My Problem is you - Swa to Adarsh

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Posted: 9 years ago
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I am happy that finally Swa spoke to Adarsh in a way so that he can have a reality check. He cannot stalk a girl simply whatever he calls it. Attraction, infatuation whatever. It is wrong and it is not helping Adarsh's image anyway.
I liked the soft realization in Adarsh's eyes when Swa was talking. Harshad did nail it. He needs to understand Swa works in his mother's office. As she rightly said she comes from a middle class family with a dream of a career.
And she indirectly told him by saying her middle class family status and her ambition to stay away, because she doesn't want the tag of a girl who has trapped a rich boy.
Yes it is Adarsh who has gone behind Swa. But because of the class difference the blame will be on Swa. Chori ne ladke ko phasaya. The typical way our society says it.
Simmi can still get away as her father also belongs to affluent society and Abhay he is willing to shift if Simmi wants it. But as I understood Adarsh he tries to balance it out and if Swa goes to his family just listening to him she is trapped. She will have to do a lot of compromises to satisfy Suhas. Adarsh in his infatuation is simply not seeing anything else, but Swa sees it.
So if Adarsh wants her, it is better he follows the social norms and get her. Else their relation will not have foundation. He has principles in his professional life. Time he followed something in his personal life too than stalking a girl.
And I loved the last symbolism once again another version of escalator symbolism. Swa on top of terrace and Adarsh below the ground. He looks up to see her and she looks below to see him. Once again on top freedom needs principles and in when you are down principle needs freedom.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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ur posts are amazing . yes adarsh shouldstop stalking swa
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Posted: 9 years ago
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@shru amazing post... actually adharsh is in his love phase.. When you are in love , you don't know what you do. Abhi he is not serious , but jab suha will tell him about the girl she has chosen for him.. It will red alert him. Yes, he needs to do lots of efforts and hardwork to convince suha and to make freedom confess,. Its not an easy task for both of them. and freedom is giving him the reality check coz first she belongs from the conservative society , secondly she hasn't got anything for free or we can say served in golden plate .. she has struggled for the position and respect for which she is here unlike adharsh who has got everything in readymade. So he must understand her POV and must try to see the situation from her place.. I sometimes wonder whether this position which adharsh is holding is due to his hardwork or due to his influential parents.😊
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Posted: 9 years ago
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@gayatri in Adarsh's case both would have played the part. Adarsh is not dumb anyways. But due to his influential parents he would have always got the right direction to go up. The best guidance.
What people like Swa lack is the guidance. I very well know when I wrote engineering entrance way back in 1999 there was no one to guide me. Yes my parents provided the coaching and all, but then they were in bank, so had no clue about engineering and in my family I was the first one going for a professional qualification. It was a struggle at that front. The right books, the right tutors, the special attention. All these matters in the final outcome along with your intelligence. And Adarsh would have never struggled for those aspects, which Swa would have.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Amazing post dear👏
I really agree with u...i also don't like it when Adarsh stalks Swa...or he clicks her pic without her permission...🤔
And Swa is also right on her side...she has a dream...and wants to fulfil it at any cost...she wants her family to feel proud on her...and she doesn't want anyone to divert her attention from it😳
Adarsh should understand Swa's POV😳
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@gayatri in Adarsh's case both would have played the part. Adarsh is not dumb anyways. But due to his influential parents he would have always got the right direction to go up. The best guidance.

What people like Swa lack is the guidance. I very well know when I wrote engineering entrance way back in 1999 there was no one to guide me. Yes my parents provided the coaching and all, but then they were in bank, so had no clue about engineering and in my family I was the first one going for a professional qualification. It was a struggle at that front. The right books, the right tutors, the special attention. All these matters in the final outcome along with your intelligence. And Adarsh would have never struggled for those aspects, which Swa would have.


@shru yes i agree.. But is this the only thing which swa lacks , i mean just guidance .. ? She needs more to learn.. She trusts everyone easily , she is innocent , she doesn't know the cruel world , how people can easily get manipulated.. etc. etc.. There are many chapters or you can say phases of life which she has to learn.😊
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Posted: 9 years ago
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@desirable thanks dear. Yes Adarsh has to understand Swa
@gayatri Swa is in a growing up phase. I would rather say from a girl to a woman. And actually Adarsh is also in that phase from a boy to a man. That's why I said they have to interchange position to understand each other. Because high society also have its obligations. Look at Jaya and Adarsh. Actually they are the one trapped in the mess. One pretends for everyone's happiness. Adarsh cannot pretend hence called a loser. In Swa's case I highlighted guidance because you asked did Adarsh reached the position on his own merit. During your study phase and all if you get right guidance you move in career fast.
But in Swa's case it is capitalizing on opportunities, which she wants to do. At this point Swa has got an oppourtunity to work with Suhas.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@desirable thanks dear. Yes Adarsh has to understand Swa

@gayatri Swa is in a growing up phase. I would rather say from a girl to a woman. And actually Adarsh is also in that phase from a boy to a man. That's why I said they have to interchange position to understand each other. Because high society also have its obligations. Look at Jaya and Adarsh. Actually they are the one trapped in the mess. One pretends for everyone's happiness. Adarsh cannot pretend hence called a loser.


@shru thanks😊
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Aside from adarsh's stalking and pushy attitude, he has quite a few nice qualities. I love his dynamic with his family and his aim at maintaining peace amongst everyone. he is smart, principled, and a responsible man but seems to lose his head when it comes to swadheenta. I wonder if writers purposely portrayed him like this in order to show character development and a change in thought process. writers can't possibly think his behaviour is normal.
it is obvious Adarsh decided that swadheenta is it for him, but has he considered all the adjustments she will have to make?. his family may be "nice" but it is still messy, bringing her into it will be akin to dropping her into a pool full of piranhas. before rushing into marriage, I hope writers explore these aspects. Adarsh is living in a fairytale world just like every other rich kid, I hope he considers the reality, class differences, and his mother before thinking of dating her.

Adharsh, in his relentless pursuit of swadheenta, is failing to see her POV but instead of being annoyed by it, I think there is a seperate kind of beauty to it. eventually, their POV's will merge and they will be able to see things eye to eye.

I liked simmi today, she is not a bad person but just needs good guidance. Her dad is a problem but if suhasini nicely explained things to her instead of being rude all the time, she would probably understand.

Ahuja may push adarsh and swadheenta into a messy scandal- I hope not. swadheenta cannot bare the brunt of it, seriously I hope the story does not take this turn.

BTW, I loved that scene where adarsh is standing below and swadheenta comes to the terrace. beautifully shot.

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Posted: 9 years ago
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Totally agree with you! Adarsh really needs to look outside his world of "love" (infatuation) for Swa. He needs to understand there are morals and principles associated with any sort of relationship and he can't just have it his way.

The first step for Adarsh to win her love is to understand her way of life and respect it without making her feel uncomfortable.

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