I want Suman to...

I want Suman to take a stand for herself, she should've taken right from when she was a child... she gave that leniency to her family where they could emotionally blackmail her... if she could've gone at least for some things against the family for which she felt right even when everyone else felt wrong... then she would have never faced this day... we can't influence others opinion about us but at the same time we must never belittle ourselves which Sumo has been doing for years inhibiting the feelings of her being nothing more than a burden to the Tiwaris...

Originally posted by: --Amulya--

I want Suman to take a stand for herself, she should've taken right from when she was a child... she gave that leniency to her family where they could emotionally blackmail her... if she could've gone at least for some things against the family for which she felt right even when everyone else felt wrong... then she would have never faced this day... we can't influence others opinion about us but at the same time we must never belittle ourselves which Sumo has been doing for years inhibiting the feelings of her being nothing more than a burden to the Tiwaris...

Life is not just for pleasing others... when she was the one who was the first victim of losing her parents, all her relatives including Nanu couldn't fill up that space... She would have had entirely different personality if her parents were alive... but still even though it isn't right we must be able to be selfish at times as every moment of our life is lived by us when everyone else is either a co-artist or just a mere spectator...

I din't like that Suman is now fighting for space with Aditya who knows nothing about her or her life... she should have been stern with Nanu, Shravan and other family members right from the start they being the persons who knew her the utmost... yes, she fought with Shravan for her rights during their teenage years but now she seems to prefer listening more than expressing... and let alone her other family members she could never be upfront even with her Nanu dearest... if she would have been then this day would have never happened in her life...

I so don't want Shravan to be a saviour of her life when he himself isn't much better... I want Suman to take a stand for herself this time not only with Aditya but with everyone else too... if she wants she can repent later for hurting her family but at least at that crucial moment where she would feel like trash, I want her to release all her emotions that everyone made her go through including Mami, Nanu, Shravan and Ramnath. I so want her to be loudest to the world on that D-day... getting rid of Adi by herself. I want to hear those dialogues which were uttered by Shravan near that bonfire from Suman. Those dialogues would suit her too perfectly.

I would agree to everything except that Shravan also deserves this from her. We see him hurting her because he's more verbal and aggressive, but I think in this phase she's mostly been the one to push his insecurities to the brink and make him what he has become today. I'm a complete feminist and also loved Suman's character but in this track her complete inability to know how to handle Shravan, the sudden cold attitude and refusal to communicate with Shravan has led to this avatar of him. I've read a lot of posts saying she should just call off the wedding (which I agree with), and move on from Shravan- initially in this track he tried his best to reach out to her despite her constant rebuffs and pontificating lectures, dude everyone has a limit. I think she should call off the wedding and sit down and talk to Sheavan about how they cumulatively screwed up their beautiful relationship.

Ps- I find the macho displays of ML to express his anger not in the right and also at the end of it becoz ppl remember that and brand him not worthy. The many emotional scars given by FL get completely overlooked. No offense, this is just my POV. I agree with everything else in the post.

I would like to repeat my lines from last few days that Suman never did something which made Shravan rise his hopes for her... she never led him and so I felt that he's solely responsible for his emotional scars...