Marriage is the culture we have given to the world

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shruthiravi

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Posted: 9 years ago

Guys making a quick post from my mobile. But in yesterday's epi what touched me was the way Vishwamitra explained marriage.

The foundation of Grihasthmashram which is a very important stage in a human's life as per eastern philosophy.

Note that he explains marriage as the union of two souls, it is not something to satisfy our physical desire. I have heard very derogating comments like unwanted bandhan, licensed prostitution etc regarding marriage, when people uphold pre marital relations, live in etc.

Marriage is not that. Yes it comes with responsiblities that you need to take as a man and a woman for the betterment of family and society. You are no longer boy and girl. But responsibility is not bandhan. Why we always talk about rights an not duties. Marriage gives you right as individuals to enjoy all the aspects of it including physical relation. And it is not just about physical relation, it is an emotional binding between husband and wife where they both love each other, respect each other and enrich each other.

In real sense marriage gives more freedom to a woman than any live in. It gives more security to both man and woman.She is not taken as someone to be used and thrown away. But man treats her part of him. Not only physically, but emotionally too. Marriage is not only romantic, but in a good marriage the couple are each other's best friends also. Your tagline " Pyaar dosti hai, dosti hi pyaar hai". You need not marry your best friend for love, if you put effort you can make your love your best friend also.

So understand marriage for what its essence is. Not as a tool of subjudication, superior inferior etc. In this world to perform your duties , to stand by you in happiness and sorrow through marriage you are getting someone, a lover, a friend. So learn to understand marriage in the right spirit and use it for performing your duties to the family and society

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avalonhigh1234

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Posted: 9 years ago

Shruthi, Maharishi Vishwamitra explained the true concept of marriage that is true in any era but more so in these modern times .I often tell my younger cousins that their main concept of equality in marriage is overated.I ask them to name any relationship in this world{parent-child, siblings or even between friends }which embraces this quality. Every relationship to be successful needs these corner stones-Love ,affection, understanding, trust,forgiveness and most important of all , complete acceptance of each other. At what point does this thing about equality arise in such a relationship, where there is not an iota of domination or subjugation of one over another. All these would constitute a harmonious marriage and as a result a happy life.

I love this serial as it gives me food for thought and invariably your posts do the same. So thank you ,Shruthi.

Savita

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shruthiravi

@shruthiravi

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Posted: 9 years ago

@savitha our culture has brahmacharya a time where both boys and girls are supposed to be taking knowledge and not allow their minds wander in unnecessary direction. And in this period fundamental knowledge of Grihasthasharama is also laid. Currently we do not have such distinction. Only certain taboos that makes youngsters break the rule.

I am fine if a person doesnt want grihastharama. There are many brahmacharis and brahmacharinis who have dedicated their life to their passion. Art, politics, social service anything where they positively contribute to society

There are people who fall in love, but for some reason their love doesnt culminate in marriage.That's also fine because life sometimes give tough choices.

But what is live in. Here we are telling that we have carnal desire, but to satisfy that we do not want any responsibility. So where does that attitude leave us as humans. Marriage accepts the carnal desire in humans, but it is regulated using duties so that we dont use opposite sex just for mating. But we really build a new society based on values so that as a society we progress not just externally but internally also. We not only break the exertnal barrier, but break the internal ones

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radianteyes.

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Posted: 9 years ago

Beautiful post di and a beautiful explanation by Rishi vishwamitra , the interconnection of two souls .

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Frosty_Moon

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Posted: 9 years ago

Beautiful post shruti like always...
Yes your partner can be very good friend of yours..
Marriage is based on trust faith loyalty ..
Beautiful explanation dear...

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LadyMcbeth

@LadyMcbeth

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Posted: 9 years ago

The Greek philosopher, Aristotle, has said, "Man is a social animal. Society precedes the individual".

In an era of instant coffee, instant noodles and instant gratification, what Vishwamitra stated, has very deep meaning. Marriage is not just a personal matter. Neither is marriage just an institution, bond or servitude. Marriage is a social rite, a social norm. Marriage isn't merely a union of a man and woman. Marriage is a confluence of two families, their societies, their traditions and their values.

As an individual, it is committing to your moral and social responsibilities. It is creating a healthy, stable society, for yourselves and for your future generations.

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shruthiravi

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Posted: 9 years ago

@Ladymacbeth exactly marriage done in the right sense gives social security, a family raised with right values. And when each family is raised with right values there will be lot of positivity in the society.

Most of the ills of the present day society is the problems in this fundamental unit of the society. Marriage currently is seen as a subjugation tool by women because of lot of incorrect practices that patriarchy has propagated.

A beautiful bond's meaning is completely destroyed by the present day society with their actions.