i didn't find her selfish..she's just old fashioned...some mothers are like that..they feels girls needs to be taken care of and not share the burden of running the house..it doesn't mean she loves them any lesser..what neha said about working..it being a way of finding one's identity is something ishwari never thought of..her views are diff but she didn't force them on riya did she? even though she was not comfortable with the idea.
i think the characterisation of ishwari is the best thing abt this show..she's shown to be more human.
i find neha more flawed actually...there is so much bitterness in her and so much complex..she keeps harping about the sacrifices she supposedly did...and the way she keeps blaming ishwari for everything that goes wrong is so annoying..its easy to blame someone and difficult to own up to ur responsibility the way Dev does...
the only good thing i find about Neha is her love for the girls thats it!