Easy to Say Difficult To Follow

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Posted: 8 years ago
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It is easy to tell difficult to follow. Bose family proved the fact.They are educated progressive( to boast)
and large hearted,civilised people. But the way they showed their real faces just made me yawn.
Instead of insisting on only Bengali marriage they should have worked out a middle way where important rituals of both cultures could have been listed out . Like in Brahmin marriage mangalsutra is so important and it should have been done.

Gat Bandhan nanad will do so where is the harm if Neha did it? Elena who is not even an own sister did it. I don't know if Bengalis do so. But it really would have made sense,if Neha did it.Iswari tolerated that also Neha said nothing. Dikshit's proved they really can be cultured and civilised without giving lectures to others.I won't count GKB as she is a separate entity.She is in a league of her own.

I exclude Dadi Bua from this since she is unaware of the things that happened prior to marriage. It must have been shocking for her to see no marriage rituals are happening as per their tradition. On top of it Non Veg thing. Though separate stalls were shown opposite to each other it still caused inconvenience for vegetarians.

Iswari's disappointment was shown on her face when Sona did not wear her lehenga. Poor soul. She must have forgotten that her smart daughter in law preaches but won't practice. Apna Lagoge is meant only for Neha but not for Sonakshi Bose.
Asha Bose though courteous did not bother to advise Sona to wear the lehenga or let Neha do the gatbandhan. And the Non veg thing. Dev said and she believed? She should have clarified it with Iswari and let the food matter solved amicably.

Bijoy Bose. I had nothing to say about him. He has least concern about the traditions or feelings of the groom's side.

On the whole except Saurav who sincerely apologised for the fish fiasco none of the Bose family members showed any regard for Dikshit's traditions or their feelings and I include Sona in that.Had she really wished she would have dealt with the non veg issue in a better way. After all she is completely aware of Dikshit's food habits. Now I hear she will fight with Dev after everything got over.
After all it is easy to shout at Dev Dikshit. Always.




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Posted: 8 years ago
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Dikshits didn't say anything during gatbandhan. If they would have said, the Bose family would have made Neha do it.

Mangalsutra portion was edited. If you have noticed, there was mangalsutra in Sona's neck after the wedding.

For the Non veg thing Dev convinced that his family will have no problem with it. And if they had, they should have told Dev or the Bose family about it.

It was really nice of Saurav and Elena to apologize for the fish fiasco.

In the whole episode, i felt bad for both Dixit and Bose family at some places. But these kind of issues arise in Inter cultural weddings... The thing that matters the most is happiness of the newly wed. And both the families were more concerned about DevAKshi, which was the best thing.


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Posted: 8 years ago
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Magalsutra wala sequence was edited out because in sbs segments they showed that dev is putting mangalsutra around her neck and about the lehenga in Bengali wedding (since the pandit must be doing the wedding as per bengali culture) bride wears a banarasi saree given by her parents and puts the saree which is given by her sasural or the groom known as lojjabostro on her head as ghunghat throughout the ceremony it is a sign of respect towards the sasural that is why sona put the chunri of that lehenga on her head as no saree was given to her but here one thing I would like to add that there was clearly miscommunication between the two families about their customs.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: JyotiBThakur

Dikshits didn't say anything during gatbandhan. If they would have said, the Bose family would have made Neha do it.


Mangalsutra portion was edited. If you have noticed, there was mangalsutra in Sona's neck after the wedding.

For the Non veg thing Dev convinced that his family will have no problem with it. And if they had, they should have told Dev or the Bose family about it.

It was really nice of Saurav and Elena to apologize for the fish fiasco.

In the whole episode, i felt bad for both Dixit and Bose family at some places. But these kind of issues arise in Inter cultural weddings... The thing that matters the most is happiness of the newly wed. And both the families were more concerned about DevAKshi, which was the best thing.


If you read my post thoroughly I mentioned some of the customs of Dikshit's also should have been included . Mangal Sutr if edited whose fault that is? As an audience I feel cheated for not incorporating the most important ritual as per the Dikshit's. They edited it it was there such arguments won't convince me I am sorry.
As for Gat bandhan if you say Dikshit's did not say anything I would say Bose's should have offered the chance to Neha.
If the bridegroom gives assurance for non veg and Bose's did not find it proper to check with Iswari I feel it is sheer negligence and disrespect towards Dev's mother.It is Asha's common sense that should have made her call up Iswari. Before deciding the food issue she should confirm with Iswari not the other way round.
It is the Dikshit's who are forced to compromise with everything. Period.
Yes issues will happen in marriages. But domination of one side rarely happens.

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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: Devakshilover

Magalsutra wala sequence was edited out because in sbs segments they showed that dev is putting mangalsutra around her neck and about the lehenga in Bengali wedding (since the pandit must be doing the wedding as per bengali culture) bride wears a banarasi saree given by her parents and puts the saree which is given by her sasural or the groom known as lojjabostro on her head as ghunghat throughout the ceremony it is a sign of respect towards the sasural that is why sona put the chunri of that lehenga on her head as no saree was given to her but here one thing I would like to add that there was clearly miscommunication between the two families about their customs.

