Originally posted by: SmarterDesiKid
Do you think the kid, when grown up, be a better parent then his/her parent?
It depends on the child, how mature they become wen they r adult and how nderstanding they are as a parent, also society views are another added presure...also choice of spouse, other influences,,,all are factors so u can not say they will be better than his/her parent....everyone has different circumstances....and different family values as to how they bring up their own children.
Kids know what they go through at school, and when they grow up and have kids, they'd understand the same pain and not force their will on them doing things that would further pressure the kid...
yeah i also thought of this lots, but then think that our parents wuld have thought this too as a child, that they wuld b better thn their parents if they were forced to do something against their will. Like i look at these forced marriages, thinking no way culd i put my own child through this wen i had a kid of my own. we look at our pain and dont ant our children to suffer in theb same way and wuld want to do things differently, but then aagin all them factors come into it, situations, u neve rknow wht wil happen. yeah seen abt pressure too, other familes pressuring their children to do something, n my own mum havin seen tht, does not want that 4 us childen, so in some aspects parents better themselves from mayb their own parents or generally from other families around, in other aspects u can not hlp wht comes ur way.
Or will they be worse, because of changing times and surroundings?
A balance of both, Modern Upbringing, but also with their culture brought into their views i think a balnce of both is needed i feel.😳 Like e.g my faith teaches , dont drink, dont smoke, no s* b4 marriage that sort of thing is good to prevent ur child from goin haywire and thinking thy can do what they like. if u r too laid-back, u loose control of the child. And also its to respct ur parents, so in some ways we cna better ourselves but not entirely the roots of our culture will still be there.
Many people believe that kids should know their culture, but if the kid doesn't know his/her culture, and when he/she has kids, wouldn't the culture die out?
Yes and No, i think u dont have to know ur culture inside out, all the religious teachings and what not, but just the basic principles shuld b there to stop it from entirely dying out, 😳 but it depends on ur other half, how bothered they r abt this, if they r n ur not, then they wuld teach n vice versa, it wil only die out wne both partners are not bothered abt their culture.😳
So will Kids be better parent's then "their" parents? Or will "true" parenthood die out?
Time will tell😉
Kumkum Bhagya
