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Hi All,
I know the forum has been ablaze with activity in light of Dev and Sonakshi's impending nuptials.
What I wanted to discuss was Ishwari's psychology in all this. I know a lot has been said about her and I am certainly not sympathizing nor am I condoning her antics.
What I am going to discuss is what I sense in watching the episodes leading up to her "Acceptance" of Sonakshi and her obsession to bring Sona back into Dev's life.
From the start we have seen Ishwari brainwash/manipulate Dev to the point where his sole aim in life was to study to make something of himself so he could be the main provider of the family. It was ingrained into his psyche that he had to take care of them and cater to their every need - which he did so selflessly to the point he never really acknowledged nor explored who "Dev" really is, what are HIS hopes, dreams, desires?
Not to mention the status quo on all this was that Dev and his mother were a team a special unit where they "understood" each other so well and Dev treated Ishwari has his "God". Interestingly Ishwari never challenged that pedestal - she never tried to bring herself back to normal human status with flaws - Dev made her his god and in turn she believed (perhaps subconsciously) that she IS his God. She brought him into this world, she made him so he must obey her every command.
With Sona's entry this status quo was threatened and that's why despite knowing that Sona is a good person she couldn't handle having someone else lay claim to Dev's attention and affection. Initially I thought it was perhaps a bunch of different insecurities - feeling left out, a sense of loss now that Dev has someone else important in his life etc but ultimately now I think it comes back to economics.
Initially Ishwari didn't want Sona in Dev's life because she feared he'd neglect his business (in addition to all the other insecurities) but then she saw that Dev was on a path of self destruction with out Sona - as if the life had been sucked out of him - which in turn means monetary loss to the business.
That's probably IMO the biggest factor that titled her scale otherwise and she went on the "Redemption" path of getting Dev his "happiness" back by getting Sonakshi back. IMO she only did this because Dev can't function with out Sona now - so its almost like school days where she worked day and night to provide for the nessecary tools to study - She's using Sona as just that - a tool/toy that Dev now requires to continue functioning which in turn means financial gain for the family. Thats the same reason she wanted Sona to sign the prenup - her exact words to Sona's father "Dev has worked very hard to build this business, that's all our family has" - that's the bottom line - its nothing but self preservation with her - she's always treated her daughters differently - probably because she knows that they will eventually get married and move on in life - she has to cling on to Dev for survival - that's all she knows.
I just see Ishwari viewing Dev as a cash cow - more than love etc - the fact that he is her provider is her prime objective - that position/interest is to be protected at all costs.
