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shruthiravi

@shruthiravi

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Posted: 9 years ago

I was 🤣🤣 when that lady told that dialogue. Yes the real characteristics of hus-wife is not mush, but the fight😆. Those everyday takrar where you end up telling why in the world I married you or I have been a fool I ended up with you.

See it is very unusual if a hus-wife doesn't fight or show atleast a displeasure in public. I am not talking about those big fights, but the small cat fights. See Abhay -Simmi. They are quite natural. Look at Jaya -Jaideep or even Manohar-Suhasini I will tell there is a problem. On the other side look Swa's mamu-mami , they do have meeti taqrar. When Asad was injured mami was asking she will again fight for farmers and mamu says of course. Mami gives him a look of displeasure.

Actually cat fights, small small displeasures are the proofs of a happy married life. It shows the freedom both parties have in the relation. It shows each has their individuality, they are liked for the individuality, but are respected for the differences also.

Look at couples who do cat fights when faced with a problem. They stand together. They sail through it together. Cat fights don't show lack of love, but existence of love. It is its absence that needs to be checked where beneath the surface something is hidden.

And another beauty was the entire symbolism of what Swa tells. You spoiled my plan, now Goddess spoiled your plan. Somehow I feel Adarsh will be inadvertently responsible for Swa loosing the case of Asad. Something he does to keep Swa with him ( Adarsh told about id card was to ensure swa doesn't work alone , but work with him) is gonna back fire in that case. Then Adarsh will be on the verge of losing Swa once and for all before Swa herself will come as she will need him to solve her problem and Adarsh can have Swa only by helping her solving her problem.

Another interesting point here is Suhas didn't know what is cooking between Adarsh-Swa while she is planning with Vanshika. She has just thought about making Vanshika her bahu, but in the role play Adarsh has made Swa his wife.

It is not bahu first, but wife. And this role play is going to come out in such a way most probably Suhas will have to do Adarsh-Swa marriage

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Sadie

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Posted: 9 years ago

You are right, more than love these small cute little nok-jhoks are what husband wives are known for but these nok-jhoks are what keeps a relationship as real as possible

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Jemimah90

@Jemimah90

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Posted: 9 years ago

@shru Constructive fighting that occurs within boundaries, or rules, that allow for emotional expression while avoiding abuse, strengthens a relationship.Its the need of any succeessfull relationship. These cute fights has a tendency to bring out our worst tendencies. But it can also bring out our best attributes once we work through the tough stuff. In this process, we get to know the good, the bad and the ugly of ourselves and our partners, and still love them. These cute fights tells us what is important for our partner, what they don't like, what they want, where their boundaries are, how flexible they are, what hurts them, and what they need to feel better. Discovering these aspects breeds a deeper intimacy and appreciation of the other. Fighting can be a growth process in which your self-understanding, and understanding of your partner increases. After we become comfortable in a relationship, it is easy to think our partner knows our mood, our needs and our wants. Some people even think they can, or should, be able to read our minds. Fortunately, these small fights dashes these delusions in an instant. When faced with someone who is clearly upset, and telling us in no uncertain terms that they do not agree with our point of view, belief, or behavior - it becomes blatantly obvious that they are their own person. Sometimes it is hard to recognize them at all as new sides of their personality emerge. It can be a scary sight. You increase your patience, care, and love by focusing on what is important - that you care for this person and want them to be happy (without losing sight of your own needs). Fighting is like forging steel. In the beginning, there is no strength or flexibility in the unrefined product. As it is repeatedly heated, folded and re-formed - like the samurai swords of old - a beautiful piece of art is forged that can withstand the shocks and strains of heavy engagement without breaking. Fighting demonstrates that you are human and not some perfect angelic being, or that you have the perfect relationship, or that you are above it all. It shows that sometimes you are in a bad mood, are stressed out, or just plain tired. It shows where in your psyche lay unresolved issues, whether they be for control, stemming from insecurity, power, from feeling helpless, or self-esteem, from not being acknowledged or respected. Whatever your issues, you are guaranteed that they will come up in an intimate relationship - that's just how it works. fighting is a useful function for healthy relationships. When done skillfully, an opportunity for a greater understanding and love for your partner is possible. Talking about it is easy. Doing is difficult.

Any relationship starts with cute nok jhok.. The irony at last which you said is right and i loved it..😊

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shruthiravi

@shruthiravi

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Posted: 9 years ago

WOW Gayatri 👏👏👏. How beautifully you have explained the cat fights. Completely agree to you. A relationship is beautiful when it has all the flavours not just sweetness. Too much of sweetness is diabetic which can lead to other health complications😆😆😆

About my last line. See our society have this problem of taking the girl or boy as suited by elders. Yes it is important, but the most important thing is the couple. Girl is going to have a husband, boy is going to have a wife. Are they compatible. Yes sometimes elders choice match with the youngsters but not always. In the case of conflict the girl's or boy's choice should be given preference as it is after all their life.

If they make choice and mess it up they are accountable so they themselves will make effort to run it smoothly. But if you make choice and it is messed up then when things blow up they will put the blame on you. Abhay will try to cope with Simmi, but when stretched Jaideep can throw out Jaya and say he never wants her back. What will Suhas do in that case.

