My Question : Your Answers!

Hello friends,😛
I have never posted here before, this is my first post! I was thinking about something the other day, and thought, it would be nice to get some other inputs too..so here goes!

Many of us are US born, while many like me come to US to study/work etc..while its an intially culture shock..we eventually manage to settle down. I have seen the high school situations here, and how much competition there is with in girls, as to who looks slimmer than whom, and who is prettier, who gets to date the football captain etc..which ends up making normal teens, look like mean girls, and many other teens, who are not perfect in many ways, end up getting hurt or outcasted! I have studied in India, and had a wonderful time throughout my school life..never faced any such situation where one girl would be the queen bee, and her pals would do and nod to anything she says..it was always a healthy frienship among all..which is what i think is in, most of Indian schools..what I want to know is..is it only in the movies tht they demonize the pretty girls of high school and how they plot against the normal kids, or is this what really happens in schools out here?

My other point was, i have seen, kids leave home when they hit 18..well, let me rephrase that, either their parents want them out of the house, since ther are adults now, or they choose to leave home, find their own apts etc and lead an independent life..I somehow, cant seem to understand , why its necessary for kids to quite living with their parents as they become adults...it save a lot of pain..firstly..if you are only 18, you are looking forward to college, and then you will have to work, to pay off rent n utilities, while if you r at home, you can fully concentrate only on studies..and nothing else..is it a good thing to be overloaded with work, studies etc at 18 or is it good to get a job and then move out? Atleast in India,ppl continue to live with their parents, for as long as they want to, only girls leave after getting married...but mostly guys continue to live, with their wife n kids n all..one big happy family (😃)..but anyways, my point is, is it right for the parents to tell the kids to leave the house as they hit 18? isnt it gonna be a tad bit hard for the kid to realise the harshness of the situation? How would it matter if the kid stayed on for untill he/she completes his/her school and then moves out...also on the parts of the kids..if you decide to move out after 18..is it bcoz you finally want to do wht you can or is it bcoz you have had enough of being treated as a kid?

Ok, I have asked my questions...and I would love to hear some comments from you guys!! I have head these questions in my head for too long..time to get some answers!So..put down your thoughts abt this...

Take care you all...
Sunaina!🤗

hey! okay here's my situation + thinking:

I was born in India, but left there when I was harld 2yrs old. So I am basically raised in the US and what you stated as "popularity & parent-kid situation" is the norm here. Personally, my parents didn't kick me out, but since college was far away, I had no other choice but to get an apartment near college. I have no problem with this, but since I don't have a stable full time job and also am a college student, my parents pay for most of my expenses until I can get up upon my own feet. With other kids, their parents perfer them to live outside and well "kicking out" seems a bit harsh, but there is always support from the parents side until their child is well off. I don't disagree with this, because here, people do end up living independant lives and if the child has a good start from the beginning they will be able to handle sticky stuations themselvles in the future. In my case, I still have about a year and a half left of college, and afterwards I expect to get a job, and if I do, I wouldn't prefer to go back to live with my parents (this is NOT stating that I don't love them, trust me they are my life), but I'd rather have an apartment to myself and work. Now when it comes to living with your parents until you're married [girls]: I think its totally fine, poor us have to leave a family behind after we get married, so hell might as well spend much as time as possible with them. [guys] I think its fine for both cases, and after getting married living with your parents/having your parents live with you is fine also. I think joint families are great and it gives a higher opportunity to bond! [now if your family is like the drama serials these days...thats another story...]
About the pretty girls vs normal girls rivalry... I think in general this happens everywhere, and with girls its more of an unspoken competition. With guys, Im sure they can just fist fight it out. I don't agree at all that someone should be put down according to their looks, but yet it happens.

Conclusion[hey, I just got done w/ midterm papers, still in the same mode...lol so gimme a break]:

I think its more about preference about what the child does at 18...I doubt the parents would drag their child out, but its more of a mutual thing. Lots of kids here want to get out of the house themselves. And if the parents agree and so do the kids, I don't think its a bad thing.

Living with your parents is quite normal, alot of people here make a big deal about it, b/c they are out and about at 18, but it doesn't always have to be this way. Honestly, I find it more beneficial to live with a family after marriage. Obviously if there are discomforts it should be thought about but for the most part I think its fine.

