Sushant Singh Rajput opens up on what makes a relationship successful

Sushant Singh Rajput opens up on what makes a relationship successful

There should be no expectations, says Sushant Singh Rajput

Sushant Singh Rajput is busy promoting his next, MS Dhoni: The Untold Story, a biopic on the life of cricketer Mahendra Singh Dhoni. We sympathise with the guy because let's face it... it's not the best time to face the media as there are going to be many questions raised about his private life.

His recent split with live-in girlfriend Ankita Lokhande, a few months after announcing his wedding date (sometime in December 2016), made instant headlines. Moreover, he has been in the news for dating his Raabtaco-star Kriti Sanon.

It's never easy going through a break-up in full public view, and Sushant learned that quickly after putting out a few loaded posts on social media. Now that the dust has somewhat settled, he talks about how he dealt with the break-up and the new affair rumours. Read on...

Why did you announce your break-up with Ankita Lokhande on social media?

I didn't. I just reacted to the offensive reports that were going around. I have very strong Teflon coating on me (laughs). I don't usually get affected by what people say. If I make people feel good by the work I do, I am happy. If I make them feel bad, that's their problem, not mine. I can and will take care of myself. I don't get restless about what people think of me. As an actor, right now, when my film is releasing, I am thinking of the audience for the first time because there's a sense of responsibility. If we are claiming that we have made a very good film and they will be shelling out thousands of rupees, they should be entertained or see something they haven't seen.

Was it painful to shoot for Raabta soon after your break-up?

Breaking off any kind of emotional attachment, even though you know that it won't last forever, is a painful and difficult experience. But since I was doing something that I was very, very excited about, I could put a certain level of focus on my work. Also, I am keenly aware for almost every second that nothing lasts forever.

Any chance of you and Ankita patching up? It's obvious by some of your tweets that you miss her.

It's like thinking of the future and not knowing what is going to happen next. I am just focusing on the day-to-day affairs. I am busy with my work and that keeps me going. I about the future. I do think of the past and I know that there are very few things I will remember when I am dying. And this relationship will be one of those, because it has defined me in a way nothing else has for so many years. I cannot not be without it, it is within me... I am living with it and in it every day, so yes, I miss that obviously.

You were together for a really long time. You seemed to hold the key to a successful relationship.

The most important thing is trust and compatibility. After a certain point of time, you run out of ways of expressing your love, and you sound repetitive. You should have a companion who you can actually talk to, and have a very entertaining conversation. So, compatibility is extremely important. Lastly, do not expect anything from each other in a relationship. I don't expect anything from even myself. You should be happy because the other person is happy. You are just figuring out ways to make him or her happy so you become happy. But there is no way that you will be in a relationship and be psychologically secure because one thing that is inevitable in the future is: Yeh toh jayega... Sab kuch jayega... You are aware of it though you don't entertain the thought. So, if you are craving for psychological security vis--vis the future then there's going to be a problem. You should be just living in the moment, be here right now, just trying to make the other person happy and think of the moment when you will be happy. Think myopic.

It is largely believed that your linkup to your Raabta co-star Kriti Sanon is a publicity gimmick. Comment.

I was linked to Parineeti Chopra also before that when I posted a pic of her and me on Instagram. Kriti is a very, very good friend, but that's all. I feel really good about myself that I am interesting enough to be written about (laughs). There were many speculations, but unfortunately they were not true. First, they said Kriti is the reason why I broke up, then they wrote it happened post that during the shooting and then they said it's a PR stunt. If this has to be anything, except acting, that I would have to do in order to sell myself as an actor, then I would leave acting in a second.

What is your biggest fear?

My biggest fear is losing my loved ones. I lost my mother when I was very young and I was not expecting it. I was not ready for it. Of course, nobody would be ready for something like that but, when it happened suddenly, it changed everything in my life. Then you realise how temporary everything is and there is one truth and that is: everything is going to change whether good or bad. The only thing we strive for is permanence and security which doesn't happen, so there is conflict.

After one film last year, today you have four...

Six actually. After Dhoni and Raabta, I have Chanda Mama Door Ke, Homi Adajania's Takaddum, Tarun Mansukhani's next and a biopic on Paralympic gold medallist Murlikant Petker. Why I picked these films is not because I have a story to tell and people should know about it, but because I can't relate to the characters. I don't understand them but I want to understand them, nor have I done them before. The most important thing for me to sign a film is just the excitement and nothing else. I do characters that challenge me.

You come from a television background...

(Cuts in) I have actually come from theatre (smiles) so it was five years of that, two-and-half years of TV and then movies...

Ever thought of doing something on TV once again?

Why not? I have realised that TV has such an immense reach which films cannot touch. The sheer potential is tremendous. I love watching Hollywood serials and right now I am watching Narcos. I got hooked onto Hollywood serials with Entourage.

Which Hollywood serial would you like to do an adaptation of?

One serial that stayed with me was Dexter. I would like to do that. I have never done an out-and-out evil or dark character before and I would really like to explore that genre once. But in Raabta my character is animalistic, less human and more animal " so yes, you will get to see something different from the good boy image that people usually see me in my films (laughs).

Rapid Fire

Beyonce or Rihanna

Rihanna because even when I don't know it's her song I still listen to it because it is so good.

My song of the moment

Closer by The Chainsmokers

Flirty or intense romance

Intensely flirty

A quality that draws you to a woman

A sense of humour

A quality in a woman that puts you off

Self-obsession

Three qualities of your ideal woman

Sense of humor, intelligence and compatibility

Is there a Miss Perfect?

No

Live in relationships are...

Okay

Can you describe yourself in five words?

I am still figuring out...

One professional mistake you will never make?

I will never do a film because of anything else other than the film itself.

People you trust completely?

I trust myself completely because that's the only way I can operate. Then there's my friend Mahesh (Shetty) who was there with me in my first TV show Pavitra Rishta and he has stayed my closest friend for the longest time. That's just me and him. I genuinely have a strong tendency to trust few people.

An average day in your life?

Very exciting!

One mantra you live by

He who thinks he can and he who thinks he can't, are both usually right.

A quality you wish you had?

I wish I could just completely let go and not take myself so seriously but it still creeps in every time somebody praises me. I feel good and then I realise that they are reacting to somebody else and not you. When they criticise me, my first reaction is Oh really?'

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