma, his struggle to forge a new life with Sona, create new memories away from his troubled past and his sometimes almost inexplicable devotion towards his mother and his responsibility towards his sisters. We also see Sona's struggle to be someone she is not in her attempt to be accepted by her mother-in-law, make mistakes, ignore her partner and attempt to make everyone happy but herself.
We have a privilege of being privy to all their thoughts, their monologues, their struggles, their dreams, their desire and how it all interconnects. We see the entire picture or at least we can connect the dots and imagine what image it will form eventually.
But Dev and Sona only see part of the story.
Dev still hasn't figured out what his mother is thinking and doing. He is yet to figure out how he feels utterly happy one moment and next, he is desperately guilty. Dev still hasn't figured out how promises drop out of him like pennies and still he is not able to fulfil. He doesn't know why he has been saying sorry to Sona on a daily basis. He still doesn't understand despite his attempts to keep both his wife and his mother happy, create a balanced environment at home, things are not going his way. Everyone seem to be unhappy with him.
Sona still hasn't figured out why his mother in law is unaccepting of her while everyone looks ok on the surface. She still hasn't been able to understand why Dev is a happy husband one moment and the next - a crisis (small and big) ultimately fall on Dev's shoulders and he ends up feeling guilty for not being responsible enough while it is pretty evident to Sona that Dev does his best. Sona still has not figured out what is it that triggers Dev to start a fight while she knows he will end up saying sorry to her.
These are just the tip of the iceberg.
Marriage doesn't come with a manual on how to create balance of relationship (Sona and Dev's family, Dev and Sona's family, the Dixits and Boses and countless other relationships), how to get your mother-in-law to accept you in the first week after the wedding, how to keep your identity intact even after marriage, how to not be part of best bahu competition, how to be a good son-in-law, how to make decisions together, how to support each other, how to read between the lines, how to dispel everyday tensions, how to stay happy, how to find time for each other as a couple, how to adjust to the married status, how to become a team - which all husband and wives are. Just like many other things in life, you go with 'trial and error'. You try your best to not hurt each other but you will but eventually you will understand what hurts and you will know better next time a similar situation arises. You will try your best to balance relationships but you will fail many times but eventually you will learn and most importantly you will learn to act and think as a couple while also keeping your individuality intact.
Today, we saw Sona and Dev understand each other without arguing. Sona has an inkling by now that the room they share is probably the only place in which Dev and Sona can be themselves. Today, it was important for Dev to decide against their plans to go on a honeymoon. Sona should be hurt that Dev made decision without consulting her but this trip is not a deal breaker in their relationship perhaps. Sona can see bigger battles ahead for them. Dev already knows there are bigger battles (the secret he has been hiding from Sona). Unlike Dev and Sona from two weeks ago who would have gone to bed without reconciling, today they hugged it out. There is hope that they will eventually figure out things together.
