The reality of the show

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sheanuzz

@sheanuzz

Voyager

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Posted: 8 years ago

Well!! To say that this show has just dug up raw wounds is an understatement. I see that we have a mixed bag in this forum and some of you are not married or better still have not experienced the Ishwari kinds for mothers-in-law. Believe me, I had one such lady as my hubby's mother. I was a young inexperienced girl, who turned nineteen after marriage. My FIL passed away soon after our engagement and she was newly widowed at the time of our wedding six months later. The surprising part was that she was a totally different person before we were married and showed a different side after that.

My hubby was her favorite son and she was emotionally dependent on him even though there were two other sons. The things I experienced were so low that even though I was young I knew that it was wrong. Insisting that we spend all our free time with her, accompanying us on all our outings, sitting between us in movies, to name a few. The others I cannot even mention in this forum.

The reason for this post is to call out that there are people like Ishwari, who are emotionally dependent on their sons, especially if they have lost their spouse. It is unhealthy but very common in our country. Kudos to the makers for addressing such a rampant but delicate issue prevalent. It will make some of us uncomfortable and disgusted but it is the harsh truth. Some mothers refuse to sever their umbilical cords even though their sons are married. Mother and children bond is special but one needs to step back at the right time.

This is my experience and just wanted to share with you guys to help you appreciate what the makers are trying to address. Hope they deal with it sensitively without making it a slugfest between everyone.

Thanks for reading through. 😊

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dbrk

@dbrk

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Posted: 8 years ago

Felt sorry for you! But this is true mother's like Ishwari do exist. U rightly said its more so in those who loose their spouse.
I hope this serial is an eye opening to all such a mothers.
Greatest Irony of indian society is this inly that woman is biggest enemy of other woman.

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Rope_of_Hope

@Rope_of_Hope

Sparkler

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Posted: 8 years ago

felt sorry for u..yeah agree with u mothers like eswari do exist in real.. even i am eagerly waiting how the cvs going to handle this very sensitive issue hope makers wont disappoint us.

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Ammuty

@Ammuty

Explorer

Posted: 8 years ago

Thank u for sharing ur experience.. this is so sad that even in this century these kind of people exist.. I can definitely feel what u r gone through.. I have a miniature mil of this kind in my home.. the only change we can bring to the society is just make sure we wont repeat this with our son n dil.. we cannot change these old people..

Be positive and stay happy dear..

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dikshat

@dikshat

Voyager

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Posted: 8 years ago

Hi Dear..

Ur post subject made me come running as I knew there is someone who is ready to share some experience here with us...read it and got to know it was your own personal experience.

Its sad to know of what happened with you..I hope you are off these issues in your life now. 😊

I totally agree that its really common issue. I knw of so many close people who have faced this in their life and even more than what is being shown. And all these people are from different generations and not just one. Even from current generation I know of someone going thru the same issue.

This is a common and sensitive one...its really opening or reminding some people of something they want to forget about or don't wanna talk about.

As much as I feel helpless and sad listening your experience, I feel glad that you showed the courage to share it here with others.

We really need to accept that such kind of experiences are being faced by many and they need to be addressed and talked about rather than staying mum. Issues can be dealt only when spoken about.

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IshikaIshu

@IshikaIshu

Beginner

Posted: 8 years ago

I completely empathize with what happened with you.

Life of single mothers is very different, challenging and difficult than those who have husbands. A woman always needs love and support from a man- be it husband,father or son.

This show is showing to what extent a woman can go to secure that love and support. This show doesn't show typical and unreal Vamps.It is quiet embarrassing for few Mothers to see themselves in Ishwari. I hope this show and life teaches them a lesson and they improve and make life easier for others who are badly affected from their insecurity and jealousy.

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Destiny_015

@Destiny_015

Sparkler

Posted: 8 years ago

Thanks for the post. Read so many experiences regarding the matter on forum. Personally I get to hear about MILs all the time due to ny aunts and sisters xD But none comes close to the experiences here. I was not really taking Ishwari as too real but reading all this she seems to be a bit of a great matter in many houses. Kudos to the makers for putting light on it. Hope they deal it well.

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gmgi

@gmgi

Rocker

Posted: 8 years ago

Kudos to you for sharing your experience here. Felt really happy to know that the bitter experiences you had when you were still so young couldn't change you to a bitter version. You have come here openly sharing it so that it might give strength to another person in the same situation.🤗

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richa

@rcha_bhrt

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

It's really sad to know what you had to go through really no one deserves that.i hope you are happy now.

Thanks for this post.kudos to you to share your personal experience here. I got to know about so many real life mil like ishwari and even worse through this forum.

On personal level I have seen some and that's true they all are dependent on their son either emotionally or financially.

It's bitter but truth is women are the biggest enemy of women.

Hope cvs delicately handle this issue without any unnecessary drama it will help so many people around.