I m hating that I hate Raman

i always wanted Ishra to be together.But cv's are making me to hate the character Raman and at the back of mind i started feeling that he doesn't really deserve ishitha .The words shagun and Raman are using 'asli maa ' are hurting more becoz ishitha didn't give birth to any of her children and though Pihu is her biological daughter ishitha didn't have any rights towards her and to the worse Pihu doesn't even know who he real mother is.whenever I think about this I'm starting to hate Raman more becoz he was the one who made the shagun the surrogate mother of ishra's child.if Pihu was born to ishitha it would have been slightly acceptable and even if Raman and shagun say the asli maa words it won't hurt so much.As a female my heart goes to ishitha and I can't the see the character ishitha being insulted again and again for her infertility I blame myself for being attached to the serial.
I m seriously worried how they are going to redeem Raman's character.