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Jemimah90

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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: shruthiravi
WOW Gayatri 👏👏👏. How beautifully you have explained the cat fights. Completely agree to you. A relationship is beautiful when it has all the flavours not just sweetness. Too much of sweetness is diabetic which can lead to other health complications😆😆😆

About my last line. See our society have this problem of taking the girl or boy as suited by elders. Yes it is important, but the most important thing is the couple. Girl is going to have a husband, boy is going to have a wife. Are they compatible. Yes sometimes elders choice match with the youngsters but not always. In the case of conflict the girl's or boy's choice should be given preference as it is after all their life.
If they make choice and mess it up they are accountable so they themselves will make effort to run it smoothly. But if you make choice and it is messed up then when things blow up they will put the blame on you. Abhay will try to cope with Simmi, but when stretched Jaideep can throw out Jaya and say he never wants her back. What will Suhas do in that case.

@shru thanyu😳.. for me Whether its arranged or love marriage.. to make it work.. we have to put efforts.. many a times in arranged marriages if we are uncomfortable , i mean uncompatable we can blame parents and in love marriages we have to blame ourselves since its our choice.. so what i feel is ultimately its we who is going to live the life and its we who knows whats better for us .. Yes , parents also know , since from birth they always choose the best for us. But the marriage period is difficult to guess or decide as where will the things go wrong no one knows.. Some parents rarely understand and agree to this concept. Now the times have changed a lot., where racism , class , religion , complexion , caste never matters .. all that matters is heart to heart connection , compatibility , understan😊ding and how we complement together by filling each other and accepting with the flaws.

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pomegranate

@pomegranate

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Posted: 9 years ago

Before finding a husband, I think it is important to find a best friend first. nok jokes, cute fights, serious fights , romance, sweetness, masti, sensuality etc. all are essential in building a healthy marriage. marriage is one of those relationships where a little bit of everything needs to be there otherwise it is incomplete.

highlight of the episode for me was when Swadheenta gleefully smirked at whatever bad news Adarsh received. Her perpetual irritation with him is hilarious, poor guy tries so hard and she is still not impressed. what a breath of fresh air.

this husband-wife role play may entangle swadheenta and adarsh into a messy situation, but I want their wedding to happen under better circumstances. I know it is a serial but marriage in order to avoid a scandal will be the worst way to go about things and suhasini's reaction is still hard to guess.

Swadheenta may begin to melt towards adarsh after this mission but I'm looking forward to seeing how he collapses under the pressure. will swadheenta finally give in or would he have no choice but to speak up in order to save himself and vanshika from a miserable marriage.

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shruthiravi

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Posted: 9 years ago

@pomegranate Adarsh will be put in a fix and it is not going to be a easy marriage in any sense I am sure of that as this role play is gonna land them in serious trouble. It is Adarsh who got Swa into this role play so finally if something happens to her character because of this role play he will have no option but to stand up for her. My take is, it is that circumstances under which marriage is gonna happen.

And coming to best friend, reverse is also possible dear if you try. You can make your spouse your best friend if you put the right effort. Speaking from experience as a person who had arranged marriage

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beena1508

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Posted: 9 years ago

@ shrutiravi

You have excellently analysed and explained about the cute fights and nok-jhoks among couples 👏 👏

This role play may land them in trouble after all Ahuja is also out to harm them.But I really do hope that their marriage takes place after Swadheenta accepts it by her heart.

Thank you so much for your post 😊

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docdocgo

@docdocgo

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Posted: 9 years ago

Insightful Analysis Shruthi.

I would say ,not just husband,boyfriend or partner.All fights that we have with the people we are close to,help in strengthening the bond.

Most of our best friends are those with whom we can say things as they are,argue and then come back.It is blissful when both people are able to be their own individuals in a relationship.

Like in a family like Sinha's ,there is a no scope for dialogue between the sons and mom or even dad and sons.

evryone has to follow what Suhasini has set as rules of the house.

One either becomes a Abhay and goes against the rules or a Jaideep who crumbles within himself.Nobody tries to understand the other person's view or even fights for what they belive in.

Wherever people speak out their minds in a relationship and both the parties get the oppurtunity to hear out, things are healthy.No putting up formalities and niceties.

Respecting your elders and agreeing to everything they tell you is a big part of our upbringing.

Whenever we think against them, it is deemed impolite and ill-mannered.

But respecting and them hearing and understanding your point of view can go hand in hand.

But one has to fight for it.Things don't happen easily .

A lot of us,must have heard >"do this and don't do this" but noone explains Why we shouldn't be doing certain things? Whenever we questioned ,we hear an all to common "because I told you not to"

This is what breeds fear and dissent.

I like how one show is covering a lot of angles.

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pomegranate

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Originally posted by: shruthiravi
@pomegranate Adarsh will be put in a fix and it is not going to be a easy marriage in any sense I am sure of that as this role play is gonna land them in serious trouble. It is Adarsh who got Swa into this role play so finally if something happens to her character because of this role play he will have no option but to stand up for her. My take is, it is that circumstances under which marriage is gonna happen.
And coming to best friend, reverse is also possible dear if you try. You can make your spouse your best friend if you put the right effort. Speaking from experience as a person who had arranged marriage

would it be a hindi serial if they had an easy marriage? 😆

Adarsh won't stand by and let her fend for herself, he will speak for her and he better admit it that he is responsible for the mess.