Dear All,
Hi! While I appear to be new here, I am not at all new because I have been regularly reading posts on this particular discussion board, namely because I enjoyed watching Jhalak Dikla Ja and the many controversies it has elicited in this site. And while I've been reading almost every post, I have been mostly amused and amazed by the responses for the show and I felt that now that it has ended, I wish to place my own reflections. So please bear with me while I ramble and touch upon several items pertaining to the show.
First and foremost, I am amazed by the people who come here in partake in the discussions that revolve around this particular show. Everyone always has something interesting to say, albeit it may be offensive to others or just plain amusing. Nevertheless, I've enjoyed reading everyone's thoughts regarding the show because it is a true embodiment of Indian democracy and the fact that each and every one of you is capable of taking a stand and defending it. I must say that I am proud of the Indian people. No matter where you guys come from, all of you are connected even by something as mundane as a television show and that is truly commendable. Of course, the credit lies in Vijay Bhatter who has taken the time to create such a wonderful site so hats off to Mr. Bhatter.đ
Next, I am slightly ashamed to see that despite everyone is taking a stand and defending it, there is so much negativity going around and being thrown at members on the site. Please, if you wish to argue about something, do so civilly. I am disheartened to see that members are being attacked when it is their arguments that should be attacked upon. This is fallacious arguing and just not right. Do no attack someone's age, education, gender, likes and dislikes. It is highly unreasonable and renders your own arguments rather defunct. Not to mention that it is hurtful and rude. So please, guys, respect others. While we gripe about the attitudes of judges, hosts, and co-contestants in the finale, we are forgetting that we are also stooping to that level by behaving just as childishly.
Now that I've preached to the choir, it's time I indulge myself in griping about the show after refraining so long from doing so.đ
About the wildcard entry, well, I just have to say that although quite unfair to all contestants, it has happened and there is pretty much nothing we can do about it. We can question the integrity of the show, Ekta Kapoor's influence, and other hullabaloo that has been thrown in there, but what's been done has been done. So guys, let's just put it in the past and not bring it up repeatedly everytime we rant and rave.đł
Next, one of the other things I've noticed in the show that I felt a bit strong about was the attitudes of the contestants. I have to say that when one joins in a contest, one needs to show more humility. It doesn't matter whether the people are celebrities and aren't shy in front of the cameras. There still needs to be that humility/humbleness. Repeatedly, I've found myself disliking contestants for talking back and griping over their low scores to the judges. I feel that when judges point things out, contestants should listen, accept their marks graciously (no matter how unfair they believe it is), and review their performances so that they can see where they made their mistakes and try to fix them. One particular moment that I liked was when Shiamak had pointed out Prachi's "ugly hand movements" and the next week, Deepak had graciously pointed out to Shiamak that he had looked over their previous performance and that Shiamak had made a mistake because from Shiamak's view, it looked like Prachi was doing the "ugly hand movement" but really wasn't. Shiamak gracefully accepted that that could have been the case and together, they left it at that. Now, that was truly a wonderful communication between the contestant and judge. That showed respect, humility, and desire to learn. So I was proud of Prachi and Deepak for that humility.đłđ
Speaking of humility and graciousness and whatnot, I have to say that I was highly disappointed with the attitudes of the judges, hosts, and co-contestants towards the winner of Jhalak Dikhla Ja. It most certainly, in my opinion, was very very rude no matter which way you look at it. Several posts who felt that it wasn't have mentioned that it is freedom of speech. While everyone has the freedom of speech, there is also something called "social ettiquette." People are allowed to have their own views and whatnot but there are certain times and certain places for those views. It is just downright disrespectful to ignore the winner (whether or not she deserved it, which is a highly different matter) and hurt her feelings by proclaiming that she really isn't the true winner. Please, if you are unhappy with the fact that Prachi Desai has won, then it is alright to feel so. But there is absolutely no need to attempt to hurt feelings along the way. It is very immoral and not nice. Although initially not a Prachi fan, I was nevertheless hurt to see the attitudes that had sprung against her. She did not deserve that kind of rudeness. And being a Jay fan, I am proud to say that Mr. Banushali and Ms. Desai have truly shown what it is to be humble, polite, and gracious. These celebrities are true winners in my eyes because their overall presentation in the show from the very beginning have been commendable and applause-worthy. So hats off to Jay and Prachi.đ
Anyways, since this is getting too long, I guess I'll end here before all of you fall asleep on me (lol). But on a final note, I just want to say that this has truly been quite a journey. You guys have really done a lot and I've just been feeding off on the entertainment that came in here. So hats off to you guys too for the rant and raving and just the effects of being a one huge family. You guys are just to great. Now excuse me, I just noticed that there's a Prachi and Jay party going in the forum.đ
Sincerely,
Kazeena
Ye Hai Mohabbatein
Mangal Lakshmi