I don't care for what was edited. I bother about the event that was telecast. So for me the Mangal sutr ritual was not included. That's all.
If Dikshit's sacrificed their whole marriage rituals like Barat ,Mangal sutr etc Bose's can show a little piece of concern and let Sona wear the lehenga . Wearing the Churi can never be the same.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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I agree to every word in this post..kudos to writer...bose parivar has been given a complete makeover since dtkl entry..
Except for asha and sourv all are out f character now..shocker s sona and her daddy dearest..guess cv s are trying to bring parallels like mas for dev and baba for sona..god knows what

A girl as sensible as sona shd sit with dev and solve veg non veg issue and not fight with him after math.. she has lived with dixit day for say 3 months Na ..can't she tell her Dada and elky that her aunty ji will feel dharm brasht ???

Den d lehenga thingy..she lectures Neha tells dev k wanna get ready for u he tells her he wants to see her in joda but still tis 140 iq gal doesn't get it??? It's deffo not d sona we are exposed to..

The most progressive family behaves they are true Bengali babu's ..ti Delhi m ek b shadi attend nHi karte kya? Don't dey know marriage m both family rituals come and stand important..who ll do what could hav been Discussed over a family meeting..

But most astonishing fact s dev and sona were totally disconnected from d happenings..both were like get us married yar tum log sar phodo..I loved this attitude of dem...aise h rahenge to sukh jeewan. Assured..
Fish drama was just Ott ..but happy when sona gave dat look to Dada...meaning kuch to discuss kiya h..rest k biwi se tana to Monday dev babu ko padega..he better get used to dis now

In all d chaos I hav started liking ish back...cv got der mission accomplished...she played hr part f dev Kush to I am happy well be it food fiasco or machi drama...
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Posted: 8 years ago
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I loved the wedding. But. It would have been times better and more progressive if they would have adjusted and bifurcated the customs from both the cultures. It was an eyesore how biased the wedding was. Boses were not ignorant IMO. They tried their best to make out of the situation. But its lack of talk from both sides elaborately on the customs , which is actually the rushed writing. Still. In the time span they had they put up a really good show. Easier for us to say but the makers have to keep the show working and unfortunately drama works for TRPs so all the situations made for clashes. They did good work. Ishwari have bent and bent throughout the wedding and all is piling up inside her, and she is soon gonna burst.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: flat_everest

I agree to every word in this post..kudos to writer...bose parivar has been given a complete makeover since dtkl entry..

Except for asha and sourv all are out f character now..shocker s sona and her daddy dearest..guess cv s are trying to bring parallels like mas for dev and baba for sona..god knows what

A girl as sensible as sona shd sit with dev and solve veg non veg issue and not fight with him after math.. she has lived with dixit day for say 3 months Na ..can't she tell her Dada and elky that her aunty ji will feel dharm brasht ???

Den d lehenga thingy..she lectures Neha tells dev k wanna get ready for u he tells her he wants to see her in joda but still tis 140 iq gal doesn't get it??? It's deffo not d sona we are exposed to..

The most progressive family behaves they are true Bengali babu's ..ti Delhi m ek b shadi attend nHi karte kya? Don't dey know marriage m both family rituals come and stand important..who ll do what could hav been Discussed over a family meeting..

But most astonishing fact s dev and sona were totally disconnected from d happenings..both were like get us married yar tum log sar phodo..I loved this attitude of dem...aise h rahenge to sukh jeewan. Assured..
Fish drama was just Ott ..but happy when sona gave dat look to Dada...meaning kuch to discuss kiya h..rest k biwi se tana to Monday dev babu ko padega..he better get used to dis now

In all d chaos I hav started liking ish back...cv got der mission accomplished...she played hr part f dev Kush to I am happy well be it food fiasco or machi drama...

. Thanks for catching my point. Generally in love marriages bride and groom together solve issues regarding the function and find out an amicable solution that appeases both the sides. But here it looks like Sona has misutilised Dev's love and concern for her and let everything happen as per her parents tradition and wishes. Since I am not a fan of lead pair together I can point it out bluntly though it hurts most of the members. Can't help it because FL is selfish to the core.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: --Destiny--

I loved the wedding. But. It would have been times better and more progressive if they would have adjusted and bifurcated the customs from both the cultures. It was an eyesore how biased the wedding was. Boses were not ignorant IMO. They tried their best to make out of the situation. But its lack of talk from both sides elaborately on the customs , which is actually the rushed writing. Still. In the time span they had they put up a really good show. Easier for us to say but the makers have to keep the show working and unfortunately drama works for TRPs so all the situations made for clashes. They did good work. Ishwari have bent and bent throughout the wedding and all is piling up inside her, and she is soon gonna burst.

yes Boses tried to make the best out of the situation. Everything went in their favour.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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A girl as sensible as sona shd sit with dev and solve veg non veg issue and not fight with him after math.. she has lived with dixit day for say 3 months Na ..can't she tell her Dada and elky that her aunty ji will feel dharm brasht ???

Basically this is the point that made Sona look like what she did through out the marriage.I mean insensitive selfish and unconcerned.

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