Yes, we all know that Dev is on a quest to discover what love is, which he will soon figure out. But today, I'm talking about his love for his mother, Ishwari. The scene between Dev and Ishwari was brilliant. Their conversation was an emotional & a beautiful one, where a son was comforting a mother who was not at ease. Dev & Ishwari are very complex characters. Like mother, like son!
While Ishwari was arranging Dev's clothes, Nikki being young & naive said "Aap dekhna yeh sab bandh hoga!". To Ishwari, it's something that she's been doing it for years & it's was a daily routine for her & she asked Nikki in a surprised tone, "why would it stop?" And Nikki said, "because Natasha will be here soon! She'll give the clothes for laundry, she'll give the money, she'll keep the clothes in the cupboard & in the night she'll wait for Dev bhaiya, so he'll eat food with her, and all the work she'll do with him, therefore she'll (Ishwari) be free". As Nikki was jabbering away, we could sense Ishwari shattering down. The thought of someone else doing everything for Dev left a huge gaping void in her. She felt as if her place in Dev's life would be taken/snatched away. And she froze when Nikki said Dev bhaiya has fallen in love. Like it was the most frightening moment. Why isn't she happy for her son? Shouldn't Dev fall in love? What has he ever done, for her to feel this insecure?
Ishwari's love for her son is something that I'm unable to comprehend. She's possessive & wants her son by her side. But why? What's the need for this constant attention when he's giving it to her? Why should she be over protective/possessive about him? I know that there are mothers who yearn for their sons love & that's because they aren't getting any. But in Ishwari's case, he's been the perfect golden child for her. He worships her. He's put her up on a pedestal & does everything for her.
Ishwari knows that Dev is not very keen about the engagement & is still confused. When he came to her, with a forced smile, she told him that she's always there beside him with whatever decision he takes. To which, Dev said that he wouldn't take any decision without her consent & which doesn't involve her happiness. She was Dev's top most priority. She wanted to see for herself if he was sure about the engagement. Yes, she'd given him the right to decide, so she ought to be happy with his decision but she clearly wasn't.
A very emotional Ishwari wants him to remember the promise that he made when he was young, when he said "Main khabhi shaadi nahi karoonga" and Dev tells her to save her tears for Neha, Riya & Nikki because they'll leave the house one day & he'll never go away from her. He assures her that he'll stay with her. When Dev is being so honest with her, why doesn't she trust his sincerity? Why does she feel sad? Why isn't she elated that her only son was to be married soon & finally he'll have a life partner with whom he can share his dreams & goals with?
She's still not content & further probes by telling, that there'll be someone else in his life, his life partner, his better half, to which he'll have an everlasting right. Dev replies saying, right is over property & not people. He tells her I'm your son & you've been the most important person to me. How much ever Dev comforts her, she isn't going to be pacified. Sometimes, I feel sad that Ishwari never really understood her son whom she is so proud of. I feel he was caged in her over-protective cocoon that he really didn't see anything else other than making his mother & sisters happy. Keeping Ishwari happy & content is 'Love' for Dev. He adores, respects & protects her. He's ever ready to go to any extent to make sure his mother is well. Doesn't care if it's right or wrong. End result is, his mother should be happy! And if ishwari ever wanted happiness for her son, she should stop tying him down with her emotions & must learn to let go a little.
A man loves his sweetheart the most, his wife the best, but his mother the longest - Irish Proverb
P.S I think there's more to this possessive side of Ishwari which hasn't been unveiled yet..
-Aksh-