-Jhanvi

Yeah, see , i have heard ppl, make a big deal if they guy is living with his parents at the age of 35 or so..i dont see what the issue is all about? what does it show in US, if the guy lives with his parents for a long time?

Originally posted by: coolkitty_23

Many of us are US born, while many like me come to US to study/work etc..while its an intially culture shock..we eventually manage to settle down. I have seen the high school situations here, and how much competition there is with in girls, as to who looks slimmer than whom, and who is prettier, who gets to date the football captain etc..which ends up making normal teens, look like mean girls, and many other teens, who are not perfect in many ways, end up getting hurt or outcasted! I have studied in India, and had a wonderful time throughout my school life..never faced any such situation where one girl would be the queen bee, and her pals would do and nod to anything she says..it was always a healthy frienship among all..which is what i think is in, most of Indian schools..what I want to know is..is it only in the movies tht they demonize the pretty girls of high school and how they plot against the normal kids, or is this what really happens in schools out here

Okay, so, for me, i was born and have been raised in the U.S. and i've been going to school here my whole life. I think it's a kind of different situation for me b/c i never see any of that stuff, but i think it's mostly b/c i go to a private islamic school and for me, i'm good friends with everyone in my class, there's not just ONE girl that has rule over everyone else. It's more like everyone is friends with one another and everyone has a good time with one another. I've never actually been to a public school here in the U.S. and so i don't really know if that actually happens. I think it's more common among other schools b/c all the kids in my school aren't allowed to date b/c we're muslim, all our classes are separated from guys, so there's no reason for envy or jealousy.

Originally posted by: coolkitty_23

My other point was, i have seen, kids leave home when they hit 18..well, let me rephrase that, either their parents want them out of the house, since ther are adults now, or they choose to leave home, find their own apts etc and lead an independent life..I somehow, cant seem to understand , why its necessary for kids to quite living with their parents as they become adults...it save a lot of pain..firstly..if you are only 18, you are looking forward to college, and then you will have to work, to pay off rent n utilities, while if you r at home, you can fully concentrate only on studies..and nothing else..is it a good thing to be overloaded with work, studies etc at 18 or is it good to get a job and then move out? Atleast in India,ppl continue to live with their parents, for as long as they want to, only girls leave after getting married...but mostly guys continue to live, with their wife n kids n all..one big happy family (😃)..but anyways, my point is, is it right for the parents to tell the kids to leave the house as they hit 18? isnt it gonna be a tad bit hard for the kid to realise the harshness of the situation? How would it matter if the kid stayed on for untill he/she completes his/her school and then moves out...also on the parts of the kids..if you decide to move out after 18..is it bcoz you finally want to do wht you can or is it bcoz you have had enough of being treated as a kid?

Ok, I have asked my questions...and I would love to hear some comments from you guys!! I have head these questions in my head for too long..time to get some answers!So..put down your thoughts abt this

For ur second question, yes, that does happen a lot here, but for my family, call us old fashioned or whatever, but the girl lives with the parents until she's married and the guy usually lives with the parents even after marriage. I mean, take for example my sister, right now, she's in college. My parents won't even let her get an apartment or live in a dorm b/c they're soo protective of her. They want to keep her as close by as they possibly can until she gets married and has to move out. I've seen that happen a lot with my friends and family. Most of the times, with most of the families i've seen, the child usually stays with the parents even after 18. I think i haven't really seen much of that happening here b/c most of my friends are muslims and desis and they have the same perspective as me and my family.

Why, no one seems to be commenting?? its a general question....come on guys! 😳 😳

For the frist Q
Well...Uh, I'm kinda not sure if it happens in my skool. I neva went to skool in Bangaldesh, but I was born there..Btw, in mi skool there are popular groups nd stuff. But The popular groups dont rule the school or the boys to be honest. Most of them are kool and fun to hang with. Howeva yeah there are some very annoyin ones who think they can do just about whatever they want. But in the end they get their A$$ kicked!
Haha...

For the 2nd one

I think its fine to live with ya parents...I'm so doin that no need to waste money by living by meself...Soo much hassle tryin to do everything on your own...

I am so glad to hear that..tht there are still kids around here who believe in living with thier parents..thts nice...