Toughest era in relationships

Its easy to earn and get into relationship... but after the first wind wipes off the dirth the real relationship attributes come in play.

Debate is

Is it easy to get into a relationship or to maintain a life long bond?

Its perfectly clear in my mind...when arealtionship is formed its by chance or u havnt even re4alised that u n the other r into a realtionship u dont have to tell the world but u know within u n the other one...its always tough when u know realtionship is there and u have certain expectations or commitment to stand by each other that u tend to succeed in fulfillign and many times fail with the changing circumstance and our changing behaviour patterns...

I think in a family is a unit where, each has a responsibility n each learns to love and live in a bond of sacrifice.

Marriage in India, love and arrange does not give this opportunity to know your to be partner before hand. hard once you get to start living together. My friend told me that lots of adjustments happen his life during intial phase. 😳
I think if someone live together there is intial passion and attraction, bt thn you are also exposed to what it is like to really be with that person, can you really stand him/her..no faking business.
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Its tough these days especially since people dont trust easilly and especially the girls.. who are veri sceptical about the guys...the commitment etc....

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

Its tough these days especially since people dont trust easilly and especially the girls.. who are veri sceptical about the guys...the commitment etc....

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If I say anything more I might get a warning😆😆😆

Originally posted by: raj5000

Debate is

Is it easy to get into a relationship or to maintain a life long bond?

Imagine you are at Disney World or a theme park and you want to get on a monster roller coaster ride. Well the line is long and you may have to wait for 2 hours in hot and humid weather condition and you don't mind because you are looking forward to having a thrill of the lifetime on that ride. Finally your turn comes and it happens - You are thrilled and excited to be sitting in a cage ready to go and this is what you have to expect.😛

and finally .

You decide. which is easier, waiting in a line for 2 hours or going thru the ride with the possibility of the person sitting next to you throwing up on you.😃

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

Its tough these days especially since people dont trust easilly and especially the girls.. who are veri sceptical about the guys...the commitment etc....

Arey arey ......... why only girls............. guys are same ? 😆

but agree ..these days people don't trust easily , sometimes even after marriages. which is unfortunate but true. and there is a reason behind it.

now most of us know general views of both genders , and then we generalize it .. which not necessarily be true in every case, however make people cautious about others. 😊

Too many people start a relationship for the wrong reasons. Some marry due to parental pressure or just for the sake of it. A lot of dating also starts due to physical attraction. When forming relationships people do not give time for an emotional bond and trust to develop. Which is why most relationships fizzle after the initial spark or first phase of something new and exciting.

My advice to improve relationships. Do not date based solely on attraction. Try to find people you connect with at a emotional level, can converse with, can socialize and enjoy with. Even if it does not lead to long term romance you will have more fulfilling relationships.

When deciding to marry someone do becuse of pressure of any sort. Do it when you internally feel ready for that commitment. Make sure it is someone you truly care for. Sometimes you do not want someone you cannot live without, but actually someone you can live with and want to.

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

Too many people start a relationship for the wrong reasons. Some marry due to parental pressure or just for the sake of it. A lot of dating also starts due to physical attraction. When forming relationships people do not give time for an emotional bond and trust to develop. Which is why most relationships fizzle after the initial spark or first phase of something new and exciting.

My advice to improve relationships. Do not date based solely on attraction. Try to find people you connect with at a emotional level, can converse with, can socialize and enjoy with. Even if it does not lead to long term romance you will have more fulfilling relationships.

When deciding to marry someone do becuse of pressure of any sort. Do it when you internally feel ready for that commitment. Make sure it is someone you truly care for. Sometimes you do not want someone you cannot live without, but actually someone you can live with and want to.

The last line was just beautiful girl, absolutely beautiful. You just summed it up nice and perfect 👏 👏 👏
I see a lot of relationships falling apart due to lack of trust and for some reason lack of tolerance as well. One has to understand that no one is perfect (except Aamir Khan 😛) in this world. You really gotta give each other chance to be themselves, open up, feel free to be what they really are and accept them if you feel something towards the relationship. I dont think this rough part is only during the initial phase, things do keep happening over the period of time and there is no 'good phase' in a relationship. You keep getting to know each other over the years, walking through rough and smooth patches in life, together ....till you die! For me, being in a relationship IS having that life-long bond, the bond which weathers a lot of storms and stays strong without ripping the core fabric off.

Sorry Sorry..double triple too many posts. Yaar it wasnt workin earlier, tried sending it and it didnt go through(thats what I thought earlier!) 😛

Solly 😕